https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:34:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2243508 Thu, 23 Jul 2015 06:02:17 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2243508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was the first link to my search and OMG, it's so good to know I'm not alone! DD turned 3 just 3 weeks ago and I'm about to lose my mind. 1) We're on a long summer break - no daycare and have been with each other 24/7. 2) Right now, DD's fits the definition of threenager! </p> <p>Can someone please recommend some books or strategies (even if it's just coping tips)! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040866 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 15:24:20 +0000 FancyGem 2040866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son hasn't turned 3 yet. He has a few more weeks before his bday, but he is driving me crazy. lol He has become so rude and yells all the time. He stuck out his tongue at his milk because he spilled some. He is always talking back and sticking out his tongue because he is mad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040689 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:58:53 +0000 rachiecakes 2040689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: J always used please and thank yous, even with me, I was soo proud and still am when he does it! But all of a sudden with me, the 'please' was replaced with 'right now!' ugh, so obnoxious. </p> <p>@cascademom: @BananaPancakes: I don't want to jinx myself, but he never tantrums or yells. It's the rude words I can't deal with. The "right now, mama!" and the, "yes I do!" "no I don't!", back talk. I even got a "ugh, okay.. FINE!" from him.<br /> He's an only and will most likely always be an only. I don't want him to be that bratty spoiled brand of only. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040673 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:50:44 +0000 BananaPancakes 2040673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: Knock on wood, we haven't had a real tantrum, either. I'm hoping we'll just skip them altogether. But his attitude is so ugly lately. He tells me to "shoo, go away monster." Yeah, awesome. </p> <p>And he kicked a car in a parking lot this weekend. I popped him in the rear and my parents were all "awww, mommy is so hard on you." I said you know what's hard? Jail time for destruction of property. I wanted to kill him. Ha ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040357 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:31:31 +0000 cascademom 2040357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Man, I'm afraid of threes at this rate. LO does a lot of threenager stuff already with no's, being bossy, indecisive on food choices, etc. He fights bedtime like nobody's business. I found doing a sticker chore chart in the morning diffused tantrums with him. We also do a lot of trades with him. If he turns off the light, we'll do something in return. I pray that threes aren't as bad as spots of two's have been. </p> <p>Someone told by three that her daughter just got how the world around her works and was more pleasant to deal with. I don't know LO is going to be. He's just getting used to preschool and happy to be there which is a huge departure from hating daycare near the end because he was bored. Now, we're figuring out his post preschool (different daycare) tired. Moving, possibly switching daycares again, and a baby brother is going throw him for a loop again.</p> <p>ETA: I got the book "Calm Down Time" to help teach him about dealing with tantrums and emotions. This weekend, he asked to put in timeout. When he was finally put in for hitting, he melted down totally. I sat in the rocking chair and read the book while he was in crib. Once he chilled out, we read it again and went through the deep breathing exercise. It's one tool that I'm using to manage the tantrums. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040354 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:29:19 +0000 PinkElephant 2040354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! This exactly what DD was doing. She'd poop in the potty, get a cookie, then go pee on the floor, tell me "I pee pee on carpet....not in my pottttyyyyyyyyy, hrhehe"</p> <p>she also is super polite and very verbal/able to express herself, but has just started in with the whining, screaming for things, and defiance. She does it more to me than anyone else. I'm glad to see this is common (and not just my kid!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040346 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:25:45 +0000 rachiecakes 2040346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: yes, it's good to know I'm not alone! </p> <p>@PinkElephant: totally! it's a control thing with him for sure. he's actually pretty good when we're out. Friday night we were at a restaurant and he pooped in the potty, we cheered, we celebrated with ice cream dessert, told him I was so proud. and then we get home and he'll just look at me with a smirk and say, "peeing in my pants now".<br /> wth? