https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 03 Jun 2026 05:11:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-2292365 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 10:27:22 +0000 Cherrybee 2292365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm laughing my ass off at my comment on this thread! My little girl was 2 months old when I wrote on here "I'm blessed with a good sleeper". Hahahaha! Back then, she was sleeping 4-6 hour stretches and waking 2 times per night for a feed, which was great for 8 weeks. But it didn't change! She was still waking in the night at 2 years old!!! I was NOT blessed with a good sleeper after all!! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-2292349 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 10:12:06 +0000 Pirouette 2292349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: good for you! every baby and every situation is different, i think the most important thing is to be flexible and do what works best for you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-2291734 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 16:25:37 +0000 leighleigh 2291734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: thanks for bringing this back! good info/perspective </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-2291672 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 15:00:05 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2291672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I realize this is an old post, but after stumbling upon the blog the op linked, I wanted to put it (back) out there here on HB. I loved loved loved this blog &amp; was encouraged that NOT sleep training is not going to ruin my baby or make her spoiled. :wink: </p> <p>I think so far she's doing great by us just trying to be aware of her sleep cycles &amp; encouraging a relaxed entrance to dreamland through wearing her, cuddling, rocking, nursing or drowsy placement into her crib. I'm certainly open to the methods that others may use, but at the moment I'm happy to stay with the gentlest approach we can get success with. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102210 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 21:24:12 +0000 mrskc 1102210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also want to add that I work full time out of the home and I have to be at work at 7 am. WIO isn't just for stay at home moms. We've used gentle techniques to try and improve his sleep and we've seen a slow improvement over the months. We went from spending hours trying to get him down for the night and now just a quick rock and he's out. Next we'll start working on getting him to sleep with out the rocking. And he can sometimes fall asleep by us just laying next to him. I really believe CIO would not have worked for my son. I'm actually jealous of the ladies where their baby just fussed for 15 minutes and fell asleep. There's no way that would have happened with my son. So for me, just accepting that we would have to wait it out and reading other moms going through the same thing has helped tremendously. </p> <p>@Kemma: Same for me too. Once I just accepted his crappy sleep and stopped stressing over it, it felt like a weight lifted. Granted it was still frustrating, but I didn't worry about it anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102097 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 20:07:45 +0000 blackbird 1102097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only reason I stress out over sleep is because I have a full time job that starts before 8. I didn't care how tired I was on leave. I care a LOT now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102075 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 19:54:50 +0000 BananaPancakes 1102075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did WIO until close to 11 months, when a cold made his sleep unbearable. Cold ended, and sleep remained awful, so we did a gentle form of CIO then. I shared a lot of the same feelings as in this article, but I also don't have a job where I mentally have to be fully present all day. I can certainly see having a different sort of job and needing more sleep than I got at 10 months. But I wish I didn't worry about it so much in those early months. Co-sleeping and rocking to sleep didn't ruin our lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102066 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 19:46:12 +0000 looch 1102066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like we kind of did something like this until we finally sleep trained at 11 months. I wasn't working then, so if I had to wake up in the night, it wasn't a big deal because I could sleep during the day....or so I thought. Turns out part of the reason why I had such a rough first year was because while I was getting sleep, it wasn't quality night sleep. It was short naps during the day, which weren't recharging me. And I was short on being outside and getting fresh air. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102010 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 19:09:55 +0000 Kemma 1102010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say that one of the best things I get from WIO and Nurshable was to stop worrying about sleep and that I was possibly ruining my baby by nursing to sleep and bedsharing - it's been such a liberating feeling! My baby is normal, and letting go of the worry and fear of failure makes the night waking so much more bearable!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102009 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 19:08:19 +0000 banana 1102009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: How funny because my DH and I hated being touched! We can't fall asleep while cuddling. And he likes his pillow flat and I like mine super fluffy. He also hates his feet covered (like our kids) but I have to have mine covered with the blanket (no socks though!) And he likes it pitch dark but I like a little light so I have a tiny little night light on my side of the bed. :)</p> <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: It took a while to figure out their sleep preferences but I think I've got it nailed down. They both sleep through the night right now so I'm hoping that this doesn't change! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method/page/2#post-1102008 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 19:06:58 +0000 yellowbird 1102008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: haha! That's exactly what I was thinking.</p> <p> I waited it out til LO was 11.5 months old and waking up 3+ times a night for 1-2 hours at a time. At which point I was delirious at work. Im a dentist and it's really, really not good for me to be that tired! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101996 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 19:01:29 +0000 shopaholic 1101996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Thank you for sharing this today. And sharing this wonderful site! I really needed something like this today. :) </p> <p>I think I fall under this WIO category. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101955 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 18:35:14 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1101955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: that is so cute! Chloe is super picky about her sleep preferences, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101930 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 18:08:58 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1101930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: we co-bed too out of sheer exhaustion. There comes a point in the night (between 9-11pm) when sleeping alone in his crib is not cutting it for him. His sleep is showing signs of improvement, when we look back at his old patterns, so that gives us the strength to keep waiting.