https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 07:40:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-481049 Fri, 04 Jan 2013 14:55:58 +0000 LindsayInNY 481049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MeredithNYC - Found you through another discussion post... Did you ever end up moving? We're moving from NJ to Manhattan in April and have considered the Westchester area if we decide to leave Manhattan down the road. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281859 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 15:18:54 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 281859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkBee: I'm glad you aren't stressing! And you're right, nerves are natural. I was very nervous to move to TX and that is no where near the same cultural difference as Canada to Georgia. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281796 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 14:38:31 +0000 PinkBee 281796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: I wouldn't say that I am stressing about per se, but making friends is a concern for me moving somewhere that is culturally different from where I have grown up. </p> <p>I definitely do not have any negative feelings towards GA, I am actually REALLY excited about this new experience in my and DH's life, but I do have my concerns and things that I am nervous about which I am sure is natural.</p> <p>I do not know anyone there other than my future colleagues, who are all part of an older generation than DH and myself.</p> <p>I would love to get ideas of great restaurants and things to do from you that would be great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281729 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 14:00:47 +0000 looch 281729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I waver back and forth, sometimes I am dying to move, other times I just want to stay put. Some days are better than others! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281726 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 14:00:07 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 281726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkbee: I think you might be over stressing. Have you heard a lot of stories about people being ostracized because of their beliefs? Some people may ask you about church, but I doubt all of them will. I don't want you to have bad feelings about the place before you move. I think it's pretty great. Of course I grew up there so I am biased. Do you know anyone who currently lives there? If not, I'd be happy to email you about some restaurants, things to do, etc. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281688 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 13:46:10 +0000 meredithNYC 281688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: Oh, that will be great. Love that city! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281599 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 13:06:52 +0000 plantains 281599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: it is really tough. I'm taking DD to London in October to visit and I'm so excited to have a break and some support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281525 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 12:40:32 +0000 Honeybee 281525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are working on relocating right now, and it is a scary process. Thinking about it makes me really nervous, but DH and I are committed to relocating to a place that will be better for raising our children. It's just all the unknowns that scare me; I'm very much a routine-oriented person, so thinking about all the changes makes me nervous. Once we get some plans better established, I'll feel better about the whole move, I'm sure...</p> <p>Anyway, I just wanted to commiserate and let you know you're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281482 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 12:15:11 +0000 meredithNYC 281482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: Aww... you're a long way from home! Are you doing okay/getting enough support with LO? It's hard to be that far away from family, I would imagine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281473 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 12:12:25 +0000 plantains 281473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: haha, yes I am English. Dead giveaway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281159 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 08:25:08 +0000 meredithNYC 281159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: Yeah, I think I'm going to have to cave and get involved with a mom group. I'm in one in Park Slope and it's actually really nice to have other women to talk to (so you don't have to bore your friends without children, you know?).</p> <p>Are you English, by the way? I only ask because of the use of "mum", though I know it's common in other places, too. My husband is English and I like when he refers to me as LO's mum. I think it's sweet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-281004 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 23:10:37 +0000 plantains 281004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: I have a really good friend who recently made the move from NYC to Stamford and while it wasn't easy, she said joining a new mums meetup group in Stamford really helped a lot. Plus you can hop on MetroNorth once a week to visit friends. That should make the transition easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280990 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 22:14:03 +0000 PinkBee 280990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I definitely don't discriminate when making friends and currently have friends of many different religions and political leanings.</p> <p>However in Canada, religion and politics are not talked about often and it is easy to avoid those topics. And these views are rarely pushed onto others and this is a trait I look for in friends.</p> <p>I have heard that the location I am moving to is very religion based, meaning that the first question people ask you when you meet is "what church do you belong too?" When they find out that you don't attend church they no longer want to socialize with you. Now obviously not everyone in this city will be like this; however, I have received this information from future colleagues that are not religious and so I find this concerning.</p> <p>Although, I won't discriminate against being friends with people with differing views it also nice to be surrounded with like-mided people, which I am sure you can appreciate, and thus I am interested in seeking out like-minded individuals. </p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks for the link! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280656 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 15:16:38 +0000 Mrs. Pen 280656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkBee: coming from a conservative Christian - I think I would be sad if I met someone and later found out they didn't want to pursue a friendship with me simply because I have a different belief system than they would... Not in a bad way, but isn't it kinda like social discrimination?? Idk, I have friends who think and believe differently than I do. And isn't diversity so important? I don't think I'd want my LO to grow up only around one mindset anyway, lest he grow up close-minded and discriminatory against others.</p> <p>I have moved a few times in my life and making friends is always hard. Actually, I've found it harder to make mommy friends than making friends when I was single.</p> <p>I find it awkward approaching other moms, and LO isn't old enough where he plays at the parks or other places. He is so little, so I have no idea how to meet others either..</p> <p>I don't have any advice, I mean it sounds like moving to CT is the best option for your family, but I understand it can be hard! