https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 18:07:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2113386 Wed, 18 Mar 2015 15:37:10 +0000 Cherrybee 2113386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Haha! I text my BFF (she has a super easy kid) last night and told her DD had been screaming in her cot for 2 hrs. She replied "I know its hard but have you tried controlled crying?". WTF?? My kid is screaming RIGHT NOW and ITS NOT WORKING! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112896 Wed, 18 Mar 2015 11:41:37 +0000 miramira 2112896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love reading these! I have to admit that I used to wonder why babies needed to nap so often... Now I know!!</p> <p>Sometimes I get odd comments from parents whose kids are now adults. I assume they just see their kids' childhoods through rose-tinted glasses and have blocked out all the tricky/stressful/unpleasant stuff (so functions the human mind!)</p> <p>My mum &amp; dad wonder why we don't just give formula to DS to make him sleep more or for convenience while we're out and nor do they understand why DS needs so much help to get to sleep (rocking). I guess my brothers and I just quietly drifted off on our own?? </p> <p>I have friends who don't understand why I can't just pop out to meet them anytime, anywhere. DS needs somewhere quiet to feed or else he'll have a meltdown and he needs to be able to sleep when necessary or else, that's right, he'll have a meltdown. Getting to and from these places on public transport can also be a whole other ordeal. Therefore I cannot sit all afternoon in a noisy, cramped cafe that is two buses away, sorry. Just come to me for goodness sake!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112721 Wed, 18 Mar 2015 09:29:10 +0000 Maysprout 2112721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a guest who would not leave (she was temp working in the area and ended up staying with us 2 months) and I started snapping at her when she'd scold LO. I don't usually mind if people say something but this guest was more of a pain than my 20 month lo.<br /> One time I had to take lo from the playground bc guest needed something and lo was following but said 'no stay' since we were leaving much earlier than planned and guest started scolding lo that she was not going to the playground anymore since she was being bad and whining. That resulted in lo laying down and crying so instead of having my lo follow me I had to carry my temper tantrum toddler home while hearing a parenting lecture from the most irritating guest who was way over staying her welcome. All because lo had the gall to say 'no stay'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112639 Wed, 18 Mar 2015 08:43:18 +0000 Modern Daisy 2112639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG I was totally guilty of this before becoming a parent!</p> <p>My friend never understood why i didn't just bring DS out to restaurants with us. Even when i finally caved and he threw a wild screaming fit and refused to eat a bite, forcing DH to have to leave with him before getting to eat himself. Now she has a baby :)</p> <p>I think in general it always irks me when non-parents pretend not to notice all the extra work we have to do and don't offer to help out. I can't tell you how many times everyone finished eating, then relaxed for a while and started to clean up.. Before I had a chance to eat! Someone take the baby!! Also i get a lot of crazy stares when i tell people that we put DS to bed before eating (our) dinner. Yeah, if you want to try to eat while dealing with an over tired screaming 18 month old, be my guest! Im not interested! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112614 Wed, 18 Mar 2015 08:24:00 +0000 808love 2112614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I can relate! Mine had similar sleeping issues for years and someone asked, What did you do wrong?! (I did everything right!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112248 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 19:43:54 +0000 Anagram 2112248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: OMG, yes. I had a Facebook acquaintance recently post that her 6 month old had slept 12 hours straight for the 5th night in a row. I said something like "sounds blissful--lucky mama! My 19 month old still wakes up at least once a night." </p> <p>And she answered, "well, I have ____ on a very strict nap and bedtime schedule. You should try that." </p> <p>AS IF MY CHILD HASNT BEEN ON A NAP AND BEDTIME SCHEDULE WITH ELABORATE BEDTIME ROUTINE SINCE SHE WAS 2 MONTHS OLD.</p> <p>I had to take deep breaths and X out of FB. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112189 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 18:45:29 +0000 Chuckles 2112189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cherrybee: exactly. I have a FB friend who kept posting photos of her one year old eating things like salmon, soba noodles, fancy salads and God knows what other crazy things (all home made from her CSA box, of course). And she kept writing about BLW and attributing his eating to that and her fancy food. And I was like, wait until you have a kid with major eating issues, then give me a call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2112106 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 16:54:37 +0000 Cherrybee 2112106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: I'm going to add to your statement, people who had reeeeeeeaaaaly easy babies/children. Oh, your baby slept through from 12 weeks because you [insert reason here]. Come to