https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 03:30:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589570 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:43:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1589570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I don't even see it as so much cultural pressure as personal likes/dislikes. The fact is that more girls enjoy shopping than guys, more guys <i> tend</i> to enjoy hunting/fishing than girls, etc. I honestly could care less what makes my kid happy - as long as he is happy. It doesn't mean that X is exclusively a girl activity or Y is exclusively a boy activity. It just means that more than likely a boys/girls will enjoy different things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589556 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:40:29 +0000 Greentea 1589556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: @swurlygurl: see, I dislike those things! :silly: and I also dislike sports. I just don't believe any of that is because you are a boy or a girl, personally but I do understand cultural pressure... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589485 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:23:04 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1589485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I have the exact same sentiment.<br /> I think a lot of it stems from what memories you THINK you will want to have of your children.<br /> But once your child is born, they are their own little person with their own personality and likes/dislikes. The actual memories created are more important than the ones you think you want.<br /> Not sure if that makes sense :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589457 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:18:16 +0000 swurlygurl 1589457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Yeah, I hear ya. I know anything's possible, but I feel like it's a lot more realistic to expect a girl to play sports than to expect a guy to want to paint his nails and wear dresses (going off of stereotypical gender roles associated with sex) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589439 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:15:23 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1589439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: sure they can, but most of them won't, that's the thing. And I obviously won't make my boy do those things with me when there are plenty of other things he would rather be doing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589432 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:14:30 +0000 Greentea 1589432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I think boys can do all those things and not be gay.</p> <p>Aw, you edited silly :silly: that's okay :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589422 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:12:03 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1589422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do like this article and agree with it. When you have a boy though, there are more things that you "can't do" with them...</p> <p>- get manicures/pedicures together<br /> -go shopping together<br /> - girl talk</p> <p>Those are all things I did with my mother and still do, that my brothers obviously never would have done. I don't feel I'm missing out by any means, but I think there are more things you "can't" do with a boy. If he wants to go shopping - then yay, let's do it! But most boys simply don't, and that's ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589400 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:08:25 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1589400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is great and I'm really glad my DH feels the same way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589394 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:07:11 +0000 Adira 1589394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookish: hahaha, yes, definitely not guaranteed!!! And thank you!!! I hope the next baby is as cute! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589386 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 13:05:06 +0000 Bookish 1589386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Definitely not guaranteed! I didn't share those experiences with my mom, because she's crazy. :silly: You make such cuuuute little boys though! </p> <p>@MamaMoose: LOOOL. Thank you, made my day. </p> <p>@sorrycharlie: My LO is tending towards the girly already, despite her room full of robots, dinosaurs, and a mommy that is a tomboy. I pulled out a hand me down bag of tutus and she nearly lost her mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589351 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 12:58:25 +0000 Mae 1589351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems a bit silly to make assumptions based on gender regardless. Every person/relationship is different. I guess on some level there are going to be some common experiences (i.e. most girls will want to go prom dress shopping and plan a wedding and become a mom. Most guys will go through asking out their first girlfriend and propose to a girl and be a good sports buddy). But having a girl or boy doesn't necessarily mean they'll be/do any of those things. And I think the lines are becoming more blurred anyways. People sort of assume my husband should be disappointed our first is a girl but he's excited! He still plans to teach her all about football and is excited to take her to her first sporting events. If I ever have a boy I'll still have him help me bake cookies. Either of them may decide to wear a dress to prom. Or maybe neither of them would. I just hope we have good relationships with our kids into adulthood regardless of gender. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589307 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 12:49:15 +0000 anonysquire 1589307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love to have all girls :) But I'd also love the rest to be boys. Different fun things you get to do with both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589296 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 12:45:40 +0000 MamaMoose 1589296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I actually don't worry much about M getting pregnant (I feel like I can teach her how to have a responsible sex life once she's ready). But I worry a lot about date rape/sexual assault. