https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 06:43:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1665278 Thu, 29 May 2014 10:56:20 +0000 Zbug 1665278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.SK: that's amazing. Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1662934 Wed, 28 May 2014 13:46:56 +0000 heartonastring 1662934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did a few nights of mild sleep training first to get her sleeping in the crib and then again after she developed a habit (after having a cold for a couple weeks) of waking at 11 p.m. But other than that, we pretty much waited it out and she started reliably STTN at 9 months. Having said that, she was only waking 1-2/night before that, if it had been more than that I would have considered more serious ST because the sleep deprivation would have been too much for me to handle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1662921 Wed, 28 May 2014 13:43:00 +0000 Arden 1662921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I love Nurshable. :)</p> <p>We do gentle parenting/attachment parenting/intentional parenting and we use WIO.</p> <p>DD is 14 months. We bed share and she nurses on demand, and she sleeps approximately 12 hours a night unless she's sick. I'm very happy with our arrangement. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1662886 Wed, 28 May 2014 13:35:08 +0000 Ms.SK 1662886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to share my personal WIO triumph (and jinx myself in the process) but as of last night both twins have slept through the night for 4 nights - I am calling that success! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1652039 Thu, 22 May 2014 12:49:31 +0000 katsupgirl 1652039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@London Mama: I agree and it won't be long before she's pushing me away and embarrassed of me in public. :silly: </p> <p>I'm a WIO mama because it works and it is easier at the moment. My LO isn't terribly sensitive so if she's upset I respond. I do ride in the back of the car when DH drives to keep her happy. And we pull over if I need to nurse her or something. </p> <p>I know she'll figure it out eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1651223 Thu, 22 May 2014 09:13:12 +0000 winniebee 1651223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just used gentle sleep training - letting him cry a little at bedtime (which was rare) and not responding right away in the middle of the night (letting him cry 5-10 mins). At 4 months he occasionally went without a night waking and it became more frequent until he eventually consistently did it at 8-9 months. We were pretty lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1651205 Thu, 22 May 2014 09:08:37 +0000 illumina 1651205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I understand :) I'm not sure what I would have done re. night wakings/sleep patterns...maybe like you said, just fed her or helped her get back to sleep ASAP. For us we had to sleep train to get her to fall asleep and I'm not sure how we could have WIO for that. Dh is strongly against co-sleeping, so that was out :(</p> <p>@Cherrybee: I know what you mean! During the day I struggle with when to let her cry a bit and when to attend to her. I feel now she's a little older she shouldn't be throwing a fit if I'm talking to Dh at lunch and she's not included, so we ignore her more now and she usually finds something else to occupy herself with. Am I being mean? I dunno! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1651147 Thu, 22 May 2014 08:55:10 +0000 Cherrybee 1651147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: Oh God, the car seat. :sad: And in response to your question - yes, I do sometimes pull over and pop her dummy back in but she usually spits it back out and starts shouting again five minutes later!! Like I said, I'm NOT a WIO mum but I'm a mum who hates hearing her baby cry (nightmare toddler alert??) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1651143 Thu, 22 May 2014 08:54:33 +0000 sorrycharlie 1651143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My phone is giving me issues!! Lol<br /> For me: WIO wasn't never letting my LO cry ever. It was just waiting out her sleep patterns and not trying to stress myself out controlling them. </p> <p>You better believe she has cried otherwise, lol! She does not always get her way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1651139 Thu, 22 May 2014 08:53:28 +0000 Zbug 1651139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: just as CIO doesn't mean you never respond to your baby's cries, WIO doesn't mean you never let your baby cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1651116 Thu, 22 May 2014 08:49:50 +0000 sorrycharlie 1651116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: speaking for myself, in that I only did it for sleep. I didn't let her rule the roost 24/7, or even at night. I felt like if she was waking she needed something, and it was easier for all of us to get sleep if I went in and attended to her whether rocking, pacifier, or nursing (til 10 months).</p> <p>Eta: to me car is a different matter. Im not going to pull over on the highway and risk our lives. Most she was ever in the car was 30 min tops (small state!). Nighttime I feel like is different.. We all just wanted sleep haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1650739 Thu, 22 May 2014 06:52:33 +0000 illumina 1650739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@London Mama: I meant "training" in the sense that you are trying to get the baby to settle/sleep without picking them up. Talking/soothing did not help my LO in the car at all so I didn't see a difference between letting her cry in the car versus the cot, with the slight exception that the motion helped her to sleep a little.