https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 20:47:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy/page/2#post-818432 Thu, 30 May 2013 13:55:32 +0000 2PeasinaPod 818432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: I totally agree with the fear of unknowing with the first. Now that I had my "Hey everyone...I'm in labor and heading to the hospital" moment, I am also looking forward to the next one being scheduled! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy/page/2#post-817928 Thu, 30 May 2013 12:02:28 +0000 LuLu Mom 817928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: I seriously am looking forward to my next one, go in at a scheduled time, and have a baby 30 minutes later! I can handle that, it was the unknown that scared me the most last time I think! After all my hardwork and having to have surgery anyway. I love that I'm not the only one disobeying orders :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy/page/2#post-817849 Thu, 30 May 2013 11:40:39 +0000 2PeasinaPod 817849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Hah...that so aptly describes it! </p> <p>@LovelyPlum: Sorry you're going through the same thing! I think once I got to 24 weeks, I started believing that this would actually happen and he would be ok!</p> <p>@LuLu Mom: Yes to how quickly I bounced back after the C-section! I was dreading the emergency C, but it wasn't nearly as bad as I envisioned it being. And I also broke the rules and went into the NICU to see LO shortly after he was born as well. I underestimated myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-817787 Thu, 30 May 2013 11:27:42 +0000 Navy_Mommy 817787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That after the baby comes out there's a huge wave of fluid that comes out afternoon him. I was concerned I was bleeding out, lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-817776 Thu, 30 May 2013 11:24:21 +0000 Navy_Mommy 817776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't realize that your boobs could start leaking as soon as like 14 weeks (mine started at 16).</p> <p>That no matter how many kegels you do you could randomly pee yourself a little towards the end...especially if your little one isuusing your bladder as a trampoline </p> <p>That your water might break without gushing out of you. I knew it might not break at all but i had no idea you might just start leaking and think you're peeing yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-817773 Thu, 30 May 2013 11:23:42 +0000 LuLu Mom 817773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. that constipation would be worse than throwing up<br /> 2. that I would lose absolutely all energy the first trimester.<br /> 3. I could not stay up past 11 to save my life anymore, 10 was usually a stretch.<br /> 4. swelling...I did not realize my ankles could get that big.<br /> 5. how much I ate deli meat before pregnancy (I didn't give it up but cut back.)<br /> 6. That my butt would hurt when having contractions, I felt it all in my back/butt...and did 2 days after.<br /> 7. how gross having your water break felt, I had a lot of fluid...I hate the feeling (broken at hospital for me.)<br /> 8. I was surprised how quickly I was able to bounce back from my c-section.<br /> 9. How assertive I could become when my child was involved -- i.e. disobeying doctor's orders to go down to the NICU to see my child before I was ready to walk. I made my DH roll me down there as soon as my catheter was out, I broke rules...I never break rules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-817725 Thu, 30 May 2013 11:12:12 +0000 JessKas 817725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never knew how scary sneezing could be. The pollen is really bad this year where I live, and I am sneezing all the time. I dread it. I never know if it will bring the I-just-got-stabbed-in-the-stomach round ligament pain orrr....I'll pee myself a little. Great. </p> <p>I also wanted NO SEX ever for a good long while. Now I want sex but it is THE MOST AWKWARD THING EVER. Nothing like getting things going to be distracted by a baby kick. Or the onslaught of sudden heartburn. </p> <p>I always though pregnancy would be cute belly and good feelings all around. HA! It's hard and I'm shocked when I see myself in the mirror. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-817663 Thu, 30 May 2013 10:58:22 +0000 alleyflowers 817663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: UM YES to the discharge aka "snail trail"! I kept asking my OBGYN, "is this NORMAL?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-817346 Thu, 30 May 2013 09:42:16 +0000 MrsLilybugg 817346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"No thank you penis" made me LOL. </p> <p>Yes to the "nervous peeing"!!! OMG the first tri I was a WRECK every time I'd have to pee, scared that I'd see red.</p> <p>And yes - Lightning crotch kills me!!! I never knew about that either! And I was convinced that my skin was busting open last week during a growth spurt. I kept slathering on lotion to "stop it" from busting. HA. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816322 Wed, 29 May 2013 18:38:51 +0000 Lindsay05 816322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ohhh lightening crotch... that term is so appropriate!</p> <p>I didn't realize there was a whole new kind of pain associated with contractions. It's indescribable.</p> <p>How much your belly can actually stretch without just bursting open.</p> <p>Rib pain!</p> <p>That 2 cells can make a baby. Unbelievable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816318 Wed, 29 May 2013 18:34:32 +0000 Pepper 816318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't realize you could bleed/spot throughout pregnancy without something being "wrong"</p> <p>I didn't realize you could have braxton hicks contractions starting in the second trimester</p> <p>I didn't realize what constipation "really" was.</p> <p>I didn't realize lightening crotch was a thing. Ouch.</p> <p>I didn't realize how easy it would be to leak pee after laughing, coughing, walking, bending...</p> <p>I didn't realize how CRAZY active babies in utero are, and how visible their movements are from the outside! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816291 Wed, 29 May 2013 18:09:13 +0000 pl0508 816291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I did this ! I would drag my belly across everything. I never gave my bump enough clearance ha!</p> <p>@redsmarties: ah pity sex. The only kind of sex during pregnancy in my opinion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816272 Wed, 29 May 2013 17:54:17 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 816272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lightening crotch. Like stop dead in your tracks, almost wreck your car kind of pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816248 Wed, 29 May 2013 17:39:36 +0000 Pirouette 816248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't realize how early the fatigue hits - I always thought you got tired once you started bearing all that weight! </p> <p>I also didn't realize that the several week wait between the bfp and the first appt would be even more torturous than the tww! </p> <p>And yes to the snot and nosebleeds every morning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816241 Wed, 29 May 2013 17:35:57 +0000 Bookish 816241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahaha...these are great!