https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 01:02:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1212397 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 22:17:36 +0000 Foodnerd81 1212397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: I completely agree nursing to sleep, or almost asleep, isn't bad for all babies. But it just was not working for c. I think she was falling asleep just long enough to get a second wind to fuel the crying. And she wakes up half the time when in transferring her. So I feel like it wasn't fair to her to be inconsistent like that. If it was working I definitely would have kept up with it until she was a little older. I'm not ready to give up the early morning snuggles with her in our bed, that's for sure. I did nurse close to bedtime but kept her awake, in the living room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1212356 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:59:59 +0000 lolabee 1212356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: We do the same as @scg00387: and it *knock on wood* still works like a charm at 9 months. That said our wake ups are not good.<br /> I'm in the camp of go with what you're comfortable with and is working well for your family but keep it consistent! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1212322 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:40:02 +0000 immabeetoo 1212322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: It sounds like you're set in your plan, but wanted to say that we've nursed before putting him in the crib since day one (although he rarely, if ever, actually falls asleep nursing). Sometimes he gets sleepy, sometimes he doesn't, and it has no effect either way on how his night sleep goes. With that said, I do think it would be confusing to change the routine every day. So I'd pick one or the other... but know that every baby is different, and nursing to sleepy isn't a bad thing as long as LO is falling all the way asleep in their crib :) (and it isn't a bad thing to nurse all the way to sleep, if that's what is working, of course)</p> <p>ETA- LO is 11.5m and has STTN since 9mish. We did PU/PD no cry sleep training at 5.5mish so he went down on his own instead of being rocked. That also had no effect on his night wakings (usually 1 from 3-8m, then went to 2 for a month, then none) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1212271 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:09:48 +0000 Smurfette 1212271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: awesome!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1212254 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 20:57:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 1212254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: put her down tonight without any nursing to sleep! She cried for five minutes and fell asleep after just a couple more minutes of fussing. We will see how long it lasts but it is such an improvement over last week! Also she gained a whole pound in two weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210543 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 10:26:38 +0000 Foodnerd81 1210543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: yup, I think I am confusing her. I am probably being selfish, truth be told, bc I hate hearin her even fuss, even if I know it's for her own good. </p> <p>She actually just fussed to sleep for her nap. I had nursed to sleep and she woke up, so I settled her and said good night. Less than 15 minutes. This weekend I guess its sleep boot camp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210493 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 10:15:34 +0000 illumina 1210493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice really, just wanted to say I'm glad you're making progress :) not sure if it's the right thing or not- but I'll happily let S fuss it out for as long as it takes... She either falls asleep or cries. I figure she's not really upset until she cries for assistance because she can't quite put herself to sleep that time. Pretty much every night she fusses to sleep from wide awake. Naps are different and we have to sing her to sleep whilst cuddling. The biggest issue with naps is trying to stop her squirming long enough to settle. In a week or so I'll move to trying to sing/cuddle til she's still, then try putting her down drowsy but awake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210466 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 10:09:24 +0000 hilsy85 1210466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I think it's up to you whether you want to bite the bullet and do naps at the same time, or wait and do them later. I think babies separate day and night sleep so it doesn't have to be the same for naps as it is at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210462 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 10:08:39 +0000 loveisstrange 1210462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would stop, to be honest. It's probably confusing her why some nights she get to nurse to sleep and some she doesn't. Babies thrive on routine and consistency is seriously the biggest thing when doing sleep training of any kind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210435 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 10:01:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 1210435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe this weekend we bite the bullet and cut the comfort nursing entirely. She's closer to 4 months which makes me feel better about it. I do think her night wakings seem to be hunger- the time varies by a couple of hours and is usually more than 6 hours from her last feed (not counting the comfort nurse). I can put her down awake from the motn feed and she fusses for 10-15 min. </p> <p>Next is when do I do this for naps?