</p> <p>I struggle with the concept of WIO a little because I take it to mean, trying to prevent your child from crying whenever possible...so how far do WIO parents go with that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1650667 Thu, 22 May 2014 05:52:14 +0000 London Mama 1650667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've waited and are still waiting it out. DS is 22 months and we've tried all sorts of sleep training but he seems completely immune. In the early days I felt a lot of pressure to" do something" about DS sleep but now I'm happy with giving DS the comfort and closeness he needs at night, even if that means having a 30 minute cuddle while he drifts off to sleep. In 10 years time this period will seem so short and I can guarantee you I will not be saying 'I wish I'd cuddled and held my baby LESS and spent more time doing chores/watching tv/working out'. This time is precious, soon enough LO will be growing up and leaving me and my cuddles far behind. </p> <p>@ Illumina: not sure what the car seat has to do with sleep training? In the car you're right there with the baby and can calm/soothe/reassure/speak to her even though she is strapped into her car seat, no need to pull over to do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1650641 Thu, 22 May 2014 04:39:16 +0000 illumina 1650641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: aww, that made me shed a tear. I agree with everything you said.</p> <p>I wanted to do WIO, I really did. I wanted to believe that my baby would learn to sleep on her own. She sttn very early on, but she could not figure out how to put herself to sleep and nothing we did was working anymore. I figured a few minutes of crying was preferable to hours of her crying with us there trying to get her to sleep! </p> <p>What swung it for me though, was the car seat...I could not keep pulling over every journey, every time she cried and thus we effectively let her CIO in the car. Do WIO parents pull over each time their infant fusses in the car? No? How is it different? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1650612 Thu, 22 May 2014 02:18:26 +0000 Cherrybee 1650612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a Cry It Out Mummy. </p> <p>I'm a Cry It Out Mummy who believes wholeheartedly that babies need to be given space to learn to self soothe..... unless they're sick or teething or not quite themselves. I'm a Cry It Out Mummy who's baby is ALWAYS sick or teething or not quite herself! That's when we cuddle. That's when we get up for a bit and have a sneaky bottle of milk. That's when Mummy sits by the cot with her hand on her baby's chest, singing softly. </p> <p>I'm a Cry It Out Mummy who's baby usually goes straight back to sleep when you pop her dummy (paci) back in. It's a no brainer, right? I'm a Cry It Out Mummy who has been into that nursery to reinsert that dummy every night since my baby started sleeping there - often repeatedly. </p> <p>I'm a Cry It Out Mummy who fully planned to sleep train at 5.5 months; the date was set. I read Weissbluth cover to cover. But it didn't feel like the right time. Weeks went by and the right time never came. I posted on here, I strategised, I re-read my book... and then.... one day.... it fell into place all by itself. The last few nights she has slept through. (10 months) </p> <p>I'm not a Wait It Out Mummy. I just think that sometimes you just know the right thing to do at any given moment - whether that's nursing, rocking, cuddling or leaving them to soothe themselves. Last weekend, my baby learned to crawl. When it came to her nap time, she would not settle. She was so tired her eyes were closing but she was rolling about the cot, getting up on her knees and screaming. Picking her up didn't stop the crying - she just needed her sleep. At that moment, Mummy knew what to do. She told her baby she loved her, shut the nursery door and walked away. I think my heart broke that afternoon, listening to her cry. I muted the monitor, poured a glass of wine, went to the bottom of the garden and waited. Within 5 minutes, she was asleep. Since then, she has gone down like an angel every time and slept through. I guess it was the right time.</p> <p>I'm a Cry It Out Mummy who waited so long her baby figured it out all by herself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else/page/2#post-1650606 Thu, 22 May 2014 01:46:13 +0000 birdofafeather 1650606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did this until 13 months when I said enough was enough. She had STTN previously, fell asleep on her own since 5 months, and absolutely would not sleep with us in bed if she was restless as much as we tried! A couple MOTN wake ups with some attended CIO and she's much better sleep as a result. I'm a huge fan of doing what works for your family until it doesn't work anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650499 Wed, 21 May 2014 21:48:41 +0000 Zbug 1650499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shimmer: I've heard you can but haven't tried yet. It could be just a gold feature?