Hellobee Boards Topic: They call it "the boob room"

Hellobee Boards Topic: They call it "the boob room" https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 18 Jun 2026 23:02:38 +0000 avivoca on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1047029 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 14:52:59 +0000 avivoca 1047029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Lovejoy: I'm glad you talked to HR! T.H.O.U. on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1047022 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 14:48:44 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1047022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Lovejoy: Glad you were able to talk to HR. Hopefully they find a good solution. Mrs. Lovejoy on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1047016 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 14:46:27 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 1047016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I talked with HR and they're trying to figure out how to make it more comfortable. I don't think they are taking it as seriously as they should, but we'll see what they do to make it better! Yes.. this director and his team act like they are in 7th grade sometimes. While I like that they don't use a filter with me, I don't think they should be thinking or saying some of these things in general. sunny on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1046478 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 12:13:37 +0000 sunny 1046478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So inappropriate and unprofessional and I think that sounds an awful lot like harassment. HLK208 on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1046339 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 11:44:28 +0000 HLK208 1046339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Omg! The boob room? Weird. I'd take it to HR - you shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable! mrsjyw on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1046307 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 11:35:56 +0000 mrsjyw 1046307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ NOT cool. I get self conscious about our BRIGHT PINK signs and I work in a very mom-friendly/BF-supported work environment. THE BOOB ROOM? seriously what is this middle school? sunshineandsushi on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1046302 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 11:34:56 +0000 sunshineandsushi 1046302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That is not cool! I pump in my office and since the wall with my door is glass, there are vertical blinds that I have to shut every time. They're not allowed to be drawn closed unless I'm pumping, so it's pretty obvious when they're shut what I'm doing in my office. But NO ONE has ever said a single word about it or done anything to make me feel uncomfortable about it. You definitely should speak to HR, it's not fair for someone to be making you feel ashamed at all. LemonLong on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1046030 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 10:24:48 +0000 LemonLong 1046030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Can you put a sign on the door labeling it as "The Mother's Room"? They may be at a loss for what to actually call it so they are resorting to grade school names. At my office, we have two rooms labeled as Mother's Rooms. You reserve them through outlook like any other meeting room. blackbird on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045979 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 10:06:05 +0000 blackbird 1045979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, this is not okay. I kind of laughed at the idea of calling it "the boob room" because I would jokingly call it that with my girlfriends. But it just isn't ok for men to call it that in a derogatory fashion. I would DEFINITELY report to HR. Someone needs to have a talk with him. Very unprofessional. Mrs. Lovejoy on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045961 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 10:00:21 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 1045961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MsLipGloss: that's exactly how I feel! MsLipGloss on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045924 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:42:57 +0000 MsLipGloss 1045924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Lovejoy: I was always self-conscious, but I was never ashamed! Espion on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045919 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:41:08 +0000 Espion 1045919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would call that harassment. Retaliation is also illegal. You have the law, and likely company policy, on your side. I'll be pumping at work when I go back next week, and I'll approach from the zero shame model. If they want to make something of it, I *will* make something of it. Thankfully, I'm pretty sure that my colleagues aren't in 7th grade. LindsayInNY on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045859 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:24:38 +0000 LindsayInNY 1045859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with all of the PPs! It's completely inappropriate - the snickering, calling it the "boob room," all of it. I would definitely either speak up to the individual directly or go to HR. Let us know what happens! Boheme on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045852 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:22:21 +0000 Boheme 1045852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would talk to HR. That is so inappropriate! I'm so sorry you have to deal with them. dolphin on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045844 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:20:31 +0000 dolphin 1045844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ that is so inappropriate! my work set up a quiet/pump station for me and when i use it my guy coworker would joke and call it my "smoke break". it made me laugh and so sometimes when i go pump (3x a day), i would say i'm going on my smoke break! makes it less awkward. scarlet16 on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045840 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:19:40 +0000 scarlet16 1045840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As background, I'm a proud mama of a 1+ year old who pumped from 5 months until 2 weeks ago when my baby turned one. I'm an attorney at a major NYC law firm, in a heavily male dominated department. I regularly had partners knocking on my door or trying to bust in while I was pumping. So what did I do, I put up a big ol' do not disturb sign and I made it known that anytime my door was closed, I was pumping. I think there are two things going on here with you. First, you feel uncomfortable because you think everyone knows exactly what you are doing. You know what, they do and you should be proud that they know it. You are ABSOLUTELY amazing for being a working momma and providing for your child. That is serious dedication. Second, if I could curse and swear on this board, I would. Those men are absolute pigs and totally disrespectful. They are the embarrassments and I am SURE if their wives or daughters knew how they were making you feel, they would be in deep trouble. They need to grow the *f* up. I absolutely would 100% talk to HR about the inappropriate behavior. That is precisely why they are there. And btw, if they try to "screw up your