https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 03:27:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772223 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 14:21:43 +0000 tequiero21 1772223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: hugs! I can only imagine. I know it's not the same, but I feel that way about my first baby. Why couldn't he/she have made it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772128 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:47:08 +0000 imbali 1772128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: sending :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772114 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:43:27 +0000 swedishfish 1772114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: yeah, I know how hard it would've been. My aunts are identical twins and I know others with twins. I just feel like I wasn't good enough to carry twins and others were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772108 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:41:47 +0000 swedishfish 1772108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: it was worse than my miscarriage (it IS a form of a miscarriage) not physically, but emotionally. I was all over the place because I still had a healthy pregnancy so it's like I wasn't allowed to be upset about the loss. At least with my miscarriage I was allowed and expected to grieve. My miscarriage in March was more more difficult on me physically even though my vanishing twin was a few weeks later in the pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772074 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:31:49 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1772074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can imagine a vanishing twin is just has hard as any other miscarriage. Hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772049 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:22:45 +0000 Trailmix 1772049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. Fwiw, twins are really effing hard. Sometimes I am jealous of singleton moms. Not that this changes anything for you or discredits your feelings, just wanted to give another perspective... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1772015 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:10:37 +0000 GreenThumb 1772015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: I'm sorry - it is such a tough thing to wonder about. Hugs!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771973 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 13:02:04 +0000 Boheme 1771973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: @swedishfish: So sorry. :heart: What ifs are so hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771909 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 12:52:52 +0000 winniebee 1771909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: so sorry :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771908 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 12:52:44 +0000 littlek 1771908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a vanishing twin but it was super early. I don't really think about it. I don't think my body could handle a twin pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771903 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 12:51:33 +0000 swedishfish 1771903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: :heart: I held out hope for a while too. I guess I wasn't meant to have two babies at one time.</p> <p>@rahlyrah: @bluestriped bee: @twodoghouse: @.twist.: thanks. I appreciate the love. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771692 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 12:04:36 +0000 .twist. 1771692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry mama. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771690 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 12:03:48 +0000 twodoghouse 1771690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine. :heart: Love to you both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771636 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 11:44:53 +0000 BSB 1771636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm so sorry. I have no advice but it's so sad when I hear of vanishing twin. Hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771630 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 11:43:29 +0000 Ra 1771630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771628 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 11:42:49 +0000 swurlygurl 1771628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ALL the time :(<br /> I wasn't even supposed to see L's twin, but I had previously had an ectopic pregnancy so they got me in really early to make sure the baby was in fact in my uterus. I saw both heartbeats super early, but the next week when I went back there was only one. I spend a lot of time thinking about how awesome having twins would be, and knowing that L should/could have had a sibling<br /> I even held out hope through delivery that the 2nd was there but she was just hiding on all the ultrasounds or something :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/those-who-had-a-vanishing-twin#post-1771619 Mon, 21 Jul 2014 11:39:21 +0000 swedishfish 1771619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you ever wonder what life would be like if both babies had made it? I get really down sometimes thinking about it. It's hard losing a baby once you've seen a heartbeat (we saw a heartbeat for the vanishing twin and my miscarriage this year). I'm so lucky to have R but seeing twins everywhere lately makes my heart hurt. Why couldn't both of MY babies have made it? </p>