https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 15:00:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611722 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 16:16:51 +0000 Rescuemom10 2611722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*Raises hand*<br /> Mine too, independent, pushes every limit, tests every boundary and too smart for her own good. And man does he have a rock solid memory. Even daycare calls her the "Ring leader". </p> <p>My husband has been deployed a lot this last year, and it really messes with her and she acts out. He SHOULD be home tonight, I swear I am going to pass her off to him and lock myself away for a WEEK so I can recover. LMBO. Im PG now too so its been exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611710 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 15:50:01 +0000 Alba4 2611710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm laughing because I have these same exact conversations with my 3 year old!!! So challenging! The chasing games, are you mad mommy, lots of tantrums, etc... They are happening here too! Oh and we just started potty training! So fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611683 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 14:50:06 +0000 fancyfunction 2611683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: Ahh, i thought this was just me with the "What??" thing! I was seriously questioning her hearing at one point but I know she hears me when she repeats back what I said after she asks "what?"!!! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611678 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 14:35:49 +0000 hummusgirl 2611678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm joining! My 3 (almost 4) year old is so great a lot of the time, but then there's that 10% that is f'n crazy with this attitude. He's best behaved when we're successful at being calm and gently guiding him, but that's easier said than done especially when we're rushing to get out the door in the mornings. </p> <p>Yesterday he told a classmate "I'm going to hit you in the face with this block!!" He didn't but still...threatening other kids at school?! Not cool. They're testing so hard right now and I feel like we're failing a good part of the time. </p> <p>I've been reading No-Drama Discipline in addition to listening to the Unruffled podcast and it's helped a bit. I think the most important thing for us right now is for my husband and I to get on the same page with how we handle this stuff. But who has time when there are kids to raise, bottles to wash, etc., and it's never-ending... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611670 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 14:09:04 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2611670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: I just wanted to say that I feel you on bedtime. DD thinks it's funny to run away or attempt to escape my arms while I try to brush her hair. I do not have to the energy the wrestle with 40 lbs of toddler at this point and she will do it for forever. Some days I'm okay and am able to execute or typical discipline but other days I immediately jump down her throat. It's so hard. Sometimes you don't want to laugh and fool around anymore. You just want quiet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611668 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 14:02:10 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2611668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I need this thread so much. My daughter isn't even 3 yet (she will be in the 12th) and I honestly don't know how to parent her anymore. The constant telling me no, general attitude, crying and whining and begging. And it doesn't help that we see my MIL once or twice a day so she is constantly telling me how bad her attitude is. Like I don't know. To be frank, the feeling of being judged by her is worse than the feeling of not knowing exactly what to do when DD talks back. It's so aggravating. </p> <p>Just today we were trying to leave MIl's to go home and eat lunch (we basically share a yard). DD was not happy about it and started throwing a massive fit. I had to make her walk across the yard, all the while she is screaming that I need to let go of her arm and take her inside. Then she sat in her room and cried for another 10 minutes or so, while both MILand FIL stood in their yard and watched. I don't need their judgement on top of dealing with the tantrums and disrespectful attitude. It totally makes me feel like I'm doing a terrible job on the daily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611629 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 13:01:59 +0000 catlady 2611629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, this thread makes me so nervous. Mine is almost 3 and still fairly well behaved, although we can definitely see the sass and back talk starting to show up. It's gotten worse since she switched from the toddler room to the preschool room (and is now with older kids) but we've been pretty good about dealing with it so far. I just know it's going to explode all over me when LO2 arrives in December. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611619 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 12:46:52 +0000 irene 2611619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww.... I had the WORST time for our threeager time, but it slowly faded for us a little passed 4 years old. Thank God. Now at 4.5 he is sweetest... most of the time :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611550 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 10:49:03 +0000 Mama Bird 2611550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: ugh, that sounds awful. I don't know how you deal with that every day :sad: </p> <p>@caterw: that sounds pretty normal. We've had hour long tantrums over the stupidest things imaginable, and some of it is just so intense I wonder if the kid is in his right mind. But then he gets it out of his system, and the next time we get into the same situation, I expect him to go nuts again, but he's the picture of rationality. So weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611549 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 10:48:34 +0000 avivoca 2611549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the way to school this morning, H sulked because we wouldn't let her wear her flip flops that are two sizes too small, she wanted to wear pants after I picked out shorts (she told me to pick and it is going to be 95F today), and she didn't get her ice cream bite before school (she has been getting bites after her second antibiotic dose as a reward for taking it well).