</p> <p>@banana: you know, I LOVE to be touched in my sleep. If my husband isn't in bed, I used to put a pillow next to me to touch. I'm not surprised my son has a similar preference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101854 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 17:05:47 +0000 banana 1101854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did a version of WIO with both of my kids and so far they're good sleepers. But I don't necessarily think it's because of any kind of sleep training or lack thereof. I think the sleep environment is a lot more important than I realized. I totally agree with observing your child. </p> <p>After trial and error, I learned that my son likes:<br /> - the room dark but not pitch dark (a little moonlight is perfect)<br /> - to be have his arms and legs covered but not his feet<br /> - the white blanket, not the blue one<br /> - his pillow to be a little high<br /> - very slight white noise (humidifier)<br /> - sleeping against the wall</p> <p>My DD is 14 months and she likes:<br /> - to sleep holding onto the end of a blanket<br /> - without socks on<br /> - the white noise machine on the highest setting (not the low one)<br /> - pitch dark with a night light<br /> - sleeping with her legs through the crib slats<br /> - to drink a little water before sleep</p> <p>It all sounds a little crazy when I type it all out but I realized that I (and my DH) have our own sleep preferences too, so why wouldn't children? So far, it's worked for us. Their sleep preferences might shift here and there but for the most part, this is how they sleep the most peacefully. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101849 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 17:00:00 +0000 wheres_c 1101849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didnt know there was a name for this! We do WIO too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101788 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 16:39:12 +0000 Cherrybee 1101788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is lovely. Im blessed with a good sleeper but she does take a while to go to sleep - two hours of rocking tonight!!! I did the first hr, DH took the second. I keep repeating "patient and present" (from the blog the other day) over and over to myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101723 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 16:02:02 +0000 MamaMoose 1101723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: It's certainly possibly. I work full time outside the home and we haven't done any CIO at this point and LO is almost 10 months. But I just felt like her attitude of "I don't need sleep" is a little easier for a SAHM than someone who is a doctor or a lawyer, etc and NEEDS to be mentally sharp during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101658 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:21:41 +0000 tinyperson 1101658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elderberrygin: exactly - last night she woke up crying at 11:30, so I went in and picked her up for a cuddle. She went right back to sleep when I put her back in bed. She just needed a snuggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101651 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:18:57 +0000 sarac 1101651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: I think it is really tragic that our modern parenting culture has made you think that you're 'coddling' your child by being responsive to their needs. I just call that awesome parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101642 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:15:19 +0000 Kemma 1101642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I think Sarah freelances as well as spending a good chunk of time running the fb groups? Lots of the women on the fb page work out of the home though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101637 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:13:34 +0000 Elderberrygin 1101637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tinyperson: This was us too. We waited it out until six and a half months at which point LO was waking up every 45 minutes from 2am until dawn. Not hungry, just couldn't get herself back to sleep. CIO training was a last resort but necessary because the sleep deprivation was causing my PPD to relapse. </p> <p>I think its super important that articles like this are written to reassure people that they're not spoiling their baby by cuddling and taking a WIO approach, but the dichotomy it sets up between cuddling and leaving to cry I find bothersome. </p> <p>I actually find that if anything we're better attuned to her needs at night after sleep training. If she wakes up crying or has problems getting to sleep (which is rare) I assume that she needs something and isn't just having trouble putting herself back to sleep, because I know she can do that now. And I'm using a pretty broad definition of need - sick, teething, accidentally threw her lovey out of the crib, just needs some extra reassurance during a developmental milestone. So one of us goes in and fixes whatever needs fixing, or rocks her back to sleep. We're both so much more patient about it because its not all night every night. Its not like you CIO, and that's it, no more cuddling to sleep ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101635 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:12:40 +0000 Kemma 1101635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: leaving A to cry just made both of us feel shitty so I gave up on it pretty quick! We bed share for part of the night and I love the snuggles! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101632 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:11:15 +0000 JoJoGirl 1101632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>edit </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101629 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:10:43 +0000 MamaMoose 1101629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be interested to know if this woman works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101604 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:57:26 +0000 LazyLightning 1101604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: oooh she doesn't want to sleep at that time. she wants to FUSS! haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101585 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:51:10 +0000 mrskc 1101585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: Awww poor thing for not sleeping at daycare. My son was doing that the past couple of weeks and he was so exhausted that we had to put him to bed to 6:30 pm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101584 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:50:38 +0000 LazyLightning 1101584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: We were like that for the first 3 months basically. Went down easily at 9:30 or so, woke up at 2, then woke up at like 4 or 4:30 for the day. It honestly changed when she started daycare and napped less in the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101581 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:49:12 +0000 JoJoGirl 1101581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: Ah. Yes our LO goes down easily at night like that, but wakes up still in the MOTN and gets up early :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-wio-wait-it-out-method#post-1101575 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:46:03 +0000 LazyLightning 1101575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: yes. At 8:30. I take her upstairs at 8:20 after she eats her last bottle, I read her a book, sing her a song, and lay her down awake in her crib, shut the door and go back downstairs. I set a timer on my phone to check her in 5 minutes at which point I'll go in and rub her belly and say we love you and goodnight, then leave again. I've only needed to do that twice. Other times she's asleep by minute 2 or 3. </p>