https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:05:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885607 Sat, 25 May 2019 14:11:58 +0000 ChitownRo 2885607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it’s a drop off party - then no need to invite siblings. If it’s a parent-attend party, then need to invite siblings IMO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885606 Sat, 25 May 2019 14:02:43 +0000 Autumnmama79 2885606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: were you planning this to be a drop off party or a parents stay too party? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885597 Sat, 25 May 2019 10:24:42 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2885597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I declined so many last fall. DH worked nights, so he couldn't watch my 1.5 yr old with lots of 4 yr parties. It didn't help that I was horribly nauseous during the first trimester. I didn't know how to contact the parents to ask if it was ok to bring DD as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885588 Sat, 25 May 2019 09:34:30 +0000 erinbaderin 2885588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s so weird to me that people would just assume siblings are invited, no matter the venue! I get that you just sent it to the parents’ email address but still. It’s pretty clear that the invitation is for the school friend. Generally if somebody contacted me and asked if they could bring a sibling for some reason (mom has to work and otherwise they can’t make it, something like that) then no problem but to just assume is weird and rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885585 Sat, 25 May 2019 09:23:03 +0000 LemonJack 2885585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with what others have said. I don’t really understand the trend of bringing all kids to a party. It’s different if it’s a close family friend, but otherwise I wouldn’t assume I could bring my two year old to a party her sister is going to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885584 Sat, 25 May 2019 09:18:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 2885584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: just piping in to say I also wouldn’t think anything of a home party with no siblings. Especially as kids get older (like school age) I wouldn’t make that assumption. I’d only ask the parent if i could bring a sibling if I knew them well, or if it was a good friend of my child and I wouldn’t be able to bring her unless I brought her sister (like if DH was out of town and it was her school bestie). If it was just a classmate I don’t know well and I didn’t have childcare for sister I would just say No. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885581 Sat, 25 May 2019 08:17:33 +0000 Chuckles 2885581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, everyone! I sent a message to the guests and changed the invite. I wish we had room for everyone, but it's just not realistic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885579 Sat, 25 May 2019 07:50:10 +0000 cyoung 2885579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I wouldn't get upset if someone said that cause I know that it's hard on parents when it comes to birthday parties sometimes. I'd definitely say now. I know some kids may not be able to come due to getting a sitter for the other siblings but that's just due for the course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885576 Sat, 25 May 2019 07:32:06 +0000 bhbee 2885576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m never offended when siblings can’t come because we all have been there. It might possibly change if I could come depending on the situation but I still wouldn’t be offended! So I agree with above change it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885574 Sat, 25 May 2019 06:55:40 +0000 ALV91711 2885574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would change it now before you get more responses. I’m with @muffinsmuffins: I’d never assume a sibling should go to a party. Siblings don’t need to do everything together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885573 Sat, 25 May 2019 06:35:43 +0000 Chuckles 2885573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: thanks! Yeah, I also don't totally understand bringing more kids without asking. I wish I could know for sure that it would be nice out that day. If we can be outside, I might risk a big group but there's no way we can have 30 kids running around in the house.<br /> I think the problem with evite is that most of the time it's just the parents' email addresses, so there's no specific list of invited kids. Like, one of these parents might just be bringing two classmates (if the other parent isn't available), but I'd have no way of knowing that's the case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885569 Sat, 25 May 2019 05:24:47 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2885569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you are hoping less show up, I would alter the invite now before it gets out of hand and not wait for more to RSVP. I think it seems more awkward the more time goes on. If you are truly ok if everyone that’s left comes or you want it that way, leave it alone but don’t feel like you have to accommodate because it wasn’t on the invite originally. You’re in control of who comes in the end.</p> <p>ETA: I would 100% not be offended if a classmates party said no siblings. I don’t understand the assumption that if one of my kids was invited to a party I would just bring both UNLESS it was a close friend. As in the kid of a friend of mine/DW. I would always invite the whole family in that case if we were hosting a party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-perennial-siblings-and-birthday-party-question#post-2885567 Sat, 25 May 2019 02:53:55 +0000 Chuckles 2885567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're hosting my soon-to-be 6 year old's birthday party at our house this summer, and we invited his whole kindergarten class plus a few extra friends because he was so excited about it. I just sent out the evite yesterday, and I didn't specify whether or not siblings could come. It's just before a long holiday weekend, so I was thinking that some people wouldn't be able to come. Of course, so far almost everyone has said yes and several people have RSVP'd for more than one kid. I'm kind of freaked out that we're going to end up with like 70 people coming between parents and kids, way more than our house and yard can fit.<br /> Since it's not a venue with a guest limit or paying per person, I feel more uncomfortable saying no to siblings/specifying that only the classmate can come. This is especially true for 2 reasons - 1. I didn't put it on the invite from the start. 2. Several kids in his class are twins (twin is in a different K class), and S knows the twin too. (Though this isn't the case for everyone who responded yes with more than 1 kid)<br /> WWYD? I could add it in now, or wait until more people RSVP to see if it's really going to be a problem. Would you be offended/ think it's weird to have a no-siblings rule if it's a party at a house? I'm thinking the wording could be something like, "We're so happy that so many people are able to celebrate with S. However, due to space limitations, we aren't able to accommodate siblings."<br /> ETA: I'm also ok with it possibly being too late to change the invite and having to suck it up and hope that some people who haven't responded yet can't come. </p>