job" after you talk to HR and get them in trouble, that is called retaliation and should also be reported to HR. BabyBoecksMom on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045811 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:08:51 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1045811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with what @Pink Champagne said. It's tough because you're the first one to do it. But, I would still go to HR about the one guy being completely unprofessional if he continues to do so. I'm sure it will lose it's appeal shortly Dandelion on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045805 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:06:54 +0000 Dandelion 1045805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That's really bad. I would call it harassment, too, and I really think you should talk to HR. Maybe they can give you a key to the room so that it can stay closed and the auto-locking isn't an issue. regberadaisy on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045787 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:01:46 +0000 regberadaisy 1045787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Pink Champagne: amen, sister! I love that you ladies call your room the clubhouse. hahah awesome. Pink Champagne on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045783 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:00:46 +0000 Pink Champagne 1045783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ You should not feel uncomfortable. There is nothing to be embarrassed about at all! Me and three other ladies in my office had a similar experience dealing with men acting uncomfortable about our pumping room (storage closet) but we all finally were like, "You know what? This is not an embarrassing topic. We are doing what we need to do to feed our babies." We ended up calling our room "the clubhouse" and that seemed to ease the stigma surrounding the whole "woooo look at me, I'm going to go pump!". We would just tell our manager (male) that, "Oh, so and so is in the clubhouse," if anyone asked where someone was, and the more we acted like it was no big deal, the better it got. I'm so sorry that you have to be the groundbreaker- that is so hard! Definitely talk to HR about comments like the one you've received (I'm sorry, but "boob room" is completely inappropriate!!) and try to keep your head held high. Remember, there is nothing to be ashamed about. You're doing something to feed your child, and don't let anyone make you feel embarrassed about that. regberadaisy on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045761 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 08:54:38 +0000 regberadaisy 1045761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Lovejoy: I would definitely have a talk with HR if I were you. They have no rights to talk about your "boobs"!! Keep us posted! Grace on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045754 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 08:52:07 +0000 Grace 1045754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Wow, apparently you work with 9 year olds. And the next time I heard a comment, that's what I'd say. edelweiss on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045573 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:50:00 +0000 edelweiss 1045573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Lovejoy: you don't need to get over it, THEY need to get over it. i agree with @locavore_mama: that this is a type of harassment. Mrs. Lovejoy on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045568 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:48:17 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 1045568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ You guys are making me feel more normal for being uncomfortable with this situation. I think I'm going to talk with HR about it in confidence today. I was pumping this morning and was just uncomfortable the whole time. I can't shut the door when I'm not in there or I can't get in because it auto-locks, but maybe I could just get a key from HR. What makes it worse is that this department that is the culprit sits right outside this room so regardless, I will walk by them every time I go in. I'll get over it, but I still just wish they wouldn't make it a big deal. edelweiss on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045565 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:46:48 +0000 edelweiss 1045565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i would care very much and report it to HR. that childish, stupid behavior (do none of them have any familiarity with babies whatsoever) creates an uncomfortable work environment. i'm really sorry you have to put up with that. their comments and snickering are completely unacceptable and childish. that leader is WAY off line and needs to be reprimanded. he needs to set a respectful tone, and has completely failed. what an ass. regberadaisy on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045519 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:20:08 +0000 regberadaisy 1045519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That is beyond unprofessional and honestly I feel like are grounds for harassment. I hope one of the ladies whom are in HR chime in. Irregardless I would have a talk with 'grandpa'. The only reason the other guys think it's OK is because he does it. Or is there a HR person you can talk to discreetly? What about banding together with the other pregnant ladies? MsLipGloss on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045512 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:16:32 +0000 MsLipGloss 1045512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mediagirl: I agree with responding that the comments are uncomfortable/ inappropriate/ not appreciated, etc. You can be firm and direct but fair. And NEVER apologize for that! MsLipGloss on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045510 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:15:14 +0000 MsLipGloss 1045510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with pps that the comments and behavior is appallingly unprofessional. It should be reported if it continues (if it happened to a co-worker, what would you recommend she do?). Even more important than people liking you is people *respecting* you. I shut my door frequently at work to keep out noise and notorious time wasters. I always felt a little self-conscious while pumping, but, I feel self-conscious generally, about many things, so I try to keep it in perspective . . . I am way more embarrassed to buy tampons that I ever was about pumping! mediagirl on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045497 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:00:51 +0000 mediagirl 1045497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Also, I'll be honest with you, I never shut my door at work. Every single time I shut it when I was pumping, I was uncomfortable. I knew everyone else knew what it meant and it made me feel uncomfortable. I'm sorry these guys are making it hard on you. If anyone says anything to you directly from here on out, maybe you just say to them, "It makes me uncomfortable when you say things like that" and then move on to another topic. T.H.O.U. on "They call it "the boob room"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/they-call-it-the-boob-room#post-1045494 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 06:58:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1045494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Lovejoy: What about accidentally shutting the door as you leave?