me when you've had #2 and if it worked a second time you're very lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2111655 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 11:43:36 +0000 LuLu Mom 2111655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just LOVE when non-parents have strong opinions on how they would/will do something...yeah talk to me when that happens because honestly you have no CLUE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2111279 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 08:59:59 +0000 BKCaribBaby 2111279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: YES! LO was not the easiest baby and my parent and non-parent friends would act like I was crazy. LO was always the baby screaming somewhere. No, I can't have her go to sleep at 9:30pm. She will be a hot mess tomorrow, etc., etc. Sigh...luckily most of my friends are parents now, so they get it to some degree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2111251 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 08:42:34 +0000 Orchid 2111251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: ha! Good idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2111248 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 08:42:13 +0000 Orchid 2111248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrandNewMom: @tiramisu: criticism in the early days is especially hard when you're trying to figure it out yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2111236 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 08:39:29 +0000 Orchid 2111236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: wow! What a thing to say!</p> <p>@SugarplumsMom: how crazy! I've learned a lesson too, we should have limited the visit; 4 days is too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand/page/2#post-2111044 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 01:56:52 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2111044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I learned my lesson: I will never, ever have non-parent houseguests. A friend stayed over and asked why I don't spank her(!) after DD kept interrupting our talk over a very hot and humid lunch. DD wasn't even 2. I just can't ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110986 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 22:57:36 +0000 irene 2110986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she asks one more question, give her one of those baby parenting / survival books that you have on your bookshelf and say, this will be a good read and can answer all your questions! I am sure you'd enjoy it during your stay. LOL</p> <p>I hate those childless people with the judgemental attitude. In her mind she probably thinks if you don't put your baby to bed at 7:30p, don't make him nap at 10am...etc. your baby will be cool as a cucumber. Can't wait to see her having kids of her own lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110901 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:30:59 +0000 mfa_lady 2110901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Just read this to my husband. WE. ARE. DYING. Amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110898 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:27:10 +0000 Foodnerd81 2110898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Orchid: similar experience this weekend- we went to a borderline kid friendly st pats party on Saturday. One of the hosts is dh's best friend. My 19 month old did great, she was happy, funny, entertained herself pretty well, and we even stayed past nap time. But as the party goers were getting more drunk (which, totally appepriate for them, just not for us to keep our baby at), I said we should go. Dh's friend wanted me and baby to take a cab home and leave Dh there and said things along the lines of "wow babies are so much work. They kind of ruin everything, huh?" </p> <p>The kicker is his wife is seven months pregnant so he will discover exactly how much things change really soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110855 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 19:30:33 +0000 tiramisu 2110855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I often wondered those same questions about babies, but now I get it. Since having my own baby I've definitely become less judgmental of other parents. We're all trying our best!</p> <p>@BrandNewMom: I got that all the time from my inlaws. They kept suggesting formula/bottles and rice cereal at 1 month old. I think since MIL didn't BF she didn't understand how much babies nurse in the beginning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110633 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:21:59 +0000 BrandNewMom 2110633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I hear "Why does she eat so frequently?" one more time, I'm picking the offender up and throwing them through a window!<br /> My MIL sent DH to check on me and baby every 15 minutes! Then she ate every 30-45mins, and she kept saying "She doesn't need to eat again! " SHE IS CRYING AND ROOTING CLEARLY SHE DOES </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110614 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:06:18 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2110614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My childfree best friend sent me a text the other day complaining about a toddler on the train who was having a fit and generally causing a scene. Her text said "Bad parenting. It's nice to know there are parents like you whose kids aren't like that." </p> <p>I had to let her know that she happens to have caught my child on good days, because we've had some epic scenes in public, and I'm embarrassed to know people have probably texted their friends about my 'bad parenting'!