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650448 Wed, 21 May 2014 21:11:41 +0000 Shimmer 1650448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Zbug: I didn't know you could block threads... I may need to do that. They make me so sad, damn these pregnant hormones! </p> <p>My hubs surprised me by liking cosleeping, especially once they got bigger. He was terrified when they were younger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650444 Wed, 21 May 2014 21:09:17 +0000 Shimmer 1650444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.SK: Hi MS. SK! It's been a while lol :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650428 Wed, 21 May 2014 21:02:01 +0000 Zbug 1650428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Us too!! Good to see so many of us on here. Before having DD I thought I would sleep train, but it just doesn't feel right to me now. Luckily, my initially reluctant DH likes cosleeping. I hope to start having her sleep in her crib for the first part of the night but we will see. I actually think I need to block the sleep training threads, because one made me almost cry a week or two ago. We may eventually do some light (no cry) sleep training when she gets closer to a year, but we are just playing it by ear for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650406 Wed, 21 May 2014 20:47:46 +0000 yerpie110 1650406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is us! My LO is not a candidate for CIO as she has and would cry for hours on end, and she has never once put herself to sleep while crying. We were lucky that she was always an average sleeper and STTN on her own at 5 months. We've had our bumps in the road, but we've just waited it out and she's reverted back to her version of normal, which is initially sleeping in her crib and then co-sleeping with us for the rest of the night from midnight on. I enjoy the baby snuggles and since she weaned herself from night nursing, I know she isn't going to want to sleep with us forever, and I prefer to take her lead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650378 Wed, 21 May 2014 20:25:32 +0000 travelgirl1 1650378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh I didn't know it had a name! But yes, this is what we do. Sometimes it means she falls asleep in our bed and I transfer her when she's asleep, sometimes she falls asleep in her crib with me in the room. I know for sure CIO would not work with my daughter, she would cry herself sick for hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650356 Wed, 21 May 2014 20:15:58 +0000 Shimmer 1650356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so glad to see so many other mamas who WIO! Yay for following those mama instincts! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650212 Wed, 21 May 2014 18:41:21 +0000 cmomma17 1650212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I fit in here! We tried CIO for about half a day - not for us! I co slept roughly from 4 months to 10 months and nursed at night until LO was almost a year old! Now he's 13 months and sleeps awesome in his own crib with no night nursing. He had to be ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1650169 Wed, 21 May 2014 18:17:25 +0000 nadsia 1650169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, although it is rough right now. Naps are in the crib and he goes down for the night in the crib (if I am lucky) and bed shares once I go to sleep. Lately he has been waking up every 1-2 hours when he is not in bed with me and I am afraid he is confused about why he sometimes get to sleep/nurse with mommy and other times does not. </p> <p>P.S. I love Nurshable :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1649827 Wed, 21 May 2014 15:16:52 +0000 JessKas 1649827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is exactly what we are doing. My pediatrician keep lecturing me about how LO does not need to nurse at night any more and how we need to implement CIO to get her to STTN (she's 9 months, wake 1-3 times a night). This does not sit well with me. We tried to crib train for a while, but the whole family is happier with baby in the bed, and I feel she will stop nursing at night when it is right for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1649168 Wed, 21 May 2014 11:40:23 +0000 Ms.SK 1649168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Shimmer! I haven't seen you in a while. Our twins are also in the WIO camp at 22 months. DD wakes once if at all but DS is still up at least 2 times plus early wake up's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1649109 Wed, 21 May 2014 11:15:10 +0000 lizzywiz 1649109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WIO mama here.<br /> We never co-slept (she didn't like it) and stopped nursing to sleep pretty early, but I continued to nurse on demand at night. Her sleep was terrible and we tried a variety of things (not CIO) before just letting it go.<br /> She started sleeping through the night, literally overnight, at 23 months. I do not believe there was anything I could do to make it happen sooner. Was I tired? God, yes. But I held on to knowing it was a window of time.<br /> Loved the article. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1649093 Wed, 21 May 2014 11:07:56 +0000 looch 1649093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is almost 3.5 and we still cosleep, partly because I was never able to fully sleep train.</p> <p>We tried 3 times before the age of 11 months, had some success for the next year, and then had a major regression around 2 years of age. My son likes the comfort of having someone close to him and I do not mind providing him that comfort as long as he wants it. I will not lie, though, there are nights, like last night where I was so touched out that I couldn't handle having his hand on my face and I was wondering what the heck I could do to get out of this situation, but we both eventually got it sorted and slept fine.<br /> It's incredibly limiting, because we can't just call a sitter and go out to dinner if the sitter has to put him to bed. So, it's got both its pros and cons, as does everything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wait-it-out-approach-to-infanttoddler-sleep-anyone-else#post-1649084 Wed, 21 May 2014 11:04:26 +0000 Shimmer 1649084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: do you know if any blog posts have been written on WIO? </p>