https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 22:28:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-mom-explains-why-she-will-not-teach-her-children-to-share#post-1788146 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 20:49:54 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1788146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mostly agree with it. As does DH. A child shouldn't have to cut short what they were doing just because another child also wants to do it. On the other hand, I feel like it's part of teaching empathy &amp; care for others when you teach your child to acknowledge others around them &amp; their wants &amp; needs too. Personally, I feel sharing is a better concept for when they have trouble seeing anyone play with any toys at that are "theirs" even if they weren't using it at the time. Then we need to explain why it's important to shar. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-mom-explains-why-she-will-not-teach-her-children-to-share#post-1788116 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 20:27:58 +0000 artsyfartsy 1788116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Oops I missed it!! Never mind then. I didn't look hard enough. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-mom-explains-why-she-will-not-teach-her-children-to-share#post-1788115 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 20:27:22 +0000 pui 1788115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this the other day. I agree with some of it.</p> <p>I do not think children need to share things they own if they don't want to, at least not immediately upon someone else showing interest in it (like her example of a bringing a toy to the park). However, in the case of communal toys that belong to everyone, I think it's wrong to teach a child they can just hog a toy forever without letting any other child have a chance. That toy isn't theirs and I think "I had it first" is a poor reason to not share it with anyone else as long as you want. As an adult I am annoyed when, say, someone hogs the air hockey machine at the arcade without letting anyone else have a turn. It's a shared machine, so it should be shared. It's rude not to.</p> <p>On the flip side, I do see the value in teaching a child to be patient when someone else is using something and not to feel entitled to it. I think it's a balance the article isn't quite hitting. Still an interesting concept to read! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-mom-explains-why-she-will-not-teach-her-children-to-share#post-1788114 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 20:27:17 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1788114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. Maybe "taking turns" is just so ingrained in me. If I didn't enforce turns between my boys (almost 1 and almost 3) the 1yo would get shafted all the time.</p> <p>I don't think sharing is necessary in all situations though (like the older kid asking for the kid's toy at the playground) and don't make my older son share his "special" toys (like his lovey blankets) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-mom-explains-why-she-will-not-teach-her-children-to-share#post-1788111 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 20:26:00 +0000 lawbee11 1788111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I think that's the same article referenced in this thread: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sharing#post-1778993" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sharing#post-1778993</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/this-mom-explains-why-she-will-not-teach-her-children-to-share#post-1788103 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 20:23:16 +0000 artsyfartsy 1788103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nevemind. There's already been a thread posted about this. Lawbee linked it below. Let's just let this thread die </p>