https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 03:28:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy/page/2#post-1133119 Sat, 05 Oct 2013 07:32:42 +0000 Boheme 1133119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sapphiresun: ha! Funny enough, breastfeeding is wayyyyy more convenient than formula feeding :) Your MIL needs to slow her roll. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy/page/2#post-1132957 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 22:43:35 +0000 Sapphiresun 1132957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is actually surprisingly not annoying about my foray into motherhood. </p> <p>However, my MIL keeps asking when we're going to put Natalie on formula so she can spend the weekend with them alone. She's been asking since she was a week old, and they live a ferry ride that's closed at night away. I'm not Kim Kardashian... I don't plan to be away from my baby for an extended period at 8 weeks old. </p> <p>And then when I say I don't plan to give her formula at all, it becomes a lecture about how I'm going to get annoyed at the inconvenience of breastfeeding and DH was formula fed and turned out fine, and if I say ANYTHING about it being better to breastfeed gets defensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy/page/2#post-1132933 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 22:08:04 +0000 PurplePumps 1132933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate when she keeps on going on and on about how to make quick meals even though I'm just like ok, ok , got it, ok, fine. It's like every other time I call she's telling me the same thing about cooking a fast meal. I know she doesn't think I eat well, and sometimes I don't, but damit, I am capable of feeding myself and making a quick meal... and sometimes I'm too lazy and tired after work to do anything more than pour a bowl of cereal or just eat chips. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy/page/2#post-1132904 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 21:33:54 +0000 shopaholic 1132904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: LOL! I guess no more complains about the heat!</p> <p>My mom always asks immediately on the phone "why didn't you answer the phone?!" (if I am calling her back), or "what are you doing right now?!" But the tone is more like, like scolding. I think she thinks that since I don't work, I should be able to answer the phone immediately all the time. ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy/page/2#post-1132727 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 18:55:31 +0000 deerylou 1132727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Hedgehog: Thankfully, no! She actually has pretty good taste, to my relief. However, my sisters-in-law flood me with 'auntie' this and 'auntie' that. I hate that kind of thing, because when the hell else am I going to put her in it, besides when theh're around? I don't mind the mommy/daddy stuff as much because we're both with her on the regular but I vastly prefer no writing at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy/page/2#post-1132714 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 18:47:57 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 1132714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: does every outfit say "grandma" on it? No? Just my mom? Darn. I appreciate the clothes she gets its but they all say something about grandma. I get that she is proud but geeze. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132691 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 18:29:36 +0000 deerylou 1132691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom brings loot from Gymboree once a week, as we have a long withstanding 'date' every Monday afternoon. While I'm super thankful for the cute clothes, she always insists I put DD in a new outfit right upon opening the gift package. Wouldn't be a problem, but she keeps buying sizes that are too big for DD. She's 11 weeks, and only recently sizing out of NB gear, and my mom is hellbent on her wearing 3-6, or 6-9 month dresses. I try to tell her that while DD is indeed long, she's also teensy, but will look great in the outfits around Christmas time, and beyond. She gets all huffy and says something like, "Don't worry, sweetpea, you're the perfect size. Don't let your mother call you small!" Like, mom, I know, there's nothing wrong with her skinny little self, I'm just being honest that the clothes you buy currently fall off her. Arg! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132671 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 18:06:23 +0000 tinyperson 1132671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: ugh. My mom proceeded to tell a whole bunch of people that LO was a horrible sleeper! I was like how do you know? I'm the one up with her. It's not horrible - leave those sorts of comments to me thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132646 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 17:37:31 +0000 AprilFool 1132646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Hedgehog: @illumina: I don't understand the obsession with socks. My MIL is *always* going on about it. In our birth class they told us not to go by a baby's feet/hands to judge coldness because their circulation isn't great but to feel the back of the neck. Has always worked for me no matter how many times MIL has insisted she must need socks or I am freezing her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132329 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 14:14:33 +0000 Ellie 1132329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like my mom isn't the only one obsessed with the baby eating enough. Every day I hear her say something about how my LO is "starving". LO makes a whimper, mom pipes up: "poor girl is starving"</p> <p>No one in their right mind would look at my perfectly-plump baby and think she's starving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132314 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 14:09:53 +0000 MaisyMay 1132314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: That would drive me crazy. </p> <p>I was on the phone with my mom on Saturday, telling her that a friend was watching A at our house and putting her to bed so that DH and I could go out for his birthday. She tells me "It's too bad you couldn't have somebody watch her overnight so that you guys could go out" Yeah Mom. I've been trying to get you to visit for months now so that we could do that. She visits but they tend to be shorter visits that we'd feel really guilty leaving her at our place all night for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132305 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 14:05:51 