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2110590 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 14:50:59 +0000 Orchid 2110590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just have to add another one because I'm getting pretty annoyed about this! Non-parents seem to have pretty unreasonable expectations of kids. My 1 year old sat quietly through most of our church service this week, but he started to get antsy toward the end and I took him outside. I was pretty proud he sat quietly so long, but our guests wondered (asked us) if we took him out how he'd learn to sit quietly. Oh man! I had to bite my tongue. I almost can't wait for them to have their own kids so reality can catch up with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109486 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 19:15:30 +0000 Peasinapod 2109486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of my family seem to have forgotten that babies can be shy.... </p> <p>She's 6 months old, and eventually warms up. But if you walk in the door get in her face and try to grab her immediately she's going to be weary of you..... </p> <p>Happens every time even while I try to explain she'll need a min. I think they just think I'm over protective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109482 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 19:06:41 +0000 Mae 2109482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: luckily (i guess? lol) a lot of it comes from my mom so i just let her try and fail. "oh you think that LO will sleep in the car if YOU sit in the back seat with her? go for it! do whatever you want.... oh its been 2 hours and she is still not sleeping? I AM SO SURPRISED." ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109476 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 18:57:28 +0000 Orchid 2109476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: true! </p> <p>@Mae: @Looch: I agree! My LO is very challenging, especially in the sleep department and ppl without children don't get it, and some parents don't get it.</p> <p>@californiadreams: I'm paying the price for staying up late to watch a movie with my guests! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109398 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 16:26:55 +0000 californiadreams 2109398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i saw this thread yesterday and then experienced a moment last night. I went out for my friends birthday and it STARTED at 9:30pm! By 11pm (and with an hour commute to get home), i was ready to leave! One of my friend's friends didn't understand why i had to leave so "early". I explained I have a 2 year old at home (thinking that should be explanation enough) and their response was "isn't there a babysitter or someone who could get up and entertain your kid?". I just laughed and said my DH will be there but that doesn't mean my kid will let ME sleep in! </p> <p>And all day today i have been suffering because i went to bed so late and wondering if it was even worth it to go out at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109392 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 16:10:42 +0000 looch 2109392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Well said! I think sometimes some parents don't understand what I am going through parenting my son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109336 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 14:40:07 +0000 Mae 2109336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really know a lot of people that don't have kids, but I wish that everyone understood that every kid is different. Just because your kid would sleep in the car doesn't mean mine will. Just because you could just set your baby down in their crib and they would sleep doesn't mean mine would. Just because your baby will eat anywhere doesn't mean mine will. I think we have a more difficult than average baby and I'm constantly faced with people who seem to think I'm exaggerating or something? Like they basically don't believe me until they see her do whatever it is I said she does/doesn't do and then are like oh... I didn't realize it was really like that. YEP. You do you and I"ll do me and lets just all let each other be mmmk? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109246 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 12:38:22 +0000 farawayyama 2109246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Orchid: Thanks! I still have flare ups, but we know how to treat it now :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109053 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 01:27:39 +0000 Chuckles 2109053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tanjowen: That was totally me pre-kid! I used to invite my friends with kids over and thought I was being so awesome telling them that they could have their kids sleep in a pack and play in our room so they could stay longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-only-parents-seem-to-understand#post-2109029 Sat, 14 Mar 2015 23:58:15 +0000 jedeve 2109029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh another one!</p> <p>I don't want to get together is you are sick. At all. I don't care if it's been weeks or you think you are mostly over it or you think kids should build immune systems. I'm the one nose frida-ing for the next week if my boys catch your cold! </p>