https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 13 Nov 2026 17:15:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1424005 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 10:28:18 +0000 preggomeggo82 1424005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They read this statistic in our baby class : new parent instincts are correct 95% of the time (when child is ill, etc), but grandparent instincts are correct less than 50%. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1423938 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 10:08:16 +0000 dagret 1423938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL always says things like "Poor L is stuck in daycare.." I don't think she realizes how it sounds. I just reply, well, he likes it, he gets to play with other kids all day. SIGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1423865 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 09:50:03 +0000 jetsa 1423865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This am she put on Facebook that her DH and my DS were her valentines. Didn't mention my husband at all, what? I'm mad for him, it just irks me. The post was DH you've been my valentine for the last many years but this year my grandson may be number 1, uhh shouldn't your son be in there somewhere?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1419421 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:15:27 +0000 JennyD 1419421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness. This makes me thank my lucky stars that my mil is just so lovely. </p> <p>I found out recently that my mother has been letting my two year old drink diet Pepsi. I'm thrilled. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1419404 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 22:58:18 +0000 skipra 1419404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my MIL is the absent grandmother so we don't hear any crazy stuff from her. </p> <p>My step mother is the very opinionated one. DS is a fussy eater and she acted horrified that he wouldn't eat salad. He was maybe 15 months and only had 3 teeth!<br /> She also yelled at me for not putting DS in the car seat with his winter jacket. I explained it wasn't safe so she got all huffy and said she never heard of that and didn't believe it.<br /> My dad is always on our case for having the car seat rear facing. DS is so tiny that he's not even allowed to forward face and he's not even 2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1419185 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 21:09:36 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1419185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I would love her to look at my 18-pound 3-month-old. The only thing that fattened him up was boobs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1419165 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 20:56:07 +0000 hellobeeboston 1419165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: oh boy! I can't believe that was the first thing she said! Yep - you are definitely in for lots of interesting convos! </p> <p>@Corduroy: uh oh.... You'll have to come back and share some MIl pearls of "wisdom" with us!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1418068 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 13:57:16 +0000 Corduroy 1418068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I shouldn't have read this thread. My in laws are flying in this week and staying for 10 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1418043 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 13:47:46 +0000 Torchwood 1418043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO isn't here yet, but DH's stepmom told our niece to "stop being such a baby" when she was still under 2yo! Apparently she doesn't think toddlers should cry when they're upset. She never had kids of her own, and never wanted them (she only married FIL 5 years ago), so I'm expecting more of those kinds of things in the future. But I can tell you right now I won't be putting up with it like SIL did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417979 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 13:22:23 +0000 nana87 1417979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO hasn't been born yet, but one of the very first things that came out of mil's mouth when we first told her that I was pregnant was "you wouldn't put a little baby in day care, would you???!" in response to me saying how great it was that baby is due in April because I'll have the whole summer off until I have to teach in Sept, so we won't need child care for the first 4 or 5 months. And then a few months later I was explaining why a nanny won't be an option for us for a whole host of reasons, and she was trying to convince me that those wouldn't be a problem (besides other objections that I didn't go into because they'd offend her, since she used a nanny even though she was a sahm, umm, we live in a small NYC apt and BOTH work from home, and my desk is in the living area--no way would I be able to focus on work if I heard baby girl crying, plus I can't even shut a door to get my own space and I'm not making a nanny stay locked up in lo's room. Her answer? "you'd get used to it!" NO!). I forsee LOTS of fun convos about our child care choices.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417953 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 13:05:53 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1417953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL told DH to put a red thread on LO's forehead when she gets the hiccups. </p> <p>Also always asking if the baby is cold and shouldn't we put some more clothes on her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417943 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 13:02:08 +0000 indi 1417943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO isn't here yet, but I can imagine the goods coming our way (from both sides). My mother expresses how she "would've done things" but understands that we get to decide and she gets to follow. MIL, however, enjoys buying pink items simply to annoy me and has repeatedly said that "I'll just have to learn to deal with it." Yeaahh….I don't foresee this going too easily right off the bat once baby actually arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417850 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 12:30:51 +0000 jedeve 1417850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: OMG my mom wrapped my son in two flannel blankets and a hat when we were in the hospital. The nurse came in and took his temperature and it was 100+! The nurse freaked out and unswaddled him. The temperature went down two minutes later. My mom never apologized to me though she told my dad about it! I think it was then I realized I didn't have to listen to her. :-)</p> <p>Also...what is the problem if a baby is cold?? I mean, if they are fussy, then obviously fix it. But if he is running around, happy and playing, then why would I bundle him up more than he is indicating he needs to be? I just don't get the fear of cold babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417811 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 12:14:31 +0000 cheert16 1417811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is nuts-ville. </p> <p>She told DH the other day on the phone that we needed to start limiting what DS eats (he is 9 months) because he is getting chubby- and she doesn't want him to be fat.....</p> <p>Umm- he is baby with baby rolls- STFU! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417808 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 12:12:46 +0000 rachiecakes 1417808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL was horrified, like totally disgusted, that I breastfed past 4 months. (She's Indonesian, I always felt that she would've been supportive..) And she would remind me how gross she thought it was every visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417794 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 12:08:46 +0000 Elderberrygin 1417794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: arghh, the rice cereal thing! My mum told me that constantly when LO was newborn. Drove me bonkers.