https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 22:23:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457626 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 03:22:33 +0000 lamariniere 2457626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's true in our case, if you compare from age 1 onward. My older LO has been really easy, he's very serious, obedient, pretty calm. My younger one isn't a terror, but she's definitely more difficult than her brother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457615 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 01:45:11 +0000 sandy 2457615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm the 2nd born and my mom always tells me what an easy baby/child I was and how difficult my older brother was from birth. So not true in our case </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457605 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 00:52:29 +0000 JessicaMcB 2457605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our second born girl is and isn't like this article all at once. She's an astoundingly good sleeper, her and her older sister get on famously and she generally is chill and not requiring a ton of adult attention. However, she is by and far my most stubborn child, she is wild and fearless in a way my old has never been and gets into the wildest/grossest predicaments if left unattended for longer than 2 seconds. I prefer to think we have been given the gift of second child spirit- she's our wild child but in a way that makes us all better for being with her. </p> [attach=1802/16/o2dcbh.600x400.IMG_9269.JPG] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457589 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 00:00:57 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2457589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my second is only 4 months, but he's more clingy, a worse sleeper, but overall has a much easier going personality. If someone's holding him, he's happy as a clam. My first was a much tougher newborn and has stayed pretty high maintenance. Add to that I had ppd/ppa with #1 but not #2, so I really have felt #2 is easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457565 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 23:32:51 +0000 sometimesshesings 2457565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This doesn't ring true for my family! My younger sister was MUCH easier than I was (she could sit quietly, hands folded, for an hour while I had dance practice when she was 2!) My husband was also much easier in temperament than his older sister (though, he did quietly make big messes). So far, our DS2 is an easier baby than DS1, but he's only 3 months old, so we'll see... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457379 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 19:30:46 +0000 MrsKoala 2457379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a second child and this is so not true for me. I was the easiest kid according to my mom and so easy going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457378 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 19:30:46 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2457378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that's true of me and my younger brother, but olive has definitely been easier than charlie so not true for them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457373 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 19:27:49 +0000 Boogs 2457373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This couldn't be more true for LO2. He is beyond exhausting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457325 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 18:30:02 +0000 skipra 2457325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! My friends and I talk about this all the time. DS1 is so sweet and really has always just gone with it. DS2 is much more opinionated and clingy. He is still very good but is more work and I have to keep a close eye on him or I could very likely find him swinging from the light fixtures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457301 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:51:01 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2457301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far, my 2nd is world's easier than my 1st! Which is great because I don't know that I could have done two super difficult children LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457278 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:22:38 +0000 lemondrop 2457278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both? My second is much more laid back about life, but he really is SO mischievous and delightful. He's got my number. Spend two minutes on my IG and the troublesome glint in his eye is pretty obvious. </p> <p>My first is much more cautious, and very picky about rule following- he is my personality twin. We've had much more work to do with communication, so his semi-spectrum status may be an extenuating circumstance. While E looks like me, he has my husband's personality. I'm in so much trouble with this one. </p> <p>Regardless of what each of our definitions are for easier/more challenging, we can all agree that each child is so different, not something I'd really thought much about before my second arrived. Not that I was expecting C junior, but E is SO very different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457264 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:13:58 +0000 erinpye 2457264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: haha both terrible sleepers, early nap droppers, and multiple tantrums a day here! My first may have even been more difficult, but I won't know until my littlest hits 2.5- that was the peak at which the tantrums were daily, hours long, and she hurt herself and us, and broke things. She's really a sweet and good child, they both are, they just have some strong temperaments ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457252 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:02:55 +0000 misolee 2457252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>great... you scared me! (due soonish...)</p> <p>This is actually my biggest worry. I've heard this a lot bc my LO1 was fairly easy and still is. I've seen my friends and their experience and am terrified about my 2nd.