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210409 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:55:45 +0000 Cherrybee 1210409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: That's what we found when we stopped rocking E to sleep (at about 8 weeks)!! She actually fell asleep faster lying in her bed, sucking her dummy, than she did being rocked!!!! I really need to bite the bullet and move the bedtime bottle to before her bath..... but like you, I find that it relaxes her so wonderfully, I'm reluctant to give it up!! But I can't help but think that it's a sleep association we will need to break if we ever want her to soothe herself to sleep at night and not require a night feed.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210374 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:48:49 +0000 hilsy85 1210374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I mean I think it's up to you whether or not you want to do it sometimes, but I do think consistency is one of the most important elements of sleep training, so just something to keep in mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210355 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:44:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 1210355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The reason I'm hesitant to stop it altogether is half te time it works, I put her down asleep and she stays asleep, therefore avoiding all crying. But I think that's probably prolonging the crying on the nights she wakes up? She actually falls asleep faster fussing on her own than he did being bounced and rocked, which was also breaking our backs (and my spirit!). </p> <p>Thank god her night wakings are back to her 'normal'- one between 1-4 am, and then again sometimes bf 6, when I bring her into out bed and nurse to sleep there. I also made a rule in my head that I won't feed her again before midnight when she wakes up, which hasn't been an issue since Friday anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210323 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:37:17 +0000 Smurfette 1210323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally stop if you can!! Instead of nursing can you just rock her while singing? After R gets her bottle at night, I burp her and then rock her and sing and I think it helps her to calm down and get in night night mode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210312 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:35:01 +0000 Silva 1210312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was a bit older when we started doing some crying/ fussing. The first week we sleep trained her I nursed her before bed and then put her down in the co-sleeper. She woke up during transfer (and then fussed or cried until she slept) the first three or four nights we did it. Then she started staying asleep. We did this for about a week. Her night time wakings never reduced. I found this this article: <a href="http://www.troublesometots.com/when-baby-sleep-training-doesnt-work/" rel="nofollow">http://www.troublesometots.com/when-baby-sleep-training-doesnt-work/</a><br /> and so we started nursing her about 15 minutes before bed, and then we do the rest of the routine, diaper, PJs, quiet singing and walking around, and then my husband takes her to say goodnight to things in our room, and puts her down.<br /> That was maybe 10 day ago- and I would say with the exception of 2 or 3 nights she has fallen asleep within 10 minutes of being put down (there is still some fussing involved).<br /> That said- she still wakes up a lot.</p> <p>So....I guess my experience was that we had to do what felt right for our kid (and us). We went slowly with it. In hindsight, it may have prolonged the number of days that she cried, but it felt better to me because the crying never went on for longer than 10 minutes before she was asleep (the first week we actually stayed in the room with her, and so she was just kind of fussing periodically). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210309 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:34:36 +0000 hilsy85 1210309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would stop nursing to sleep if you can! If you hope to sleep train for real later, that's going to probably need to be one of the first things to go--and it sounds like it's not working for you now anyway. So I would just stop sooner rather than later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-sleep-trainingagain#post-1210289 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:28:30 +0000 Foodnerd81 1210289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C is 3.5 months old, and as I'm sure you all know by now, a problem sleeper. We have actually had a good few days though and wanted to get some opinions. </p> <p>Going back to Friday night, nothing was working. I tried nursing her to sleep but she woke up as I laid we down and rocking bouncin wasn't doing it, so finally we laid her in her crib, said good night, and left. We agreed we would go back after ten minutes of actual crying. I felt awful bc he's young for CIO and we weren't even doing it "right" but we had tried everything else. She cried, then calmed down, and basically alternated between crying, fussing, and calm, for maybe 45 min, but never cried more than ten min in a row. Finally fell asleep and slept six hours straight. </p> <p>Since then I've been trying to nurse her to sleep, but if she wakes during the transfer to crib or a few minutes after laying down, we let her fuss it out. It rarely escalated to full crying and never crying more than ten minutes, usually she fusses between 10-20 minutes before falling totally asleep. </p> <p>So, should I stop nursing to sleep entirely? I moved the nutritive nursing earlier and to the living room, so the nursing I do in her room is just for comfort. We have a routine (diaper, book, sleep sack, comfort nurse while singing twinkle twinkle). I'm wondering if the nursing to sleep is prolonging this or what. I prefer to not make her fuss if I can help it, but it is such a huge change that she is now able to fall asleep on her own. Huge. Totally worth that terrible night of listening to her cry. </p> <p>This is more nights only. Tackling naps another time. </p>