https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 21:48:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177617 Thu, 14 May 2015 04:15:29 +0000 miramira 2177617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No first-hand experience here, but I recommend the book ToddlerCalm (I read it in preparation for what's to come, hehe!): <a href="http://www.amazon.com/ToddlerCalm-Calmer-Toddlers-Happier-Parents/dp/0349401055/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1431594718&#038;sr=8-1&#038;keywords=toddler+calm" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/ToddlerCalm-Calmer-Toddlers-Happier-Parents/dp/0349401055/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1431594718&#038;sr=8-1&#038;keywords=toddler+calm</a></p> <p>It's gives a good insight into what toddlers go through as they develop and offers practical advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177585 Wed, 13 May 2015 22:20:35 +0000 PinkElephant 2177585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No major bedtime battles (lots of dilly dallying, stalling and silliness though)....but EEK I can commiserate on the testing. As in looking me right in the eye as she repeatedly pounds a toy on her one year old sister's head. Or shrieking hysterically and taking swings at me when I say no to or won't do something she wants. Or the other day, saying "I don't love you!" when I scolded her for misbehaving.</p> <p>The thing that is equal parts hilarious and annoying for me is that she is a bit of a badass threenager wannabe. Because she pulls the behavior, but breaks down in sorrowful sobbing the instant she realizes "you're not happy at me, Mommy!" - however the testing continues moments later like she forgot all about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177582 Wed, 13 May 2015 22:16:24 +0000 Freckles 2177582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Bee: Yes, and Mr. Bee and your posts were always on my mind when battling with her. So worried that she was on the road to functional constipation! I'm hoping it's behind us now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177578 Wed, 13 May 2015 22:06:04 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2177578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: oh yes poop battles for us too! for both kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177575 Wed, 13 May 2015 22:01:35 +0000 Freckles 2177575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there anything that triggers the bad behaviour? As you know, we were going through this as well a few weeks ago and i realized it all stemmed from poop battles. Once we established the reward chart for poops, it's like she is a different person! </p> <p>I can totally commiserate with you on threenager behaviour though. Ugh, pushing boundaries drives me insane! </p> <p>Have you thought about a reward chart of some sort? I really loved Mrs. Jump Rope's post: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2014/08/29/getting-our-toddler-to-go-to-sleep/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2014/08/29/getting-our-toddler-to-go-to-sleep/</a></p> <p>ETA: We don't give her a reward each time she poops. She gets one star for telling us she poops, and if she gets 10 stars she gets to go on an ice cream or hot chocolate date with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177565 Wed, 13 May 2015 21:37:06 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2177565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>having gone through it twice, i think it's largely testing boundaries and a natural developmental phase. it's kind of trial and error to see what works with your child at bedtime. for us it was leaving the door wide open so they could hear/see us and then they would fall asleep on their own. it really depends on the child.</p> <p>olive is 3 1/2 and we still have bedtime battles though! :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177563 Wed, 13 May 2015 21:31:18 +0000 HLK208 2177563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is what worked for DS while he was three: consistency with discipline and stories demonstrating the right behavior. I made up a character, got him to love that character, then presented an issue in the story with the character that DS also had a difficult time with and then got him to problem solve. He would really listen to the story and get concerned. Mrs. Jacks gave me this tip and it was SO helpful.</p> <p>DS was a really, really hard three year old but an excellent kid now (for the most part...). Hang in there!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/threenager-terrible-threes#post-2177560 Wed, 13 May 2015 21:22:26 +0000 regberadaisy 2177560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So DD1's bad behavior has been really escalating lately at bedtime. It's not frequent but when it's bad, it's BAD. I'm really at a loss with what to do. We've already pushed bedtime back to 830/900. She's only getting like 9ish overnight sleep now. Today she didn't even take a nap. But she was with my ILs most of the day. So who knows, she could've been all hopped off sugar.<br /> I wasn't even short fused tonight. I was really really patient and gave her so many chances. But towards the end she really pissed me off so DH took over. Then she pissed him off when she started kicking and slapping.<br /> I'm thinking on buying the five love languages of children. Any other tips? Reading material? Commiserations?</p> <p>I swear it's like a switched was flipped when she was 35m and all of a sudden there's a demon child in her. :crying: </p>