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1132305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: She's been giving me a hard time about moving DD into her crib. She keeps asking me if she's sleeping in there by herself. I think she's insinuating that DD had night terrors because she sleeps in her crib in her room, by herself and that apparently means I don't watch her? </p> <p>@irene: I'm starting to get the potty training speech! What is it with Asian moms that swear their kids were potty trained before 1?! </p> <p>@illumina: Moms are just crazy! It's so common that it's normal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132304 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 14:05:29 +0000 avivoca 1132304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, my baby isn't here yet, but she's driving me nuts already. </p> <p>"You guys really need a sofa bed or something in your office in case anyone needs to stay over" ---&gt; meaning herself. </p> <p>"You're not turning into a vegetarian are you?" - in response to hearing some of my meals. I have GD and limit my meat intake. </p> <p>"I'm going to be telling the doctor what to do in the delivery room!" - Um, no, that's why you aren't allowed in L&amp;D.</p> <p>And my favorite: "We never took birth classes. We just went to the hospital and had a baby and it was unmedicated WITH Pitocin until they CUT YOU OUT." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132287 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 13:54:44 +0000 Lindsay05 1132287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These make me happy :)</p> <p>- "oh shes probably not feeling good" (everytime she whines or cries)<br /> - "is she still dancing?" (She has been over the dancing phase forever!)<br /> - "she never sleeps good" (told everyone this when lo was small even though she sttn) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132279 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 13:50:15 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1132279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"You just need to give that baby a bottle of juice at night and he'll fall right to sleep. If you'd just prop a bottle in his crib, he'd be fine."</p> <p>That used to be her comment to me aaaaaaall the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132275 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 13:49:29 +0000 Boheme 1132275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is refreshingly not annoying. MIL, however...ugh. She wrings her hands and worries about EVERYTHING I do with DS. 'Cloth diapers? Are you sure that wont give him a rash? A collared shirt? Are you sure that wont give him a rash? A fleece sleep sack? Are you sure that wont give him a rash?' For the love of all that is holy, woman! He's never had an f-ing rash!!!!</p> <p>That and 'Are you sure he's getting enough to eat? It just makes me worry that you breastfeed. You can't be sure he's getting enough to eat!' </p> <p>Or 'poor little guy!' about EVERYTHING... As if we mistreat him because he gets a bath, gets his diaper changed, gets buckled into the carseat, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132265 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 13:44:29 +0000 sunny 1132265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: OMG my MIL says that all the time!!!! It makes me so mad.</p> <p>My mom says little things all the time... They annoy me but it doesn't make me super mad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132256 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 13:41:06 +0000 MamaJ 1132256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: my MIL does the comparison with DS and his cousin who is 3 months younger too. DS started crawling at 9 months. When his cousin started at 6 months or so. She actually called me just to tell me that he was crawling and he was "so advanced". I wanted to throw my phone at the wall. When she babysits I say "oh DS is doing x now!" And she always says "yeah his cousin does that too!" Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132254 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 13:40:11 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1132254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Bahaha! Just the other day, I laid into DH for calling E "The Beast" and then decided it was kind of appropriate and have found myself referring to him that way, too. Ooooops. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132130 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:49:14 +0000 lovehoneybee 1132130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom lives across the country and the only thing that really bugs me is when I'm stressed out and she'll be like "oh just relax! " (this happened a lot during the year we were TTC...)</p> <p>I adore the heck out of my MIL, but she likes to call E "her baby" or "our baby". And especially when he was younger if he was crying she would say things like "Your mama must not be feeding you enough!" And when we're letting him fuss himself to sleep in the PnP at her house (because he doesn't sleep well when he's not in his own crib) she'll tolerate it for a minute or two (even if it's just a tired fuss as opposed to an actual cry) and then swoop in and say "Don't worry, Nana is here!"...despite having told us time and time again that we needed to let him fuss some of his energy out. </p> <p>She also freaked out that we were going to choke him when he first started solids. More than once DH would start to hand something to E, and MIL would grab it and cut it into a smaller piece (like pea-sized) piece. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132097 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:32:04 +0000 MrsScallop 1132097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, I could say lots of things, but the worst was recently when she was talking about how her mother drove her crazy then said to me, "I don't drive you crazy, do I?" Course, by answering that question, I just made everything worse. Oy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132084 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:25:14 +0000 LuLu Mom 1132084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lunch break conversation (I'm in a little disagreement with my sister today)<br /> Mom: you know how she is, you just have to do what she wants.