https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 07:52:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-new-york-times-on-adoption-and-race#post-1396909 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 22:20:11 +0000 travelingnanny 1396909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know a couple that adopted 8 children of a different race. The parents also have two biological children. One of the adopted children resents the parents because they aren't the same race. It is really heartbreaking for everyone involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-new-york-times-on-adoption-and-race#post-1396899 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 22:09:36 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1396899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And you're right, why don't they just survey the people who have these situations? That would make the most sense </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-new-york-times-on-adoption-and-race#post-1396896 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 22:08:12 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1396896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I could see how maybe at some point in an adopted child's life they wished they had a family resemblance with their parents/siblings. But I don't see it being some huge issue. As far as culture goes, I think it's important to teach children about all different cultures. It's also good to know where you come from, ie an African baby being adopted in America or a Chinese baby being adopted in Canada...I can see how teaching that child extensively about their biological family's culture could be important (&amp; exciting!) for them. But white parents adopting an African-American baby don't have different cultures in my opinion. That's like saying parents from New York that adopting a baby from Texas need to say y'all, drink sweet tea &amp; listen to country music. It's absurd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-new-york-times-on-adoption-and-race#post-1396840 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 21:29:23 +0000 mrbee 1396840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They had a bunch of people debate the subject:<br /> <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2014/02/02/in-adoption-does-race-matter" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2014/02/02/in-adoption-does-race-matter</a></p> <p>My sister is adopted and from a different country than me... it wasn't an issue for us growing up. It did come up over time, but we both worked through it.</p> <p>It is pretty amazing to me how experts who have never experienced adoption (as a parent, a sibling or a child) feel so confident weighing in on it. In any case, haven't there been enough trans-racial adoptions that we can just ask the adoptees and the parents how things worked out and see how things are going? </p>