https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 18:23:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888450 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 14:07:47 +0000 LemonJack 2888450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely freaked out, and #3 was planned! I’m due in November, and am both excited and terrified. I see a lot of my friends finally getting out of the baby stage, and I’m definitely a bit jealous of how things are starting to get easier. But I also am so excited to have one more, and for my kids to have another sibling. I never felt complete before, and I already do. I can’t wait to get rid of the baby stuff as soon as we can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888431 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 11:44:16 +0000 graceandjoy 2888431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: So true, I feel like I already know in my head what I MUST have. and it's not much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888430 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 11:42:19 +0000 agold 2888430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: I've started to give away my baby items, even car seats and single strollers and such. But now with my second baby, I find that I am actually agreeable to using second hand items. So I figure if I have a third, it will be cheaper to just get back the necessities. And of course by now, I know what is actually a necessity and what is excessive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888429 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 11:25:44 +0000 josina 2888429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! I know what you mean about the crazy headspace! I had to take a test (I skip my period often with the nuvaring, and then half the time I worry that I'm pregnant, lol) and it was panic to think about seeing the :bfp: even though I'd be excited for another! The logistics of it would be terrifying, but the baby would be so welcome.<br /> I do think we're done though, although no permanent measures yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888425 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 10:54:31 +0000 graceandjoy 2888425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: I know, that's why I just give it all away cause it just gets too crazy! Hopefully I'll be able to get some hand me downs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888424 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 10:53:48 +0000 graceandjoy 2888424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I am def bracing myself for this pregnancy, I remember how tired I was already during my 2nd pregnancy. It is really sweet tho talking to my 4.5 year old about it. She was only 1.5 when I got pregnant w/ her sister, so she never really got to "own" the role of a big sister, like she is doing now!</p> <p>@LadyDi: Haha I think I'm already resigning myself; it's just too much and I have no energy to worry lol. I am so excited for you! You got this!!</p> <p>@agold: I knew when I found out about #3, INSTANTLY, that I really didn't want a 3rd after all. It's like I allowed myself to dream, to think maybe, precisely b/c it most likely won't happen so it's "safe" to just dream about or say maybe we do want one. But it is also true what everyone says, it's not like I regret the surprise either! It's a funny head space, I tell ya! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888423 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 10:53:32 +0000 Autumnmama79 2888423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: I'm 25 weeks, have kept all the baby stuff. Looking forward to finally getting rid of it all after this one. Theres a lot of stuff and it takes up a lot of space! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888421 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 10:46:34 +0000 agold 2888421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: Congratulations and thank you for posting this! I am really leaning towards not wanting a third, but also no permanent measures because I really really love the IDEA of a third. I want one if things were different. And the "reset" is pretty much my hard reason for not wanting a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888419 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 10:25:46 +0000 LadyDi 2888419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! I am due this week with our surprise #3. There's definitely a lot of worry and concern but now that I am about 6 days away from his arrival I have sort of resigned myself to the "we'll figure it out" mentality. My biggest concern is that my current youngest is only 17 months old. I know you'll be resetting, but I think 2.5-3 years is a really nice age gap. Hope your pregnancy goes well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888415 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 10:16:15 +0000 bhbee 2888415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! Three was a whole new ballgame for us (my middle was 3.5 when she was born so a big reset too) but we all just love her so much plus it’s fun to see the older kids with a baby. We live in a small 3bdrm house and it’s fine for now. I did find the third pregnancy really hard on my body so make sure to take care of yourself! You got this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888408 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 09:29:49 +0000 Miss Ariel 2888408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: I thought so!! I’ll just live vicariously through you then! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888406 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 09:28:21 +0000 autumnleaves 2888406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: Congratulations! I am so happy for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888404 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 09:20:31 +0000 graceandjoy 2888404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Miss Ariel: Well I know you, so you know me :grin:<br /> Seriously yes, taking permanently measures if you do not want a surprise, lol!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888403 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 09:18:00 +0000 Miss Ariel 2888403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: congrats!! I’m so excited for you guys!! We’re about to go the other way in regards to #3 with dh taking permanent measures.</p> <p>Also, I’m pretty sure I know your old username, right?!? :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888401 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 09:04:44 +0000 graceandjoy 2888401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: How far along are you? We also gave away ALL our baby stuff, so I'm really hoping I can get some hand me downs back haha. And also kind of hoping for another girl so it's easier to have hand me downs lol</p> <p>@nwm: You are so right. We 100% would not have tried for a 3rd, nor were we NTNP to hope for a surprise. I'm so glad you're getting a lot of support! My mom def freaked out when I told her, b/c she helps us out a lot with childcare and she probably thought the newborn days were over too, hah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888398 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 08:56:50 +0000 nwm 2888398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>congratulations!!!! i know just how you feel, as we also solved this debate by getting pregnant with a surprise third! and our littlest was only 8 months at the time :shocked: we felt all the same feels but at the same time just couldn't escape feeling like universe is telling us this is the right choice, and one we might never have pulled the trigger on otherwise. we're excited for the little guy's arrival in november :grin: and my work and our families have been waaaaay more supportive than i feared with two so close together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888396 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 08:53:51 +0000 Autumnmama79 2888396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations!! Also pg with number 3 and worrying about lots and lots. Hope you have a great pregnancy- with no gd! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-to-our-to-3rd-or-not-to-3rd-debate#post-2888393 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 08:35:46 +0000 graceandjoy 2888393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How it ends is when you get a surprise BFP :bfp: :shocked: </p> <p>I am an old user under a new name, and in almost every thread about whether to have another, we were pretty firmly on team two &amp; through. But leaving the door open to explore foster/adoption in the future and I felt pretty good about that! </p> <p>We did not take any permanent measures for birth control, whatever we've been doing worked fine for the last year. Obviously, knowing we didn't take more "fail safe" measures meant that we understood if a surprise ever came along. And boy (or girl, haha) it did! </p> <p>And to honestly share my feelings, I was freaking the heck out. I had really settled down into life with 2 (4.5 and 2.5), and finally starting to plan travels, future, etc. I realize that in wanting another baby, I really was just in love with the IDEA of having another one. I think the IDEA of it is way too romantic. When it becomes real, this is all the stuff I started thinking about:</p> <p>- My body. Yes, it is a blessing to carry a baby to term but I thought I was done with loaning my body out for 9 months, with gaining weight, with labor/delivery, etc. I had GD twice so I might as well just started dieting now! </p> <p>- All my hopes and dreams for the immediate future pretty much resets. Financial plans made a sharp turn as I now have to save up for another maternity leave, another long stretch of daycare, etc </p> <p>I hope by sharing all the real feelings I have had about this (I found out like 2 nights ago?), that it helps others! Obviously we are thrilled and over the moon too and SO thankful for this surprise blessing. I am honestly not too worried currently about the day-to-day. We already have a van, we only have a 3 bedroom but 2 of them can always share a bedroom. #3 will just go to the same daycare. Probably more scheduling chaos but none of it a big deal. I don't even really worry about being outnumbered b/c I see many other families with 3 or more children and hey, they are all doing okay! </p>