https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 09:21:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1507224 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 10:03:00 +0000 Andrea 1507224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: oh yes, the time is sometimes an issue as well. Haha. Oh, phase 5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506654 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 08:40:06 +0000 NovBaby1112 1506654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>phase 1 and I love it! when she hears my voice she looks up and runs over to me half laughing/half crying haha, and says mammaaaaa! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506595 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 08:25:18 +0000 autumnlove 1506595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1 for baby and 4 for toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506543 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 08:15:34 +0000 Adira 1506543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never seen phase 1 or 2. :( When Xander was a wee little infant, he was in phase 3. And now he's in phase 4. He cries at pickup and reaches for the daycare teachers and tries to get away from me. It sucks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506473 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:51:04 +0000 T-Mom 1506473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: my DD is always asking to go on vacation and stay in a hotel? And she asks to eat out too! </p> <p>We are in phase 5. The snacks are not satisfactory, the time is either too early or too late, and generally nothing is satisfactory!<br /> My DS is in phase 2 thank God. But he learns how to whine from his sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506453 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:41:49 +0000 Kimberlybee 1506453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD will be in daycare soon (in a few months) so this is making me laugh. I get nervous thinking about it missing her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506450 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:40:26 +0000 Kimberlybee 1506450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Awwww so sweet! What a wonderful greeting after a long day at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506440 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:36:05 +0000 Smurfette 1506440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Phase 1! I watch her through the window playing and when she sees me walk in, OMG, that smile is the best thing ever. She walks over to me with her arms out ready to be picked up and a hug. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506430 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:32:23 +0000 Mamaof2 1506430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha - love this! So true!!</p> <p>My DS is 5 and its gone back to Phase 2! He runs to me in the afternoons and gives me a hug :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506424 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:31:12 +0000 looch 1506424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in phase 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1506423 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 07:30:35 +0000 lavender 1506423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Between stage 2 and 3, lately stage 2 bc I've hardly pick up LO anymore because I'm on maternity leave. Before maternity leave it was def stage 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505909 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 21:29:17 +0000 sera_87 1505909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We go through phase 1, 3, 4 on a day to day basis. I always worry my daycare lady thinks I'm a bad mom when he does phase 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505901 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 21:25:02 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1505901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in between phase 2 and 3, but mostly phase 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505818 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:46:45 +0000 Andrea 1505818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: They have realized that there is a whole big world of possibilities out there! Eeeek! :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505817 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:46:15 +0000 lawbee11 1505817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Phase 1...guess I should enjoy it while it lasts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505808 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:42:47 +0000 mrbee 1505808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Haha good point, lately our eldest has been telling us that he doesn't want to eat the food at home, he doesn't like it... he doesn't want to go home, he just wants to eat out (?!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505788 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:37:44 +0000 Andrea 1505788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are onto phase 5: The demands </p> <p>"When am I going to have a play date with so and so????" (Your inaction could have said play date being arranged without your involvement)<br /> "Where are we going now? I don't want to go home!"<br /> "I want something special for snack today. I don't like any of your snacks!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505778 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:33:18 +0000 littlek 1505778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in Phase 2. I love it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-four-phases-of-daycare-pickup#post-1505764 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:25:34 +0000 mrbee 1505764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that we have two kids, I've noticed certain patterns emerging... like the lifecycle of daycare pickups. We went through all four phases with our son... and are going through them again with our daughter.</p> <p>Here they are, so you can mentally prepare yourself:</p> <p>Phase 1: "Mommy! Daddy!!"</p> <p>You'll get a huge smile from your little one, and if you're lucky they'll even softly say your name as you pick up your little rugrat. Your heart will melt and you'll tell everyone you know that daycare pickup is your favorite part of the day.</p> <p>Phase 2: "Mommmmmyyyyy!! Daaddddddddddy!!! Hey hey, it's my daddy!!" </p> <p>Your toddler will run towards you and leap into your arms at full speed while they scream your name at the top of their lungs! They're so excited, they tell all their friends who you are as if no one has ever seen you before. "IT'S MY DADDY!!!" You won't believe how lucky you are... daycare pickup just keeps getting better and better. This is where our daughter is right now... I love it so much.</p> <p>Phase 3: Nonchalance.</p> <p>Your toddler will see you enter the daycare, look you in the eye, and then turn back to their toys and/or friends without a word. The first time this happened, I thought maybe my son hadn't seen me. "Hey hey, it's me, your dad!"</p> <p>Nope, turned out that he had seen me. He just didn't care. Pickups take twice as long in phase 3.</p> <p>Phase 4: Rejection</p> <p>Now when your toddler or pre-schooler sees you, they start to cry or even turn their back on you. They want to stay at their daycare or school forever... they just don't want to go home. They don't want you... the words "go away!" might even be uttered. Pickups now take 3-4x as long, as you have to negotiate with your little one.</p> <p>You may even start to bring little bribes to entice them home: candy, iPhone usage, promises of an unspecified "special surprise" when you get home (you may not even know yet what this surprise is, but you'll figure it out once you get home).</p> <p>--------</p> <p>So there you go... that's the four phases of daycare pickup. This lifecycle only goes to age 4 or so, since my eldest is 4... who knows what lies in wait. If your child is 5 or older, let us know what is ahead!</p> <p>What phase is your LO in right now? </p>