https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 16:18:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2572482 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 16:14:32 +0000 jhd 2572482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: big hugs, mama! this sounds so rough. i hope you are all able to get some rest. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2572469 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 16:05:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 2572469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well turns out she has another bad ear infection- finished the antibiotics last Thursday from the last one. Baby had her shots today and only wants to nap on me but the toddler keeps screaming and crying. Just now I thought she might nap when the toddler started screaming, come out and she is peeing her pants instead of just going to the bathroom. And Dh is sad I'm "making" him skip a stupid company outing to a kids amusement park on Friday when he is back. </p> <p>The worst part is no one at all can even help. Both children only want me (or maybe Dh, who is in FL). This just really really sucks. Even if I asked our sitter to come tonight when she is done with her other job there's not much she could do. I give up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2572297 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 13:51:23 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2572297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: oh that sounds just awful!! But like @oliviaoblivia: said, you can make it through, even if it's not pretty. I hate when my husband is away for more than one night. Inevitably, something goes wrong (illness, dog gets skunked, flat tires, etc). I get through it with lots of TV, paper plates, microwave dinners, and family bed for nighttime. Also, we all get to cry. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2572110 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 12:11:33 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2572110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kimberlybee: what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2572030 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:40:12 +0000 Kimberlybee 2572030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Wow you are such a strong woman to have survived that and during your c-section recovery too. You are amazing! Illnesses be gone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2572018 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:33:57 +0000 Kimberlybee 2572018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: So sorry for the ongoing sickness. Hope it passes quickly and thoroughly makes it's exit from your household. I stock up on those all purpose, food safe disposable gloves from Costco or Sam's Club because washing in my hands too much will dry them out. I let big sister watch lots of TV as needed or iPad usage. It's ok to let one of them cry while you take care of the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571995 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:11:12 +0000 ocean81 2571995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry, this sounds awful. I can take the baby for a walk if you need a break from one kid! Let me know if I can do anything at all or even run any errand, I can just drop it at your doorstep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571978 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:52:45 +0000 catlady 2571978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds so hard and miserable! I remember going through the non-stop illness stuff for close to 2 years with mine and honestly I'm super worried about this situation when #2 arrives. :/ Hope you all start to feel better soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571971 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:35:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@smocks: I'll check out that hand cream, thanks! Somehow Dh usually manages to not catch all our germs, which is lucky. I just feel like the rest of our immune systems are so so worn down. All I can manage to do is Lysol wipe the door knobs and do tons of laundry, then leave it in the laundry basket for a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571964 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:30:41 +0000 smocks 2571964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Oh man I am sorry. We went through that earlier this year, for probably a full month. DS had a GI bug, then DD got the GI bug, then DH got the GI bug, then DD got hand-foot-mouth (mild), then DH got HFM (severe), then DD got pinkeye, then DS got RSV. I manage to get through relatively unscathed with a minor cold. It was horrible. DH works 60-80 hrs per week (and does not get sick time), I work 40+ hrs full time and thankfully I was able to work from home for a lot of this bc I blew through almost all my sick time for the year that month.</p> <p>My dad took pity on me toward the end of it all and came out for about 3 days to help - both our parents' live 6+ hours away. He helped piece us back together when the bulk of the illnesses were gone.</p> <p>Let the housework go, besides the necessary stuff to keep the germs at bay. I had a spray bottle of bleach/water and paper towels on hand, we must have gone through 2 bottles of bleach with all the sanitation/laundry. Food - delivery, or freezer meals with zero prep. Paper plates for everything.</p> <p>And get yourself some "O'Keefe's Working Hands" hand cream - it is amazing stuff. It saved my hands during the winter when I was handling an insane amount of laundry/cleaning products/hand washing. It's like $6 on amazon.</p> <p>You'll get through it soon and it'll be a distant memory soon! Sending you strength and patience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571958 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:18:28 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also thank you everyone for this support. It sucks but it's nice to have the virtual hugs and commiseration. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571956 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:17:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: luckily the baby is doing pretty well with night sleep at this moment- she will wake up to nurse but usually only once and usually goes back to sleep easily. It's the toddler who stays up. So in thinking if I bring her into bed on DH's side, then when the baby wakes up (she sleeps in our master bathroom because things are awesome like that) I'll grab her quick and nurse in the living room then bring her back and lay her down. Hopefully minimizing them waking each other up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571947 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:09:47 +0000 Pumuckl 2571947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Hope the dr. will have a good solution to the cough. I would usually just put myself between the kids as a barrier when they were both in bed with me. This to shall pass, but FX it passes quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571944 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:06:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: we just did a family shower. I wanted her to get some steam for the cough and the baby wouldn't nap, so I brought the bouncy seat in for the baby. I took a nice hot shower while the toddler played with some bath toys next to the bath, cooled the water off a bit and brought her in the wash too. Of course by now the baby is totally overtired and once she finally falls asleep I will have to wake her up for our doctors appt, but it is what it is. I tried napping earlier kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571887 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 08:27:25 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2571887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And yes! Paper plates is key! