https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 15:38:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2900798 Sun, 27 Oct 2019 19:22:37 +0000 crazydoglady 2900798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: I'm going to wall you in a bit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2900797 Sun, 27 Oct 2019 19:14:22 +0000 gotkimchi 2900797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: idk I feel ok about food but bad about my body and I think I’m definitely eating to soothe. I really want food to be easy and to feel good about my body but I don’t know how to get there </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2900794 Sun, 27 Oct 2019 18:53:06 +0000 crazydoglady 2900794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: Whaaaaa??? How are you feeling about the process? I'm still somewhere on the range of TFID and instinctive/intuitive eating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2900792 Sun, 27 Oct 2019 18:32:50 +0000 gotkimchi 2900792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my 5yo just said I’m fat. She’s not wrong. Idk where to go from here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899456 Sun, 13 Oct 2019 20:13:34 +0000 crazydoglady 2899456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: Awesome! Despite the fact that I am adopting more of an intuitive eating mindset (Dooner discusses it in the book,) I can credit Dooner for me wanting to abandon dieting efforts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899446 Sun, 13 Oct 2019 18:33:53 +0000 wrkbrk 2899446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I just bought the book based on this thread! Can’t wait! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899418 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 23:41:22 +0000 crazydoglady 2899418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: Even though I started TFID in April/May, I still wasn't feeling at peace with food. That may also be due to my past eating disorder, so I decided to try IE which came highly recommended from my therapist. I know that Dooner worries that it can become a diet for some, but I am specifically following guidelines that don't emphasize weight loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899417 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 21:47:03 +0000 gotkimchi 2899417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: what made you move towards that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899411 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 15:20:01 +0000 crazydoglady 2899411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: I'm doing Intuitive Eating now and really enjoying it. It's based on the hunger/fullness scale. The focus is not on weight loss, but if you tend to eat when you arent hungry (I do!) that could be a side effect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899409 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 14:40:26 +0000 bhbee 2899409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: I couldn’t do it - not enough structure for me and I did want to lose weight. So now I’m on an IF-fuck it hybrid where I’m strict about IF hours but not strict about what I eat in the window. I’m not losing super fast but I’m happy with things overall and have seen some results in my clothes which is definitely making me happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2899407 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 14:27:57 +0000 gotkimchi 2899407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How’s everyone doing? I thought I was doing well but today we were getting ready for a wedding and the dress I was planning on wearing was too small and now I feel bad about my body and like I really want to diet and lose weight </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891849 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 12:42:35 +0000 bhbee 2891849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: yes, and I think she does a decent job in front of them most of the time. Now I need to work on my brother ... he mostly just refers to himself in comments (vs others) but I think that’s still damaging for the kids to hear. His kids hear a ton of that talk at home but I don’t want mine to!</p> <p>It just seems overwhelming once you start being aware of this kind of diet and body obsessed talk - it is just everywhere. It will feel like a major victory if I can help my kids have any sort of food neutrality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891835 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 11:12:01 +0000 crazydoglady 2891835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: Ewww...That's awful. I totally understand you cant change your mom, but have you told her you don't want to hear any more diet/weight loss/ fat shaming comments? Especially around your kids? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891831 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 09:37:08 +0000 bhbee 2891831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: honestly no, I don’t think I can change all her crazy beliefs and I’m not sure it’s worth it (definitely not worth it to me right now). But I will eat the damn cookie if I want to :silly: </p> <p>Honestly there is SO MUCH CRAZY around food with her (and my whole family) that I never saw until the last couple years. So my main goal is to try to keep her from saying too much in front of my kids (especially my older girl). That I have said some stuff about because I really don’t want my kids to waste their energy on this kind of hurtful thinking. </p> <p>I posted this example on another thread once but there is so much talk about each baby’s weight (none of them have had a concerning issue). I posted a picture to our family shared folder of my cute baby around 6m. She has serious thighs that I constantly want to eat and the picture showed them off after they had been hiding more in winter. My mom’s comment was just “she is going to hate that picture when she is older”. I mean ... she is a BABY and that just really laid out to me how deeply ingrained the crazy about this really is. In a way those things are almost helpful because it helps me question what I grew up hearing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891830 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 09:17:13 +0000 crazydoglady 2891830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: Wait, who decided you "needed" to lose weight? Also, you are nursing a baby you NEED calories. Have you told your mom you aren't doing any of this BS anymore? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891826 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 08:45:48 +0000 bhbee 2891826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: you are right, I started the mental section yesterday and this part resonates so much - I keep underlining things (because I have it on kindle I find it easiest to just take photos of pages and mark them up!). </p> <p>Being at my mom’s is definitely messing with me though. I’m feeling a lot less in control about food right now. I guess this is a good time to work on figuring out the whole formative beliefs part :silly: </p> <p>I’m also struggling some because I am off dairy for my nursing baby indefinitely. At home I can make food I really like that fits that. Here, there are 10 people right now (6 of them under 18) so cooking for my needs isn’t really possible all the time. Last night we had lasagna so I had a very sad salad (and then wasn’t offered a cookie like everyone else because I “need” to lose weight) and together that definitely made me feel all the things. I guess at least as a first step I am more aware now of why it feels that way, why one thing leads to another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891524 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 10:17:15 +0000 crazydoglady 2891524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I think the mental part of the book will be huge for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891511 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 09:14:24 +0000 bhbee 2891511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: hmm, I have no idea what I’m doing with my feelings :silly: </p> <p>Overall I’ve been feeling a lot more at peace with food too, but I think part of it is just life stuff - I definitely feed my stress day to day typically but this is a sad family issue that is taking up all my mental space so I’m not food focused. However I’m also (unrelated) staying at my mom’s for a couple weeks with the kids and that is ground zero for food issues and judgment so we’ll see how that goes!