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280642 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 14:52:45 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 280642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkbee: I grew up in Augusta. Not everyone there is conservative or a Christian. The small towns surrounding it is a different story. :) Also, you'll find nice people there. I don't think you'll get shunned automatically for your beliefs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280613 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 13:39:30 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 280613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkBee: Here you go! <a href="http://livingliberally.org/drinking/event/Drinking-Liberally-Augusta-140" rel="nofollow">http://livingliberally.org/drinking/event/Drinking-Liberally-Augusta-140</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280582 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 13:06:51 +0000 PinkBee 280582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Sorry I meant Spousal visa not travel visa. So he can stay as long as I am there!</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Unfortunately, I am going to be in Augusta, not in Atlanta. I wish I was moving to Atlanta I love that city!!!!!<br /> Do you know if there is a group like this in Augusta? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280389 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 09:28:48 +0000 spaniellove 280389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We lived in Philly, like in the heart of the city for a decade and recently moved out to the suburbs of NJ so I can definitely relate. It's been tough for me out here b/c I don't have a LO yet and although it's a nice area there doesn't seem to be anyone close to our age. I've looked for programs to support moms in my area, but it turns out everyone had their babies 15-20 years ago and are looking to retire soon! </p> <p>So although your question was about the adjustment, I might recommend finding a home in an area where you'd be surrounded by people you feel are your peers. That just makes it so much easier to make friends when you go out for walks and stuff like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280387 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 09:27:08 +0000 looch 280387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: I'll post the address on your wall, I'll delete it in a few minutes. Send me an email, if you'd like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280385 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 09:25:57 +0000 meredithNYC 280385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: No worries - I totally understand the privacy issue. Would love to talk more about it with you, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280383 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 09:18:57 +0000 looch 280383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: we have a short term plan, then for our long term, we're still working on it. Too bad we can't PM, I am kind of a privacy freak....oh wait, I forgot I have a non real name email addy, if you want to write privately.</p> <p>I grew up in the area, moved away when I went to college and haven't lived there since. It's a great place for families. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280381 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 09:12:18 +0000 meredithNYC 280381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Oh, do you know where, specifically, you're moving to yet? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280372 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:55:23 +0000 mynoahbear 280372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice but I understand your nervousness. We are moving next month to Beijing and I'm definitely not looking forward to it. Everyone says it's easy to make new mommy friends when you have a LO but I don't think it is. I'm not outgoing at all and even though I take LO to swim classes and Gymboree, I still find it hard to make friends. I just find moving extra stressful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280369 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:49:12 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 280369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkBee: There is a group called "Drinking liberally" that meets all over the country. It's a really great group of fun liberals, plenty of whom are atheist.</p> <p>Atlanta is a large metro area and there will be plenty of likeminded people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280367 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:48:29 +0000 looch 280367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkBee: That's interesting, if he has a travel visa, does he have to leave the country and re-enter every so often? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280363 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:46:18 +0000 PinkBee 280363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have the same fears as you, in January I am moving from Canada to Georgia for a position for me.</p> <p>We are TTC and so we won't have a baby to help us meet friends and I am worried how we are going to be able to find like minded friends (liberal and atheist) in the deep south.</p> <p>I am also worried because DH doesn't have a job down there yet and he needs to find a position that is willing to sponsor him for a visa (his travel visa only allows him to live in the US not work).</p> <p>It's all sooo nerve wracking and I understand everything you are going through! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280361 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:42:21 +0000 looch 280361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I moved abroad where I knew no one, it was tough, but I was working so that made it palatable. It got more difficult when my son was born and I became a SAHM. I find it more isolating.</p> <p>Anywho, we're getting ready to move back to the US, to the same area @meredithNYC! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280359 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:40:59 +0000 meredithNYC 280359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel so silly being worried about this, particularly as the part of Connecticut we would be moving to is so close to NYC and easily accessed by train. It's just that we did a little drive up there yesterday to have a look around and it's SO different. It's very suburban, which, okay, many/most places are compared to NYC. And I know that the open space and relative calm and tranquility is best for LO, but wow - it's such a change.</p> <p>I have also worried that because LO is so young and not yet in school we would have trouble meeting other people. So it's reassuring to hear that this might not be the case! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280349 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:35:49 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 280349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved to Utah where we knew no one when Lala was 4 months old. Having babies naturally means that you'll make friends quickly. You just have to put yourself out there for mom groups, baby classes, and neighborhood activities.</p> <p>I've never made friends so quickly as I have here... and I think it's the babies :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thinking-about-moving-and-getting-really-nervous-about-it#post-280339 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 08:24:29 +0000 MamaBehr 280339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we moved to Texas (my husband and I are both from New York), and I had this exact same problem. Except I found out I was pregnant with baby 2 about two weeks after we moved (and craziness then ensued with a weird pregnancy). It was scary, but what helped with finding friends was "mommy and me" stuff. I did a swim class with my daughter (who is 2.5 years old), and found a babybootcamp class. That has helped a LOT! I know exactly what you are going through, but you have to make the decision that is right for your family, even if it might stink in the beginning (my husband says that we should move back whenever I am having a tough day, but we can't have the kind of life there that we do here so I always say no) A year later in hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot Texas, I am now beginning to like our life down here. And, at least all your friends in Queens would just be train ride away! </p>