<br /> -how congested I would be the entire freaking time.<br /> -how hard it would be to sleep in the third tri<br /> -amen on the no thank you penis. Didn't expect my poor sex drive to run away screaming when I got my BFP :p<br /> -that I would gain most of my weight in places other than my stomach.... I was totally expecting a giant, adorable belly. Uhh let's try flabby wings, huge expanding hips, and giant booty. Siiighhh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816187 Wed, 29 May 2013 17:04:35 +0000 LovelyPlum 816187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is why I love HB: I learn so much!!</p> <p>I was only pregnant for a very short while twice, but I didn't realize how much hair I would lose! Gobs and gobs of it. I also didn't realize how long the tww would feel like. And I had no idea that I would be nervous every time I had to pee during the first tri for fear of seeing blood. Or how nerve-wracking it would be to wait for blood work. </p> <p>@2PeasinaPod: I hear you on the BFP. Next time, I have a feeling that a positive will bring worry more than anything... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816171 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:52:55 +0000 tlcbaby 816171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second all of these!</p> <p>I didn't know I would lose feeling in my fingers (and make a ton of typos on the computer because of it).</p> <p>I didn't know how hard it would be to roll from one side to the other when I am sleeping...or how many noises I would make in the process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816116 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:29:03 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 816116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: @rahlyrah: LOL - I thought I was the only one who busted out my samples of diaper rash cream already. This is honestly awful, haha.<br /> @deerylou: heck yes on the snot. Sometimes, I'm just like "Sorry honey, but I REALLY have to pick my nose." Kleenex just won't cut it. </p> <p>I didn't realize how crippling SI joint pain/sciatica could be. I hobble like an old lady. </p> <p>Didn't know that even though I don't have a HUGE belly like expected, I still get winded even climbing the stairs. </p> <p>Sex just doesn't happen. If it does, its pity sex. Poor guy.</p> <p>Expected to have weird craving combinations. Nope, its just "normal" things. Pickles and icecream still sound as gross to me now as they did pre-baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816076 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:17:12 +0000 Mrsbells 816076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didnt realize how hard it is to not worry throughout the whole process</p> <p>That my feet would go up half a size and never come back to normal</p> <p>That so much of the birth process is totally out of my control</p> <p>During pregnancy if you laugh/cough or sneeze too hard you might pee on yourself </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816044 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:03:47 +0000 .twist. 816044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: haha snail trail. omg. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816038 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:02:43 +0000 Boheme 816038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Oh gosh yes. That and nosebleeds. Sexayyyy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816006 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:53:25 +0000 .twist. 816006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Yes. That was definitely not something your preggo friends tell you about. I was surprised by it too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816004 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:52:39 +0000 2PeasinaPod 816004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: The snail trail...yes!</p> <p>@deerylou: And yes on the sex...who knew??</p> <p>I didn't realize that pregnancy didn't always mean extreme jubilation! The 1st time I got pregnant, I was thrilled beyond belief. After losing that pregnancy and another, my 3rd BFP was me putting off peeing on a stick as long as possible as to not get my hopes up too early. Then consisted of a very worry filled 9 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-816001 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:52:06 +0000 deerylou 816001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, forgot one. Okay, this is about to get weird, but does anyone have a ridiculous amount of nose...gold? I feel like I'm a snotty, boogery mess, most of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-815995 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:50:03 +0000 Boheme 815995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: 'No thank you, penis.' - I'm dying here. hahaha! @rahlyrah: I'm cracking up over confusing labor pains and poo pains. Yep. Been there. </p> <p>I didn't realize all the random weird stuff my body would do...Like my hands going numb at night, swelling, not being able to roll over in bed, my hips coming out of joint, my pelvis popping out. I got wicked hip and pelvis dysplasia that had to be controlled by 4 visits a week at the physical therapist for about 3 months of my pregnancy. Oh, and constipation! Why did no one tell me I wouldn't be able to go normally for three months straight?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-815992 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:49:13 +0000 .twist. 815992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: hahaha. I don't initiate but I try really hard not to turn him down. I feel so so bad for him and it's only going to get worse (from what I hear!) after birth!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-815990 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:47:30 +0000 deerylou 815990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: They are constantly in the presence of goddesses, I'm telling you.</p> <p>@.twist.: I try to initiate, just to feel like I'm being normal, but I quickly loose interest or become uncomfortable. Poor DH. He's heard, "actually, nevermind." on more than a few occasions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-815980 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:44:47 +0000 .twist. 815980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: omg. For real on the sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-815977 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:43:51 +0000 Ra 815977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Our husbands are sooooooo lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-i-didnt-realize-before-ttc-and-pregnancy#post-815968 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:41:37 +0000 mrs. 64 815968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't know most of the stuff in TCOYF. That was an eye-opener!</p> <p>I didn't know that if you find out you are pregnant at 14 dpo that you are considered 4 weeks pregnant. </p>