</p> <p>I am also in a foul mood and have been so glad to have somewhere to take her where other people will care for her and I can concentrate on my own self. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611546 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 10:46:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 2611546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caterw: "don't be angry mommy"- sooooo annoying. And I try to reason with her like, mommy is only angry because you are doing all the things that annoy me. And she responds with, mommy don't yell at me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611541 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 10:43:00 +0000 PurplePeony 2611541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD isn't 3 until December but she's already doing pretty much everything mentioned here. The attitude, the sass, the ignoring us, the pretending to be helpless and incapable, the throwing things, just pushing all our buttons. The other day, she had asked for a cookie about 36,482 times and I had told her no every time because she had already eaten one earlier. Finally, I said "A, the answer is NO." So she looks at me, tilts her head to the side, puts on a smug look, and says with All The Attitude "ummm, the ANSWER is YES." Aaggh! The hardest part is, she's smart and has a memory like an elephant so I can't get anything past her. She has an answer/excuse/justification for everything. It's exhausting. And her current favorite word is "because" (as in, "I don't want you in my room because you're taking up all my space" or "I want candy because I NEED candy").</p> <p>I can only hope that, since she started early, she'll grow out of it early. Right? Right? Bueller? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611488 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 09:35:09 +0000 caterw 2611488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I reeeeeeally need this thread this week. My almost three year old DD has turned from the sweetest, nicest little muffin into a sassy demon. She has started saying "Mine is better than yours" or "my way is better than your way", and has totally stopped listening to me. If I tell her something multiple times and start to sound a little exasperated, she will tell me "SH! NO! Don't be grumpy Mommy". She also tries to put me in time out or hit me if I "disobey her"- wtf. </p> <p>Lastly- how crazy of a tantrum is normal? DD will lose her mind and scream/ flail for 30+ minutes and I am worried she is going to hurt herself. I pretty much swaddle her and hold her until she passes out from exhaustion but that is driving me nuts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611382 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 07:30:08 +0000 MoonMoon 2611382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me. I need support. We never really had a problem with him being 2 but 3 is killing us.</p> <p>Last night, a tantrum over a request for lemonade (we weren't even saying no, we were asking him to wait &amp; drink it with dinner) lasted over an hour. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611379 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 07:25:39 +0000 tinyperson 2611379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm joining in! My 3.5 yo is having a rough tantrum week...we flew tithe in laws on Tuesday night, arriving at 12:30am their time. She didn't sleep on the plane (told you so DH). She got up around 6. Wednesday was fun...and bedtime was late because supper didn't get on the go till late. she hasn't caught up on her sleep yet (doesn't sleep in), won't nap, and all behaviour problems are magnified. Add to that the in laws offering her treats at every turn and pulling out new toys minutes after I've said its time to get ready for bed, and I'm wiped. We need to be more consistent in our reaction to the tantrums, back talk and whining, but I haven't landed on something I want to go with! We'd been doing a Pom Pom for good behaviour system, but I need Ideas for consequences for bad behaviour. She doesn't do time out, trying to establish a time in just ramps up the tears and screaming. Lately the only thing that works is Daniel tigers "take a deep breath and count to 4" except she wants to count to 20, and we have to do it, not her. Sigh. Threenagers are fun 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611355 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 06:32:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 2611355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: ugh. I'm sorry. That is really rough. </p> <p>I have the same feelings- she's bored, but I'm also busy and fed up with her. DH is working from home today so I'm going to try and take her out for some mommy- C one on one time. We'll see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2611332 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 04:37:09 +0000 Cherrybee 2611332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, so its 10am here and I'm already close to losing it. First, she wouldn't eat her porridge and deliberately stirred it really fast until it all sploshed out of the bowl. It took me spoon feeding her to get any into her at all, then she started spitting it out so I decreed breakfast was over. </p> <p>While I was cleaning up, she opened a drawer in the living room (which she isn't allowed to go in) and helped herself to a "baby wipe to eat" (which she isn't allowed to do). So I reminded her, sternly, that she isn't allowed in that drawer, and I took the baby wipe off her. So then she started jumping on the sofa (which she isn't allowed to do). So I had to tell her off. </p> <p>By this point, the baby was crying for a feed and, while I was feeding her, E went very quiet. A few minutes later, she appeared with her toothbrush and a once full tube of toothpaste, now half full and explody. I asked her to give it to me and she refused. I explained that too much toothpaste will make her poorly, but she ignored me and squeezed more out, so I had to forcibly take it off her. She threw her toothbrush across the room. Then I felt bad for not recognising how good it was that she tried.....</p> <p>..... but then, when id finished feeding the baby and went to find her to make amends, I found that she had gotten hold of the diffuser air freshener and was chewing the sticks :shocked: So I had to take that off her too....