<br /> Me: Serioulsy, you think I should "just do what she wants to shut her up, no mom, she's wrong"<br /> Mom: You know how stubborn she is just give in. </p> <p>UM really mother, how about telling your oldest child who is 33 to quit acting like a child and stop giving into her all the time! AGH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132077 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:22:23 +0000 Mrs. BD 1132077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, some of theses are highly entertaining. While I don't have a kid yet, I think about what type of mom I want to be all the time. Growing up, my mom was always much thinner that I was. She still is by the way, even at 60! I would watch her looking at the mirror, touching her belly, and say to herself "I'm so fat." She never said anything to me about my weight (I've always been in the healthy realm, never actually fat, but never as thin as her.) But, it really didn't matter. I would think to myself, "If she thinks she's fat, she must think I'm obese!" I thought this from such a young age! I remember being about 5 and having these feelings about my body. I had one of those cute bellies because my tummy muscles were really late to develop. I thought it was fat.</p> <p>I resolved from that day on that I would never say anything other than positive things about my body in front of my kids, no matter how old they are. It's amazing what impression you can leave on an innocent LO without realizing it. Something to think about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132061 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:16:27 +0000 irene 1132061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 20 months old.</p> <p>Mom: Sigh. You are still letting him feed himself? You didn't spoonfeed him? (Asian culture is to spoonfeed your child until they are a lot older to make sure they have enough to eat)<br /> Me: Yes. They won't spoon-feed him at daycare.<br /> Mom: Sigh. (frown) He is so cute. I feel so bad you are not giving him enough nutrition. He must be starving. How can he feed himself enough food ? He's so young!<br /> Me: Yes he feed himself enough. If he is hungry, he will cry. If he's full, he'd start throwing food on the floor. You know he's full.<br /> Mom: He got so skinny compared to when he was younger . You need to give him a bottle of formula before bedtime and at least once a day! He is not getting enough nutrition!<br /> Me: I tried. He won't take it. (Which is true. LO weaned himself at 11+ months off of formula)<br /> Mom: No, you need to MAKE him drink it.<br /> Me: If he won't drink it, how do I MAKE him drink it??????<br /> Mom: Why wouldn't he drink it? You MAKE him drink it! He's just a baby!</p> <p>Argh God. Then I raised my voice. Then she started yelling also saying I didn't need to raise my voice. Arghhhh. This basically happens every time I talk to her.</p> <p>Other than that, she also says that I should quit my job and be a full time SAHM, take my son out of daycare, and hire a maid if I can to help me out (Again, Hong Kong Culture). According to her, I am treating my son horribly by abandoning him in daycare all day. On top of that, I should have already potty-trained him when he was a newborn. Yes. A newborn. She is disgusted that LO is still on diapers, and she said I was off diapers when I was 15 months old except for overnight. All in all, she is saying I am basically really messing it all up. Thanks mom. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132051 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:13:36 +0000 dagret 1132051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and MIL are OBSESSED with L's sleep. </p> <p>My mom asks me *every single day* how L slept the night before. And my MIL keeps saying "put him to bed sooner!" Um, I would, but he is a whiny b*tch by 7:30, she should come over and try to keep him up if she thinks we should try it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1132035 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:05:41 +0000 junebugmama 1132035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother ask questions in a condescending tone. She does it all of the time. </p> <p>She's also totally terrible when you call her upset about something. She doesn't respond in a caring manner, but it one that actually fuels how upset you are. For instance my sister found out today that her children's lead levels are high. They wanted her to bring in her littlest for blood work. She called my Mom and asked if she could watch the older two. My Mom then goes on some rant about how it must be in her house and how they are all going to get brain damage unless she gets them out now. She's really awful lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1131919 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:24:08 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1131919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Hedgehog: oh my MIL does the same thing.... And she'll take pictures of DD when she's watching her, post them on FB, not tag me, and talk about how she's SO much like DH at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1131903 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:19:12 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1131903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Taco: lol! "Oh hush whiney"</p> <p>My mom doesn't say anything to irritate me, but she is overly clingy &amp; protective of LO, never at my expense. It might get annoying when lo is older and they are still spoiling him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1131700 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:22:33 +0000 rachiecakes 1131700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's seriously judge-y about everyone and every thing. And says, "should be interesting!" to when doing so. Drives me bonkers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/things-your-mom-says-that-drive-you-crazy#post-1131646 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:00:52 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 1131646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: I will say, I learned that with my LO you can tell she is cold by how cold her feet are. Drove me nuts when my mom would point that out every 5 min though. </p> <p>For me ours less of advice for DD and more of;<br /> -"She has been cranky today"<br /> -"it's because she misses her grandma. Bring me MY baby!" Or, "if Grandma had her she would be happy and having fun!" She is a month old mom. Fun for her out starting at things, kicking her feet, being carried or face first in a boob. No, she would not enjoy Vegas. (My mom honestly wanted to take my 6 week old on het business trip to Vegas because they "would have so much fun!" How?!?!</p> <p>Or DH's mom who, on every Facebook post, even if it is about how I saw a bug on the carpet or a picture of a spoon, we get "Kaia misses her Bubbie, Bubbie loves you Kaia!" Or, "Kaia needs her Bubbie, I can fix it." Ugh...</p> <p>Oh, and don't get me started in the grandma jealousy the two of them. One gets to see her more, one gets to spoil gets more, both are better grandmas than the other because of XY and Z. But neither see her enough and it "isn't fair". </p>