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040324 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:17:26 +0000 PinkElephant 2040324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: I hate that I did it, but I justvput my formerly pretty much potty trained 2.5 yr old back in diapers because of what I call the revenge peeing issue, which involved deliberate partying in inappropriate places and announcing it to me. Ugh! Not sure if it was about attention (we have a younger child too) or control or what but I was spending too much time being frustrated with her and it just wasn't worth it. I don't want to feel grouchy with her all the time. We will try again in a month or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040182 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:05:13 +0000 blackbird 2040182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, man, i was just talking to DH about this last night, and how I am not looking forward to the "E is an asshole" stage. At least it's common? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040141 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 09:35:10 +0000 rachiecakes 2040141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BananaPancakes: 2 was totally fine for us as well! </p> <p>I guess I should count my blessing because J has never thrown a tantrum. It's just the backtalk and being rude that's insanely irritating.</p> <p>I have no idea what to do about the potty training issues! We don't have laundry in our home and had been training in PullUps. He was doing sooo good. I was just about to switch him to underwear full time but now he wets his pants (and underwear) and tells me he doesn't care. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2040036 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 07:48:28 +0000 BananaPancakes 2040036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 was generally a breeze for us, but as he's approaching his 3rd birthday, I'm starting to see the threenager come out. I'm hoping it won't be awful, but there's suddenly a whole lot of "no's" and "mommy will do it's" coming out. He's also crying about everything. It just seems like he has so many emotions that he doesn't know how to handle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039984 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 01:22:24 +0000 lemondrop 2039984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: AMEN. </p> <p>Two was hellish for us, especially with a new baby on top of it. He turned a corner about two months before 3 he has been sooooo much better! He actually is loving and snuggly now and is so much fun to hang out with! I have my little buddy back, instead of a bomb that I keep wondering when the next detonation will be. He's sneaky and has occasional fits, but they are nothing like they had been, I can actually get him to talk to me about what has him upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039970 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 00:39:13 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2039970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh three! Definitely been there. All I can say is once you get it dialed in, you'll be fine. It's all about finding the magic formula for your particular kid. For #1 we had to say "cry as long as you want but we're putting earplugs in". That action magically melted the threenage attitude. #2 is entering threenage-hood and she seems to need more reassurance and hugs to get through the flod of emotions.</p> <p>Best of luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039968 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 00:32:45 +0000 irene 2039968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not alone. 3 sucks!!! And we are not even 3 yet (in a week)!!!! It is almost comparable to the worst days of my life as in the newborn stage. It's been going for what it feels like a few months now.</p> <p>LO doesn't listen when asked him to do something, or would do it maybe 1/2 hour later if I don't start yelling / demanding. Say, if I ask him to clean up his toys so we can leave the house, he'd say he is still playing. I'd say ok I let you play 2 more minutes (and set my alarm on phone), and when the alarm goes off you have to start cleaning up. 2 minutes later he'd demand he gets six more minutes. This just goes on and on. And when he finally starts cleaning up, it will be at snail speed. So there is no way to get him out of the house for a planned event without being late. If he doesn't listen and I threaten to take away a toy for 2 days, at first he'd protest, but at the end he'd say no, take all my toys! I don't want them. Gahhhh! When asked to finish his plate at dinner or else he won't grow (he is so skinny you can see his ribs, but otherwise very much healthy). He would reply I don't want to grow up, I want to be small, like daddy and mommy (excuse me???) Ahhhh! Another worst is, he used to promise me something AND will do it (eg. Today we are only going to read one book at the bookstore because daddy has to go get some stuff. When daddy is ready, we HAVE TO GO. He would say yes). But it would always end up in tears as he went back on his words and wouldn't do what he promised. Everyday there is something that I end up yelling, and I hate hate hate myself for it. This is all just a small fraction of the whole picture.</p> <p>So no. you are not alone. lol. I hope there is a light at the end of the tunnel somehow, and the end of the tunnel hopefully comes soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039759 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 20:18:06 +0000 Bao 2039759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is only 2.5 and the past few weeks have been a nightmare. She is demanding, naughty, hitting, the works. I hope it doesn't get worse :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039746 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 20:00:48 +0000 HLK208 2039746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 was the hardest year of my life! I remember crying on the phone to my mom about how rough one week in particular was. DS ran away from me every day after preschool - if I held him, he hit and bit me. It was terrible!