</p> <p>......Then the postman came (they push letters through your door here). She got the letters and threw them at the baby. Told off again. Then she hit me. </p> <p>I know that the problem is that she is bored. But I really, really don't want to play right now. The kitchen is a mess, the baby needs attention and we are going swimming in an hour..... Somebody kill me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610582 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:52:07 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2610582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm going to have to join in here. DD is rounding the corner to three and holy moly, she's nuts. Its pretty constant with the demanding things, the insane attitude about the most inane things. Or the fact that she can go from totally happy to a complete crying mess in a matter of two minutes. It's insanity in my house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610579 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:50:44 +0000 Mama Bird 2610579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my son needs an angry mommy support group :bummed: He loves to put on a circus at bedtime and then starts to cry because I give him angry looks and won't smile at him. Poor kid! I feel awful afterwards, but by 10 pm I'm fresh out of sense of humor and just need to not be followed around, climbed on, and not listened to...</p> <p>@Mrs D: @Foodnerd81: I was this close to taking the kid to a doctor two weeks ago. He's started responding to everything with "what?!" and my first thought was ear infection. But he seems to be hearing fine, just trying out a new way to talk :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610566 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:38:58 +0000 avivoca 2610566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: We do that all the time. She starts crying and tells us "You will NOT leave without me!" Then she tries to get me to carry her and I'm almost 35 weeks pregnant and ain't nobody got time for three-year-old attitude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610563 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:37:53 +0000 Mrs D 2610563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: When you couple it with her 'no clue where it came from' heavy New Yorker accent it pretty much makes my blood boil when I hear it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610553 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:32:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 2610553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: haha us too! We live in a thousand square foot condo- she is never that far from us. But she responds with "whaaaattt?" Like she is in another wing of a house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610552 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:31:32 +0000 Mrs D 2610552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter has started "What?"...she can hear me clear as day but she still replies with an attitude filled "what?"...UGH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610551 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:31:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 2610551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: the parents of younger kids at the playground must think I'm awful. I have found the best way to get her to come with me when we have to leave and she's resisting is just say, ok well I'm leaving. I'll come get you tomorrow. And start walking away. Then she gets upset and says no I want to come with you! So I can be mean mommy and she comes within minutes or I can reason with her until I'm blue in the face and she's still fighting me. </p> <p>I assume the parents of older kids are just like, yeah, been there. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610544 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:27:34 +0000 Foodnerd81 2610544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: yes. I frequently have to put myself in time out so I won't snap. And I've slapped my own legs hard enough to leave a mark because I need to get it out- only my own legs! But it's crazy how this little thing can get me to that point. I'm a grown women who generally has decent coping mechanisms, you know? </p> <p>@Mrs D: yes she has started the big fat crocodile tears crying every time I yell at her. Mooommmmmyyyyy. Don't yeeelllllll at meeeeeee! Then freaking listen to me when I tell you something and don't keep asking for things when I say no! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610543 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:26:56 +0000 looch 2610543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is almost 6 now, and I have to say, it's gotten so much better as time has gone on. It's hard for me to pinpoint an exact turning point, but I do have to say, I can finally sit back and enjoy my son. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610540 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:26:08 +0000 avivoca 2610540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: Oh, I need to have a come to Jesus talk with my husband because he fights me on half of the things I do. We need to be a team and all he is doing is teaching her that if Mommy says no, she can get Daddy to say yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610539 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:24:32 +0000 avivoca 2610539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, I'm avivoca and I am going crazy with this attitude from my almost three-year-old. She is SO sassy, always telling us to leave her alone, answering everything with "whatever," "I don't care," "You're bad/yucky," etc. I'm ready to tear my hair out. I had to walk away the last two nights (at Kroger and CFA) and leave her with my husband because I just could not deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610537 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:21:16 +0000 Mrs D 2610537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p> [attach=2617/16/och1bg.480x600.image.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-support#post-2610533 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:18:22 +0000 Mrs D 2610533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh...so right there with you.</p> <p>DD turns three in 2 weeks...she is so full of sass I think she may spontaneously combust! She talks back "no Mommy" while shaking her hand, or just starts irrationally crying, or runs to daddy. DH gives in WAY more than me - she has picked up on this - so now its a constant battle of "I want to ask daddy"... We had a serious chat (DH and I) so that he will correct his actions.</p> <p>Bedtime can be totally fine or a throw down death match. And god forbid she do something that warrants us taking her "friends" away (i.e. stuffed animals and dolls) look out. She stalls, acts like she doesnt know how to do things she has done for months, talks back, throws things, hits her sister....you name it she does it...</p> <p>Just trying to weather the storm... </p>