</p> <p>The only sliver of hope I have is I was an older sister to a brother and my mom has always said he was the easiest one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457226 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 16:35:05 +0000 Ree723 2457226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny how we all use such different criteria when determining which child is the more challenging one! Both of my girls have been good sleepers, although DD1 was a freakishly good sleeper from the start, but in terms of behaviour, that is where DD2 is the more challenging one! I am not exaggerating when I say DD1 has never, in her 3.5 yrs of life, had a tantrum; for DD2, they have been a daily occurrence, usually multiple times a day, since about 15 months. She is also the one to find the one potentially dangerous item in a room of a thousand baby safe items! And she's in the throes of the 'NO!' stage, again something DD1 never went through. It's funny how different they all are - can't wait to see how #3 is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457214 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 16:29:47 +0000 erinpye 2457214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not true for us- both of my girls are high-needs and challenging. And awesome :wink: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child/page/2#post-2457199 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 16:19:52 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2457199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol, sounds like my only! 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456922 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:31:32 +0000 anonysquire 2456922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh ya. My 2nd is so much harder. 11 months of colic. Ya....he's been hard. But he's so dang cute that I can forgive him for crying all day, everyday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456916 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:29:14 +0000 cat620 2456916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My experience is the opposite! My oldest son is my tougher kid by far. He is always pushing my buttons, was a very fussy baby, and didn't sleep through the night until he was 18 months old! My second son is so chill and relaxed. He hardly ever cries, and he started sleeping through the night at 4 months old. The difference between them is like night and day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456883 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:16:57 +0000 mrsrain 2456883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a second-born, I disagree! I do think if you have a easy first-born the second is more likely to be challenging, but that's more a matter of perspective... A challenging first-born would probably make the second seem easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456750 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:32:05 +0000 HLK208 2456750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not for us!!</p> <p>LO1 has always fit the "curse" description, haha! LO2 is mellow, listens better and she doesn't throw as many tantrums.</p> <p>LO3 is turning me grey though! 😁 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456707 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:17:51 +0000 cascademom 2456707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Just remember that you've done this before. You know what they need and how to meet that need. You already know about naps and sleep. I had a great maternity leave with my second compared to my first. I was more laid back this time then last time. My perspective made a huge difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456695 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:12:35 +0000 gingerbebe 2456695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: I hope so! My friend's first was a really tough baby and she just had her 2nd and says he is SO much easier and laid back. I really hope we paid our dues with DS1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456691 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:11:25 +0000 catomd00 2456691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always heard second kids are easier! I was a second born and definitely way easier from birth through adulthood than both my older and younger sisters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456647 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:54:38 +0000 Alba4 2456647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a teacher, I do see a pattern of this, especial with brothers. </p> <p>I'm expecting my second boy. My first son is a dream... Seriously. He was a wonderful baby and he is overall very mellow. I'm praying #2 is just as wonderful!</p> <p>In my family my bro was the hell-raiser and I was the angel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456631 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:44:56 +0000 Greentea 2456631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wasn't true growing up- our eldest sister was something else! DD was not an easy baby, so hopefully it goes every other? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456598 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:33:45 +0000 runnerd 2456598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well considered that LO#1 fits your description of LO#2 curse EXACTLY, I am know really scared of #2 who is still baking :/ lol. I am banking on him being mellow!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456583 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:27:58 +0000 pinkcupcake 2456583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not true in our family - I was the firstborn and was the worst baby (colic, cried for 2 years basically). My younger brothers were super chill. My mom said she doesn't even feel like she raised them. </p> <p>Lo 1 was a relatively easy baby and a very easy toddler / preschooler. If the second is the opposite, I'm in deep shit -.- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456577 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:26:33 +0000 Charm54 2456577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo2 was a MUCH more challenging infant. But now at 4.5 months she's pretty easy, similar to her sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456568 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:23:19 +0000 erinbaderin 2456568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>True for me and my brother - my parents always say that if they'd had him first they would have stopped at one. But for my best friends their first was high maintenance and their second was so mellow that as an infant she'd put herself down for a nap - they'd just suddenly realize she was asleep on the rug. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-curse-of-the-second-born-child#post-2456547 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 11:17:30 +0000 Pancakes 2456547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 was generally what I would call an easy baby and is a pretty calm preschooler, content to play pretend, read books, etc. DD2 is the opposite...never sits still, always finding trouble, terrible sleeper, etc. So that article is definitely true for us! </p>