https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 00:40:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905764 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 16:38:42 +0000 AngelicOne 2905764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: Matthew is a follower and picks up a lot of what the other kids do in school, whether it's climbing all over the playground equipment (his teachers don't like for them to get on top of the tunnel to the slide) or words like poopie head from the boy that's 2 months older than him. We constantly have to say that just because so &amp; so at school does X, doesn't mean we do it too. Not looking forward to Kindergarten at this point. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905714 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 12:25:37 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2905714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son spent his first year at preschool only socializing with a group of three sweet little girls. This year, the girls are gone and the class is mostly boys. I see a huge difference in his aggressive behavior during play. There have been several "incidents" at school that involve him getting hit or shoved or smashed and while I don't hold it against any of the other kids, I do kind of wish that he was hanging out with the girls again instead. </p> <p>Oh, and turning everything into guns. I hate that so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905712 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 12:18:26 +0000 josina 2905712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: I totally get it! I do feel sorry for the kid(s) since it's a couple of them, just hope the teacher's are talking to their parents about it. These kids are calling my kid these names - luckily he doesn't seem too bothered by it but my mama bear instincts kick in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905707 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 11:14:56 +0000 meganmp 2905707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: I'd almost be more concerned about having the kid at home than at wrap care if this is the kind of language he is hearing. I, of course, don't know this child nor his family nor his situation, but I feel the need to pipe in to say that I doubt he is a "bad" kid, just a kid in a bad situation. Feel free to disregard my opinion, I just had to say it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905705 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 10:36:09 +0000 josina 2905705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So the bad language is really starting to annoy me... last night DS told me a boy said shit head and dick head and dumb as shit. It's happening at wrap-care, no not actually preschool. I told his teacher and she said she's trying to stop it.<br /> I feel like if they can't stop it they should just kick the kid out of wrap care! I'm just glad DS know's they're bad words and this kid is a bad kid to say them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905412 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 14:25:14 +0000 pachamama 2905412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: lololol dickhead is my personal favorite :silly: . I like the quarter detail.<br /> @SweetCaroline: It's one of the museum episodes, where he goes into a pirate ship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905389 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 11:24:25 +0000 Ajsmommy 2905389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD was talking yesterday that some kids think their parents are Santa and that their mom's dress up as Mrs. Santa... why would the parents do that... ??? LOL</p> <p>She's only in K, it seems that magic doesn't last quite as long as it used to.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905364 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 09:57:54 +0000 josina 2905364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: lol. DS's favorite song and he says all the kids at school know it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905362 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 09:53:01 +0000 JennyPenny 2905362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS has started singing Old Town Road all.the.time. I can't stand it because of how often it gets played and now it's been stuck in my head the past week... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905360 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 09:44:38 +0000 Miss Ariel 2905360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: the death thing is hard though. My fil died a couple of weeks ago so we’ve been having a lot of conversations about things. Things like, “I don’t want to die, but Pappi wanted to die.” Not easy conversations to have with a 3-year-old, so who knows what he’s saying at school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905354 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 09:26:15 +0000 josina 2905354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got worried last night when I thought DS was saying "I love pot", like oh god, who is teaching him THAT at school.<br /> Turns out he was saying "I love pop" (which he only gets when he 'sneaks' my open cans). :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905175 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 22:50:16 +0000 lady baltimore 2905175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: That's a fair point. LO (newly 4) hasn't yet picked up any foul language outside of our home, that I have noticed, but I'll be pretty upset if/when she comes home having heard the n- or r-words, or calling someone a pussy. Those are very different than when she hears (or echoes) a "dammit" over a spill. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905108 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 13:04:49 +0000 graceandjoy 2905108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: Oh yess this jogged my memory, DD1 was in either preschool or prek and she came home talking about zombies :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905105 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 12:48:06 +0000 Mrsbells 2905105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: my 7 year old picks up a lot of sassy attitude from school and also learns lyrics to songs I would rather she didn't sing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905099 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 12:25:06 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2905099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The biggest thing that stands out to me is having to discuss religion with my first grader because it was prompted by a conversation in her class (public school) about how different winter holidays are tied to religious traditions. We managed to turn it into a good academic conversation about origins of holidays and different religions and their traditions, but I wasn't expecting her to come home and ask why we don't have a religion or believe in God (which apparently a kid told her is the case because we don't go to church, like 99% of her classmates do). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905055 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 10:02:00 +0000 josina 2905055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lady baltimore: @pachamama: @Ajsmommy: I'm sure DS hears plenty of swear words out of my mouth too, lol, so want to clarify the part that makes me sad is calling someone 'dumb as shit' or a 'fucktard'. I guess we don't use the bad words in that context.</p> <p>Last week out of the blue DS put 2 quarters on his eyes and said, 'look, I'm a dickhead!'. I couldn't help but laugh, like where did he get that and how do the two go together!