</p> <p>My MIL was always astonished that we didn't go out after 5pm with LO and constantly told us about how she would just pop SH in his infant seat under a restaurant table and he'd sleep for hours. Uh, okay lady, but he wasn't colicky and didn't scream non-stop from 5pm until 11pm every night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417777 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 12:04:26 +0000 Mrs tartan 1417777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL told me she really doesn't agree that her son, my BIL doesn't smack his children...she kissed her chances of babysitting goodbye at that moment.<br /> She also turns up at their house with bags and bags of sweeties then tells us how badly behaved the sugar filled children behaved...she is to leave all bags at the door when she enters out house. </p> <p>I love my MIL but she is bonkers, she called my dad a totally wrong name during his wedding speech, everyone stared at her. At least my DH will stand up for us both when she tries any nonsense when this baby arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417751 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 11:54:55 +0000 hellobeeboston 1417751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseMommy: oh you remind me of another gem.... Flat ginger ale to drink when sick. No milk. My MIL thinks ginger ale cures all - and my husband always buys it when he is sick! Ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417675 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 11:36:27 +0000 NurseMommy 1417675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: bahahaha that sleeping thing is HILARIOUS! So I guess there's going to be a whole generation of flat faces kiddos now? </p> <p>My MIL is pretty good, she doesn't want to overstep her boundaries which I really appreciate, but my mom reallllly doesn't accept that we don't want LO to have sugar. I've busted her trying to feed her a cookie and ginger ale. Grrrrrrr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417637 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 11:25:52 +0000 MoonMoon 1417637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: you can send her my baby, who eats baby cereal and other solids and is nowhere near sttn!</p> <p>@hellobeeboston: omg my mom used to say no to having milk and orange juice at the same time when we were kids! Then I was like, wait, how come cereal commercials always show milk and oj together at the breakfast table?? Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417514 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 10:58:23 +0000 Boheme 1417514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahaha! Those are hilarious!</p> <p> @Foodnerd81: Omg, my MIL and rice cereal. She won't give it a rest! He will not STTN from rice cereal! </p> <p>She also always thinks DS is cold. He was asleep in bed in fleece pjs with a sleep sack. Our house is 70-72 degrees. I hide all the blankets in our house when she babysits (we only let her after bedtime) so we came home and she had covered him with a dirty towel in his crib, because he was "cold". Omg. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417511 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 10:58:09 +0000 Mommy Finger 1417511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is it with mothers and juice??? My mother doesn't understand why I don't constantly give DS juice. She says that when we were younger, we always got a bottle of juice after a nap. Ok. That's fine. But we have decided to not do that. I think she gets really defensive every time I make a parenting choice that was different than how she did it. Like I'm judging her or saying she was wrong. And I'm not. I think I turned out ok... ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417236 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:52:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 1417236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my MIL tells me how C will STTN once she has some rice cereal in her belly one more time, I'm going to throw the rice cereal at her. </p> <p>Really, I like and get along well with my MIL, but a bite of cereal won't make her magically STTN. But now I'm just digging in my heels and refusing to give C the stupid cereal. I think I'm going to give her some oatmeal though and see what happens. </p> <p>Also big babies need solids before 6 months/there is no way that baby (in regards to any big baby under 6 months) isn't eating solids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417143 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:29:15 +0000 Rockies11 1417143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL literally screams every time we do something that she disagrees with! LO doesn't eat from a spoon, she will only self feed, and my MIL will scream every time she raises food to her mouth. Also any time we pick her up and swing her, when she bounces on her jolly jumper, if we have her up on our shoulders - scream scream scream. Good thing she doesn't live near us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417126 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:23:31 +0000 hellobeeboston 1417126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Hahahahaha, the sleeping on belly comment made me lol. I hear ya on the juice. LO hasn't really ever had it until MIL insisted OJ get mixed into water since he's been sick. I didn't really mind and he loves it of course!</p> <p>Oh! I remember something else - she brought Valentines gifts - clothes and some M&amp;Ms!! She was like, your 15 month old can eat M&amp;Ms right? I said NO.... So she's thinking those are ok, but then didn't think bits of apple cut were small enough/OK and mashed it. And blueberries were too big, so cut into quarters.... But M&amp;Ms are ok?!?! Hahahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417108 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:18:46 +0000 hellobeeboston 1417108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: EXACTLY ... I don't even say anything. She won't hear me, and she's older/old school - she just had different ideas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417103 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:17:23 +0000 mrs. wagon 1417103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, the things. all the things.</p> <p>Water is better for babies than milk. They need to drink water if they are going to grow tall.</p> <p>Babies must sleep on their bellies in order for their faces to be shaped beautifully. If they sleep on their backs, their faces will end up flat and their noses wide.</p> <p>My mom recently insisted that sick toddlers MUST drink juice. (my kids have no problems sucking down water and milk when they're sick. We never have juice in the house... sometimes WJ has it at birthday parties, but LMW has never tasted juice.) I didn't want to fight the fight so she went out and bought motts for tots... put it into a cup... LMW took a sip and made a face, then cried. Back to water which she sucked down happily. Mommy wins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417095 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:16:08 +0000 avivoca 1417095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: UGH! My MIL told my husband that she didn't understand why we couldn't work things out so that Hyla wouldn't have to go to daycare. I mean, yes, I would like to stay home with her, but I like doing other things too, like paying my mortgage and putting food on the table. Not to mention the "fun" stuff, like going on trips and doing races. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417072 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 09:08:17 +0000 hellobeeboston 1417072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: hahaha - that is great!!! Lol.</p> <p>And yeah - everytime I see MIL she says she "wishes I could stay home" -- like I'm working against my will, or it's my husbands "fault" that I'm working..... Ha... She means well!</p> <p>@MrsF: haha, ok thanks - being with her for a few days had me doubting what is real and what is MIL-World. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-mils-say#post-1417052 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 08:56:45 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1417052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha oh dear! at least she cleaned, lol! :)</p> <p>My MIL told my mom that I shouldn't be a SAHM because I can just take my baby to work every day... "she lives in a small town, no one will mind if she brings the baby with her!" I'm in sales and visit clients all day... hahaha </p>