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571886 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 08:26:15 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2571886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Bath time is the best for us! Keeps them entertained and I can "rest" a bit. Especially for the cough, just let her play in the bath and keep refilling with hot water as needed while you hold/nurse the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571878 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 08:21:31 +0000 snowjewelz 2571878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice but wanted to send you many many virtual hugs :heart: You just have to get through 1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day at a time; you can do it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571845 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 07:51:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: she has another job on weds or I might. Last night it was so nice- she gave LO dinner then cleaned up the whole kitchen and emptied the dishwasher, so when I got the baby to sleep I didn't have to do anything else. I'm considering paper plates today so I can just throw everything out. </p> <p>On the plus side the fever seems to have broken. She just has a non stop cough now. If the baby ever goes down for her nap I'll bring the toddler into the bathroom for a hot steamy shower. And we already have a pediatrician appt today so I'll be looking for advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571814 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 07:26:19 +0000 Anagram 2571814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Can you call the baby sitter to come today and switch days? Or can you just pay for additional hours and have her come today for a bit so you can sleep with one of the kids at nap time?</p> <p>We always fly in one of our parents when DH has to go out of town for more than a couple of days. I don't even want to attept solo parenting for a week--like you, it's not really the days, it's the nights (both of our girls still wake every night).</p> <p>I would definitely put on about 12 hours of TV today for the older one, don't cook anything, don't worry about cleaning, and try to get a double nap so you can rest, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571809 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 07:22:04 +0000 LulaBee 2571809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you hugs mama!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571787 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 07:03:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: oh my god. Ok yeah, if you can handle that, you can handle anything! I was a little afraid they would send us to the ER on Monday when my thermometer read 107 at one point but I, and the pediatrician, are pretty sure the reading was off since she was 104 when we got to the office. And she was acting ok- sick, but not listless and hard to stir or blue. </p> <p>@regberadaisy: he gets back tomorrow night. My mom is a five hour drive away. I had actually asked if she would come up while Dh was away, before all the sickness descended, but she and my dad had tickets for a Broadway show that they booked months ago. If not for that she would have come just to help me in general and spend time with the girls- we don't have a guest room but when he is away she can just stay with me in the bed. I might have cried a little this morning because I want my mom. Also because I've been sick for three weeks and am going on 3 hours of broken sleep from last night but mostly I miss my mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571781 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 06:44:15 +0000 regberadaisy 2571781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: ugh. I'm so sorry! How much longer is DH away for and how far away is your mom?</p> <p>I hope you all get some naps in today. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571780 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 06:36:37 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2571780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a couple months like that right before and immediately after number three was born. It was so so awful. I'm really sorry everyone is so sick. :sad:<br /> I wish i had a magic cure for you, but it really was just time that we needed.<br /> I remember thinking on our worst day that if I could handle that day we'd be fine. The baby was six days old and I needed to take my 12 month old to the ER because she turned blue and then spiked a 105° fever. DH was in a meeting so it meant going by myself with three kids while recovering from a c-section. My sister was able to come for a few hours of it but then had to get in a cab to the airport to go back to California.<br /> I have never felt so completely in over my head but we survived and it really did give me the confidence that I could handle being a mom to three.<br /> You can do this. It will involved the Paw Patrol, and goldfish crackers and takeout dinner. But you can do this.<br /> Hugs friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571776 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 06:26:29 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: oh there will be lots and lots of couch time today. And I've been dosing liberally with Motrin and sometimes alternating with Tylenol. It's just a really crappy virus! I may have given the 6 month old infant ibuprofen when she only borderline needed it yesterday though. </p> <p>Update- the toddler woke up and it seems like her fever broke. She has not had meds since 12:30 am and she doesn't feel Feverish. So that's something. But she's still coughing a lot. And I worry about the rest of us catching it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571772 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 06:08:43 +0000 MrsSRS 2571772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bring the toddler into my bed and/or dose with motrin and/or benadryl with the theory that the benefit of rest when sick outweighs the negatives of using meds. Sometimes everyone ends up in my bed. Sometimes everyone cries. During the day we do a lot of couch snuggling with cartoons while nursing. I got really good at snuggling one while nursing the other. It sucks. Sorry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571771 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 06:05:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 2571771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrswin: we just started using a regular sitter and she came yesterday afternoon and again tomorrow afternoon. So that helps a lot but it's the nights that are going to do me in since that's when we all feel worst. I don't anyone who could come stay over. And no one who wants to take care of a sick toddler during the day anyway. </p> <p>@Pumuckl: I'm going to ask the pediatrician how contagious she probably is at this point. I'm worried about then waking each other up or the toddler getting the baby sick, but I think I may try bringing the toddler into our bed tonight. Then at least I can hear the baby when she wakes up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571770 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 06:01:37 +0000 mrswin 2571770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I'm so sorry that sounds really rough :crying: Do you have a regular babysitter you use that you can ask to come over? Maybe a friend? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571755 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 05:04:55 +0000 Pumuckl 2571755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah my kids used to this to me when I was still solo parenting a lot too. Just like @Cherrybee: said at some point someone is going to cry ;( Sometimes bringing them both into bed with me helped. But that is not a strategy that works for everyone. Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571754 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 04:51:04 +0000 lamariniere 2571754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just hugs! Feel better soon! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-is-impossible#post-2571744 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 01:54:32 +0000 Cherrybee 2571744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Sending you big, comforting hugs. :heart: You just cant win with it; at some point, someone's gonna cry - you've only got two hands. I usually let the baby cry for a bit, then tell E she has to wait while I feed S, then listen to her cry for a bit. </p> <p>We are dealing with our first baby cold right now and it sucks. </p>