https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 08:05:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1604491 Thu, 01 May 2014 08:23:16 +0000 alohaorchid 1604491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The one time I got pregnant (mc), I did nothing right! I was drinking, going to bed lately, waking up at 5am for work, drinking coffee all day which I replaced with Red Bull in the afternoon, working out too strenously... you get the picture! I had about a year when we were TTC where did everything I was supposed to, drank way less, cut down on caffeine (those two especially in the TWW - I couldn't give them up completely), took all the right vitamins and tea and chinese herbs, did accupuncture, using opk's, the whole thing! And yet we weren't successful. </p> <p>Some of those things may work for some people, but obviously not for me. I'm trying to just continue with regular life now and see what happens. </p> <p>(and I have a double shot latte right now :) ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1604045 Thu, 01 May 2014 00:05:42 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1604045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, "everything I could" gets really tiring when dealing with IF. At some point I just had to stop worrying about it constantly because it was eating away at me trying to follow so many rules. I really don't think that much in the TWW makes a difference! Pretty much all I did was go easy on any ab exercises. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1604016 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 22:43:31 +0000 brownie 1604016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup and it failed twice. And my friend got pregnant on the night that we all went out drinking for her birthday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1604007 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 22:30:10 +0000 Kelli_Deluxe 1604007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with most of the girls; the cycle I got pregnant we were not even thinking about anything out of the norm and I was def drinking over Thanksgiving! A couple months later we had our 1st iui and I was on point during the TWW--no luck. I've had a glass of wine each night this week in this current TWW. I know I should start exercising more (a lot more), but once I time and use opk's, I like to believe it's out of my hands! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1603440 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:50:51 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1603440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should mention that I don't ALWAYS eat like I listed above. Haha. That was vacation eating. But, pasta and bread are my favorite foods in the world. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1603336 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:53:59 +0000 deactivated_account 1603336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if I had a lot of sex, then I did all I can do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1603316 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:41:45 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1603316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought i did everything i could when i took my prenatals, timed sex correctly, etc. i eat healthy anyway but i did not give up caffeine or alcohol and neither did my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602996 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 15:08:18 +0000 Sunshine1810 1602996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am such a perfectionist that I don't think I ever feel like I've given it everything I can. I try to be really good about regular exercise, healthy eating (with some holiday exceptions of course), supplements, prenatals, and taking my medications. I do drink one cup of coffee per day, although I might try to cut that out with IVF coming up. I drink 1-2 drinks very very occasionally (less than once a week), although now I am not having a drop of alcohol while going through IVF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602966 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 15:01:56 +0000 PurplePumps 1602966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, if the swimmers are in there and I ovulated, that's it for me. It's bad enough that this is as difficult as it is, I wouldn't be able to stand the kind of control it would truly take in my life if I didn't even allow myself to drink or have coffee when not pregnant. I've always eaten fairly healthy and have started exercise, but for vanity b/c I want to lose weight, not cause I think it'll help me get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602923 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:50:24 +0000 bhbee 1602923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: I'm pretty much in your camp. I've done cycles where I tried to be really good about xyz and it didn't help. and the cycle I conceived LO I wasn't doing anything special outside of meds and sex timing. I wasn't even avoiding Advil which my RE tells me to do in the TWW now. I figure IF causes enough suffering by itself, so you should only worry about additional pieces if you are doing them for other reasons (eating healthier and working out to feel better and have more energy, etc). otherwise you end up bitter you did all that "work" for nothing if cycles don't turn out.</p> <p>that said I know some people swear by little changes they made making the difference. I just don't believe it is the right thing for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602856 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:34:04 +0000 Happygal 1602856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No more than 1(ish) cups of coffee a day<br /> No alcohol<br /> Healthy eating<br /> Regular exercise<br /> Prenatals</p> <p>So.....I basically feel like I've never REALLY given it all that I can! Last cycle it made me feel bummed out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602817 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:22:59 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1602817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To feel like I really did "everything I could", I needed to follow my diet/medication/supplement plan exactly. Otherwise, I was convinced that it was that glass of wine/missed day of pills that caused the cycle to fail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602809 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:21:19 +0000 PawPrints 1602809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we had good sex-timing and I took my prenatals, I feel like I've given it all I've got. I don't consider altering my diet to be conducive to conception. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-feeling-of-i-did-everything-i-could#post-1602760 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:10:44 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1602760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have that feeling with most cycles? This cycle? I can't say that I do because I didn't stop drinking coffee AND I had a few beers on a weekend getaway with DH. I also haven't been eating all that great (Cinnabon, burger, pasta, Taco Bell over the weekend). YIKES. </p> <p> If this IUI cycle didn't work, I think I will cut out coffee altogether for next cycle (will be SO hard) and also try to cut out refined carbs (also hard). Cutting out alcohol is no biggie. </p> <p>What do you feel like you need to do to REALLY give it all you've got? </p>