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589085 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:58:49 +0000 Greentea 1589085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad just treated us like people. Not girls. We grew up playing poker, spending every summer fishing in Canada, fishing year round on his lake, shooting and hunting for food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589062 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:53:43 +0000 Adira 1589062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I end up having only boys, I think the main thing I will miss is having shared experiences (like childbirth and breastfeeding and being mothers), BUT there's no guarantee we'd have those shared experiences even if I have a girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1589009 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:43:34 +0000 preggomeggo82 1589009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im going to have a boy any day now and the only thing I really like like I'm going to miss is the super girly clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588927 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:25:30 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1588927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: we were stunned at the projectile-ness of it. Especially the poop. One week old and it shot five feet across the room and required a trip to walmart in the middle of the night for carpet cleaner. </p> <p>My husband refers to it as "the time our kid had super-soaker projectile pee/poop" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588907 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:22:33 +0000 sorrycharlie 1588907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @mamamoose: see, I never understood that comment. I may have to worry about "all the penises" but (god forbid) she was pregnant, it is one baby per 9-month time period (roughly, lol). a boy could knock up several girls.</p> <p>edit: I know someone whose parents are split (with good reason). she has several siblings through her mom. and several through her dad..one of which is extremely close in age to her. as in, a month apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588902 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:21:53 +0000 Grace 1588902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: Ahh, but the important part was that she didn't do it with a penis. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588896 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:21:05 +0000 sorrycharlie 1588896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: exactly. and like my friend pointed out, we could have a flamboyantly gay son :)</p> <p>@beaker: @mamamoose: hahaha! a girl can only be pregnant one time, at a time - but a promiscuous boy could have several baby mamas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588892 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:19:42 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1588892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Parent of boys only gets to worry about one, two or a few penises, while parent of daughters has to worry about all of the penises. (During puberty of course)</p> <p>Parent of boys may miss out on giving their son away at a wedding- walk down the aisle and q&amp;a with officiant.</p> <p>Parent of boys will miss out on their child becoming an adult- period. Girls enter womanhood. Is there a male equivalent?</p> <p>Can't think of anything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588831 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:07:57 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1588831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have one girl and another on the way. Someone asked my husband if he was disappointed, and he didn't hesitate when saying no.</p> <p>We don't see a difference? For what it's worth, Chloe has peed and pooped on us during a diaper change so I wouldn't say it's a boy thing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588824 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:05:49 +0000 swurlygurl 1588824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, my MIL tries to tell me all the time that I need to 'give' DH some sons (since I 've mentioned that I would love to have all daughters).<br /> I tell her that his daughters can help with yard/housework, play sports, work on cars, etc just the same as any boy can! Then she says it's not the same... WHAT?! Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588815 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:04:03 +0000 MamaMoose 1588815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beaker: I've heard it said though that when you have a boy you only have to worry about one penis, when you have a girl, you have to worry about ALL THE PENISES :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588806 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:02:14 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1588806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm excited to skip the period talk altogether!</p> <p>I think its weird how people say that at least you don't have to worry about boys getting pregnant.. but you still have to worry about them getting someone else pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588804 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:02:04 +0000 lawbee11 1588804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have a daughter. I can't think of very much! </p> <p>Have a mother/son dance at her wedding?</p> <p>I really hate the "you should have more kids to get one of the opposite sex" comments. Sex is 50/50 every time. Your body doesn't know to give you a boy because you already have a girl. I think there's a difference between wanting more kids &amp; hoping for a specific sex and having a child solely because you want one of a different sex even when it's not a guarantee. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588803 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:02:03 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1588803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I'm with you on the carry on the "carry on the name" thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588797 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:59:41 +0000 sorrycharlie 1588797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like this article, haha. I think you can technically do whatever you want with your child, no matter their sex or gender! </p> <p>I hate when people say, "oh, don't you want a mama's boy? boys are so loving on their mamas!" well, I have a mama's girl, and she loves me. but thank you.</p> <p>or, "a boy will carry on the name!" ...there are several things that go up my butt about that comment, but, really?</p> <p>EDIT: I have to say, I am not girly in the least. My daughter is. and I did not create that! she is so drawn to tutus and pink, and bags, bracelets, etc. I wanted to buy her a Cars book today at Target and she said, "no, no!" and put it back. Yet the pink planner in the cart she sat and "read" while I shopped. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588796 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:59:31 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1588796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: You should do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters#post-1588795 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:58:55 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1588795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have kids yet, but I think baby/toddler clothes is a difference (but really not a big deal). Tutus, dresses, hair clips for little girls. Ties and "little man" outfits for boys. </p>