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905039 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 09:27:35 +0000 LCTBQE 2905039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: @muffinsmuffins: @Ajsmommy: yeah, this. My kid just turned 3 and started at a public grant-funded pre-k program this fall. The other day on the playground he picked up a stick, pointed it at me and said, bang bang, this is my gun, you're dead. I thought we'd at least make it until kindergarten with that bullshit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905033 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 08:49:36 +0000 Mama Bird 2905033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Scary stories! Last year there was a story circulating among the kids about Pennywise the clown living in the school's basement and stealing kids. And adults can't see him, so pointing out there's nothing in the vent where he lives wasn't helping. Just... what?! DS was pretty terrified and couldn't sleep at night. This year I haven't heard any specific stories yet, but he's having trouble sleeping again so I suspect the kids are trading horror stories again :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905029 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 08:34:59 +0000 Ajsmommy 2905029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oy... die and kill games... I really don't like!! "mommy, josh said he was going to kill me" ….ugh really?!?!?!? That's just not right people. I wish that wasn't the word they'd use. </p> <p>Also DD came home all upset about the prince who got his head cut off and then became an elephant boy and also a monkey boy … I found out it was incorporated into different teachings of Christmas i think and it's from the hindu religion?? but really to tell at 4 yr old that a prince got his head cut off and then they put an elephant head on him?!?!?!? eek</p> <p>oh and DD also came home and asked what the middle finger meant bc the older boys were telling her to show it to the teachers. :shocked: </p> <p>We are unique in that we do swear in our home and DD does know what bad words are, she could give you a list if you asked her to (would include stupid and idiot :heart: ) but she knows that goodies too but she also knows she isn't supposed to say them. So swear words aren't really a concern to us bc she already knows them. HA</p> <p>ETA: phew.. just read all comments and yes about swear words @lady Baltimore and @pachamama </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2905019 Mon, 09 Dec 2019 06:36:02 +0000 cake2017 2905019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Preschool- spitting, biting. My Lo didn’t have a clue about these until it happened to him.</p> <p>He hasn’t done it in a long time because even though it’s “developmental “ I’m not having that. So a lot of time outs and talking about good behaviors has stopped it so far. </p> <p>I wasn’t happy when he learned about spitting. I saw the little brat who was doing it in the Director’s office quite a few times for it! 😗 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904966 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 09:09:54 +0000 pachamama 2904966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lady baltimore: true for me too. I have a filthy mouth and for some reason I cannot contain it! He pretty much reprimands ME now but he loves saying "dickhead" and "f*cking Christ" when he's feeling super naughty 🥺😬 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904959 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 23:24:18 +0000 lady baltimore 2904959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD (newly four) has definitely picked up a lot of gender stereotyping from kids at school, though she is thankfully very talkative about it, giving me plenty of opportunities to shape her understandings.</p> <p>"Bad guys" have also figured prominently in playground play recently, though I am still not totally certain what her conception of them is.</p> <p>Any and all bad language, she picks up at home. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904940 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 14:46:51 +0000 Miss Ariel 2904940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: do you have any Princess Awesome clothes? They have a firefighter dress that might be perfect for your dd! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904917 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 00:58:44 +0000 agold 2904917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 3 and started preschool two days a week and she came home recently with the word "die". Ugh. Its not the worst, but its an entire concept that I don't want to deal with at her age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904913 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 22:00:10 +0000 SweetCaroline 2904913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is obsessed with firetrucks and firefighters. At one time, she thought she had to become a boy before she could become a firefighter. Just as we overcame that, she wore her firetruck shirt to school and a girl told her it was a boy's shirt. DD said "I'm just not gonna listen to her!"</p> <p>We live in an area with prevalent deer hunting and I come from a family of hunters. One day, DD came home describing a story told by a classmate that detailed harvesting a deer. It was graphic and used very blunt, callous words. Not at all how I would describe it to a 4 year old.</p> <p>She also learned the word "hate" at school and comes home talking in a whiney baby voice after spending time with my niece, neither of which are tolerated in our house.</p> <p>@pachamama: bah! What Blippi episode is that?! Will have to remember to skip! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904904 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 20:04:58 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2904904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep bad guys and guns and shooting. Plus:<br /> ‘You’re not my friend anymore’<br /> ‘my picture/toy/whatever is better than yours!’<br /> ‘I don’t CARE!’<br /> We’ve also had ‘so and so says f—k’ and poopy head, dumb, etc. He’s only in SK! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904899 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 19:46:20 +0000 wrkbrk 2904899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes. DS started PreK this year and immediately started coming home saying girls can’t play with him/that he’s in an all boys play club. At 3.5!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904896 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 19:10:42 +0000 DesertDreams88 2904896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bad guys and guns. Not sure where he got it, though. We are 100% anti-that in our household. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904891 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 18:19:27 +0000 pachamama 2904891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son talk about the "bad guy coming" (Waldorf Pre-K) 🙄. Also he learned to chant "you can't come in! You can't come in!" Mean. </p> <p>But he also shouted "Fire in the hole!!" (From Blippi 🙄) and his teacher was not happy about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-things-you-wish-your-child-didnt-learn-at-school#post-2904888 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 17:40:55 +0000 josina 2904888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: @catgirl: A lot of the kids in our district are low-income, not that I want to blame it on that. And the worst is that he's actually hearing it from pre-school friends vs. on the bus from the older kids!<br /> @crazydoglady: I was suprised but our preschool didn't do halloween at all, just a 'fall theme'. </p>