https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:32:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619833 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 21:52:16 +0000 stiletto_mom 2619833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't felt bothered by comments about my bump, or weight. I don't mind when people want to touch my belly.</p> <p>But for some odd reason, I hate when people ask me if we've thought of names yet.</p> <p>... Yes, we have. But I'm not going to say I have LOL.</p> <p>The other thing that bugs me is when I say we are having a boy and their response is, "Oh good, boys are easier than girls". Or the stupidest comment said to my husband was "Yea, all the assholes I know have daughters. It means you are good guy." (like wtf, really?) A girl is not a punishment. &lt;_&lt;</p> <p>And the last one, "Your mother must be so excited".</p> <p>Actually, she's indifferent LOL My mom is not old-school at all. She could care less if I chose to have a child or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619633 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 14:45:58 +0000 skipra 2619633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with all the comments about baby's sex. We have 2 boys and all I ever hear is, "I hope it's a girl!" Or "you must really want a girl huh?" I had one person try to convince me that I desperately want a girl. I understand where they are coming from but it makes me feel like they think my boys are not good enough.<br /> As far as the comments after baby, I hate any related to my body, positive or negative. I just feel gross and don't want to be looked at! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619616 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 13:43:58 +0000 avivoca 2619616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One from today: "Oh, you still have awhile, the baby is too high." Excuse me, but what makes you think you know how I'm feeling or how low my baby is based on a casual glance? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619614 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 13:34:13 +0000 WinterBee 2619614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caterw: This! So much!<br /> My DH is a 'manly-man' so when we found out we were having a girl (our first) I actually had A LOT of people ask if my DH was OK with it, or still happy about the baby... ummmm YES. Are you freaking kidding me?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619500 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 05:43:18 +0000 erinbaderin 2619500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: At my "going on mat leave" lunch one of my (female but childless) coworkers said "I've never gotten a really long vacation like this, I bet you're going to have fun!" And sooo many people said "looking forward to your year off?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619498 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 04:51:39 +0000 Alba4 2619498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since I've had my second son 2 months ago, so many people ( including my Dr) talks about going for a girl. Wtf! Nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619386 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 17:41:06 +0000 pregnantbee 2619386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get the "how is she sleeping" question all the time. And someone then bragged about how she got her two kids to sleep through the night at 3w. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619298 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 11:52:57 +0000 catlady 2619298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This wasn't to me, but when one of my co-workers announced last year that her baby had been born, one of our male co-workers replied to her email by saying "Congrats! Enjoy your well-deserved break!" I wanted to slap him.</p> <p>I think the thing that bugs me the most isn't even a comment, but just the question, "how is she sleeping?" or "does she sleep through the night?". People were asking me this when she was like 3 weeks old. They still ask me now, and she is almost 3 years old. Just seems so odd that everyone is obsessed with that. I want to ask them how they sleep at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2619291 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 11:30:46 +0000 MrsB2012 2619291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KayKay: this is me exactly! Pregnant with my third, found out that the first 2 were girls. Not finding out this time. The comments! 'Oh going for that boy' ' oh you must want a boy so bad' 'hopefully it's that boy!' No. Hopefully it's healthy and I'll be thrilled either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2618965 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 17:37:35 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2618965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While pregnant, I very nearly went ballistic on the two men who suggested that life with a newborn was going to be "fun." I can think of all kinds of adjectives for those early weeks..."fun" didn't/doesn't come anywhere close to making the list!</p> <p>My MIL asking "how are you sleeping?"...for months (spoiler alert: I didn't give birth to a sleeping unicorn baby)...also made me crazy... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2618956 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 17:18:32 +0000 arosebyany 2618956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I literally laughed out loud at your last comment, I needed that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom/page/2#post-2618940 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 16:37:42 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2618940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also hate the 'enjoy every moment ', especially from strangers in Target when DD is having a meltdown. You know what would help? Getting me a coffee from Starbucks, not your snotty comment! </p> <p>I also hate when DD is fussy during dinner and MIL says "get used to not eating a hot meal!" it makes me want to punch her in the face. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618936 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 16:31:58 +0000 PinkElephant 2618936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A mom I know from DD's preschool saw me at orientation (still pregnant - our school break was only 6 wks long)...and said something, in a friendly way about "Oh my gosh you're still pregnant, it feels like it's been forever!" Which is sort of silly because no one at school even knew I was pregnant until I had difficulties around 20 wks and we told people because I was MIA from drop offs for a week or so - it's not like I was showing and everyone knew the second the stick turned pink! Anyway, not a good thing to say to an 8 months pregnant lady when it's in the high 90's in September, muggy, and school STILL hasn't started! :) She wasn't trying to be mean but I was just thinking "SERIOUSLY?!?!?