</p> <p>But! 4 was good again! It will get better. Some days are better than others. For me, I just had to find out how to cope in the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039647 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 18:04:42 +0000 FannyMae 2039647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: hahah so cute!! honestly, half the time I have to really hold back from laughing my ass off at the shenanigans! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039643 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 17:59:58 +0000 rachiecakes 2039643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FannyMae: he just told me to "please leave my room, I want to play by myself"<br /> at least he said please?<br /> haha, I'm watching him play on the monitor. Guess this is what they call 'me' time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039641 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 17:55:48 +0000 FannyMae 2039641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the voice... the WHINY VOICE. yesterday I got told "LEAVE ME ALONE" (I died laughing). lots of "I want its" lots of delirious tired moments - I want to go to the deeeeentist! (?) I want chocolate milkkkkshake!<br /> Its good fun!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039639 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 17:53:11 +0000 mrsjazz 2039639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO will be 3 in April, but I feel like we had the terrible twos in the first 4-5 months of being 2, then we coasted for a little and then something snapped. We call her a teenager all the time: she is sassy, she is bossy, she wants things her way and she's like a ticking time bomb, we never know what's going to make her blow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039636 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 17:47:00 +0000 erinpye 2039636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly think it's different for everyone. My 2 year old, who will be 3 in April, has raged, hit, bitten, been incredibly defiant, argumentative, stubborn, hard to get to sleep, and absolutely nuts a lot this past year. (She's also amazing and I adore her, but it's been hard.) She's actually, finally, getting better. If one more person tells me 3 is worse, I will smack that person. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039632 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 17:44:01 +0000 StbHisMrs 2039632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man. I was just telling someone how full of bs the saying terrible twos is, because the there's are freaking awful!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039553 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 15:33:45 +0000 loveisstrange 2039553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh goooooood yes. She's not even 3 until the first week of April either. :/ Lots of defiance, and a definite increase in tantrums. This past month has been worse than all of the rest of year 2, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039551 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 15:31:27 +0000 T-Mom 2039551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Three has been tougher than 2 for sure for my DS. Lots of "I don't wanna" and "No". Lots more time outs and counting to 3 and negotiating sleep time. We have good weeks and bad weeks. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039543 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 15:12:24 +0000 Pancakes 2039543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 turns 4 in about 2 months, and this past year has just been rough! She's a spunky, happy kid but that's turned into defiance and just all-around rotten behavior. Fortunately, we seemed to have turned a corner in the last month or so and she's been a lot more cooperative and helpful and just pleasant. So there is hope! But I can totally commiserate in the meantime. I don't know if there's anything that we should have done differently to make this past year easier on all of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager#post-2039536 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 14:57:05 +0000 rachiecakes 2039536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>O.M.G. </p> <p>J has always been, a super-active, but such an easy-going kid. He was early to pick up 'please' and 'thank you'.<br /> He was even really great about potty training. Even though he didn't go to the potty by himself, he was so good about letting us know when he had to. </p> <p>These past couple weeks have been so challenging. :( </p> <p>He's demanding ("Right now!!" "I want!")<br /> He's back and forth on EVERYTHING. ("I want mac and cheese" "aah, I don't like mac and cheese, I don't want it!!")<br /> And the most annoying thing is he's now just peeing in his pants and doesn't care. </p> <p>I don't want to take him out anywhere anymore because he's just being so terrible these days. I don't want to subject anyone to this bad behavior. </p> <p>I think he needs to spend a weekend with my dad, lol - my dad does NOT tolerate this ish.</p> <p>That's all. </p> <p>Please tell me I'm not alone??? </p>