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891492 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 23:05:48 +0000 crazydoglady 2891492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HappyBaker: That study is so interesting! And, yes, I think that the book will be AMAZING for you.<br /> @gotkimchi: I've had (and continue to have) so many ups and downs, but there have been more and more days of peace with food and that is a start. The whole range of feelings is normal and that makes sense when you are reevaluating an entire value and belief system.<br /> @bhbee: I think the idea is to feel the feeling as opposed to trying to "figure it out" by analyzing it or conceptualizing it, but maybe that's something you already do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891484 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 20:28:26 +0000 bhbee 2891484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HappyBaker: it is really hard for me to think about giving the kids unlimited access to anything. I have one kid who would go crazy! Like he would easily eat half a box of granola bars, or a huge pile of cookies. He’s an act first think later kid. But perhaps he wouldn’t do it all the time. I don’t know! But as above I have issues from how my mom regulated everything so I don’t know how to address. </p> <p>@crazydoglady: I haven’t finished the book, but overall I’m doing pretty well. I still have unhealthy thoughts of course but I’m recognizing them for what they are and trying to listen to my body. In the book I’ve been less interested in the emotional section ... it just seems too simple? I mean “just eat” is simple too but “just feel your feelings” doesn’t resonate as much. But maybe as I finish it I’ll get it more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891404 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 14:10:05 +0000 gotkimchi 2891404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: it’s really difficult! I go from feeling good to not wanting to be fat and everything in between. What I really want is to not care about food! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891381 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:44:02 +0000 HappyBaker 2891381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I just started reading it after also trying to get back to Ellyn Satter style eating with my kids - and the junk food thing is what I’m really working on. I just read a study of teenage girls where they tracked BMI (not the best indicator I know) of different groups who had different levels of access to snacks and junk food, and the girls who had unlimited access to whatever had the healthiest weights over time. I thought that was really eye opening because we feel like we are being “good parents” by making dessert a treat but that’s where all my own bingeing comes from! Case in point last week I ate an entire half gallon of ice cream in 2 days because I was planning to “be healthy” starting the next day! Hoping the book helps me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891373 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:02:11 +0000 crazydoglady 2891373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: Sorry, last few days have been nutty!! Your "novel" really resonates with me as well. We didnt have a lot of "junk" food in my house growing up because we had a really tight budget and so if my parents did splurge on ANYTHING of the sort, my four siblings and I pounced on it. You know that gross ice cream in a bucket? It would be gone in a couple of days and we would eat as much as we could because we never knew when we would see them again. I was always desperate for sweets. It was a feverish, mad dash to get as much as you could even if it made you sick. </p> <p>My husband had a candy drawer in the house that he and his brother could have 1 thing from after dinner. His mom didnt dole them out or police the drawer. When my husband told me about it, I was incredulous. Like "how was it still there?!?! Like didnt you just eat it all???" And he said "no, it never occurred to us because we knew it would always be there. " I always chalked it up to personality/ family dynamics and now I know it had everything to do with access.<br /> As for rest, sometimes I take a bubble bath when DH is home or take the kids to the gym daycare and just lay down on a pool lounger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891370 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:48:26 +0000 crazydoglady 2891370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: @gotkimchi: How are you guys doing?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891369 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:47:34 +0000 crazydoglady 2891369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: That would be a good start! Definitely<br /> start with the audiobook then. I bet you'll be motivated to find the time to read the book after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891367 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:42:41 +0000 hitchhiker 2891367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: A good voice is important! I have quit many audiobooks because I find the narrator annoying...</p> <p>@crazydoglady: Thanks! I have a feeling I would regret not having the book, but I have so little time for reading (and such a long list) and also a long commute. Maybe I'll start with audio and then get the book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891363 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:29:46 +0000 crazydoglady 2891363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: I've done both and I like each for different reasons. Print is great for a first read to really grasp the concepts and di the exercises. I am listening to the audiobook the second time around and really like putting her voice to the words and it's been reinforcing what I am doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner/page/2#post-2891359 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:11:01 +0000 gotkimchi 2891359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: I did, I’m actually going to listen to it again. I wish I had it in print because I think I missed some stuff on the audio but her voice wasn’t annoying and that’s important to me :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner#post-2891351 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 09:25:48 +0000 hitchhiker 2891351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: Did you like the audio book? Trying to decide if I should listen to this or read it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-fck-it-diet-by-caroline-dooner#post-2890602 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 22:56:12 +0000 bhbee 2890602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I’m just getting to the rest section in the book, but I’m curious, how has rest played into this for you? Especially given the exhausting joys of parenting. :happy: </p> <p>I’ve always felt like this is a huge key for me in so many ways but I still make so many bad decisions to stay up late again - I have struggled with going to bed early enough since I was 22 and started getting up at 5:30 for work! But I know I’m so much less stressed when I’m well rested. </p>