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618927 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 16:21:09 +0000 runnerd 2618927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whenever the ILs are around and DS acts like a little brat (which seems to be EVERY time, they bring it out in him I swear), FIL says "y'all are doing a good job, mom and dad" in this way that makes me want to scream. The words are nice, but the way he says it makes me feel like we look like we are ready to throw ourselves over a cliff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618921 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 16:03:22 +0000 arosebyany 2618921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is an exact replica of DH, so everybody tells me "just wait till you have a girl, she'll look just like you" , and then roll their eyes when I say I'm done....ummm hello? Did you not here me I said DONE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618874 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 14:21:46 +0000 KayKay 2618874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This time around (Baby 3), I noticed how EVERYONE'S first question after learning you are pregnant is: are you going to find out the sex? I know they are just showing interest, and it didn't bother me as much with LOs 1 and 2 (maybe because the answer was a simple "yes" or "yes, it's a girl")? But this time, DH and I didn't agree, so it was a long drawn out answer with a lot of explanations, stories, and potential back-tracking. </p> <p>And of course, with 2 girls already, the inevitable comments about wanting a boy (me or particularly DH, despite neither of us caring at all). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618787 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:56:24 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2618787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: exactly! As he gets older, it just keeps getting better and better not because things are easy but because it's new and so fun! I have no time for negative Nancy's in my life 🙅🏻</p> <p>I also had a parent tell me that having teenagers was their favorite time of their kids' lives. Not common, I know, but it goes to show its not always as bad as people make it out to be </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618773 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:39:51 +0000 erinbaderin 2618773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: My MIL always asks "how's he feeding?" I don't know! He seems to be growing? Do you really want to hear about my boobs? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618771 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:38:18 +0000 mediagirl 2618771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: YES. Just you wait. I mean, this time is amazing, don't make me dread it! And you know what? I loved when she started crawling and walking. Why would I have to fear that? It was the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618739 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:07:34 +0000 MrsSCB 2618739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: my dad asks me almost every day, "how did he do last night?" Well, he didn't sleep much -- same as the night before. And the night before that. 🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618736 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:01:22 +0000 FaithFertility 2618736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: Yes!!! I posted about sleep also </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618735 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:00:25 +0000 FaithFertility 2618735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When strangers would ask about the baby's sleep?! I just couldn't understand why it mattered to them? If they were I feel like you got the ohhh how lucky you are and the next one will be hell or if they didn't they were ready to yell you the reason why not..,.......who asked you.....lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618732 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 11:49:27 +0000 josina 2618732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People asking if I'm hoping for a boy or girl. I don't get p/o'd at the question but it's a hard one to answer! My go-to is just a healthy baby, but I wouldn't ever want to say one or the other and then be disappointed if/when I got the opposite. </p> <p>Post-baby I hated the advice about getting baby to STTN - mainly 'add cereal to his bottle'. NO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618725 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 11:33:17 +0000 alphagam84 2618725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Yes! It bothered me so much when MIL would hold DD and she'd come back smelling like old lady perfume! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618488 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 00:00:32 +0000 BabyTsMom 2618488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"is he sleeping through the night?" from like 4 weeks on. wtf, people. And some of these people are parents also. I wanted to scratch their eyeballs out, slowly and one by one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618485 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 23:47:06 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2618485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caterw: ugh yes. DD2 is TWO WEEKS OLD and we've been asked a dozen times if we'll be trying for a boy. Let me heal a bit, and we'll be sure to get back to you on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618482 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 23:04:25 +0000 Corduroy 2618482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated everyone telling me baby wasn't hungry. My kids wanted to nurse all the time. I always invited the offender to try calming the LOs their way. Nobody ever managed. Don't tell me what my kids want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618449 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 21:45:08 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2618449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caterw: 👎👎👎 Seriously!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618447 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 21:44:07 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2618447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, I hated enjoy every minute. With lo1 between that and my MIL continually telling me it was normal adjustment and dd's crying was normal (hours on end) and suggesting that if I were older it would have been easier for me ("older moms are more used to things not going their way") I felt desperate with the PPD/PPA. With lo2 I didn't have it- I just got the regular baby blues and stress of new baby stuff- and it was WAY different. Plus he was more laid back. PPD/A are no joke. And neither is having a super fussy newborn. I've been on both sides, it wasn't a character/age thing on my part, not by a long stretch.</p> <p>Nap when the baby naps was also very useless.</p> <p>And also irritating breastfeeding comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-you-didnt-like-to-hear-when-pregnanta-new-mom#post-2618446 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 21:42:11 +0000 caterw 2618446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: @Mrs. Pen: OMG I hate that toooooooo! People always say "Just wait" in such a snotty tone that implies parenting only gets harder as you go. My kid is almost 3 and she is harder now than when she was a baby in some ways, but it's also so much more fun in other ways. No one mentions to wait until your kid becomes a super fun independent person. </p> <p>The worst one I've gotten lately is "Doesn't your husband want a boy?!?!?!?" when I tell them I'm pregnant with our second girl. First of all, there really isn't much I can do about it at this point and secondly, no my husband is thrilled with our perfect healthy pregnancy. He isn't waiting on a son and heir to inherit- this isn't the 1600s!!! </p>