https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 16:53:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-446244 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 21:51:44 +0000 sarac 446244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always have trouble understanding issues like these. Won't everyone be thrilled by your good news? Your joy doesn't diminish hers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-446236 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 21:49:23 +0000 Boogs 446236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you tell one family, you should tell the other just to be fair. Super thoughtful about you not wanting to steal the spotlight! If you told one sister, could you possibly tell your little sister privately and get her opinion on what she is comfortable with? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-446116 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 21:02:19 +0000 Pink Champagne 446116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell them... Honestly, you're the best judge of your family. The only way I could think that anyone would think of you sharing your good news as "thunder stealing" would be if your little sister was the type to get her feelings hurt over the timing of sharing the news.<br /> If it were MY family, everyone would just be like, "Wow, we are all blessed to have so many wonderful things to look forward to." And if I had two sisters, and one told the other she was pregnant but DIDN'T tell me, I would be pissed at my sister for not telling me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-446027 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:45:47 +0000 sorrycharlie 446027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I'd say go with your gut feeling. You know your family better than any of us, so you probably know the best way to go about it! Trust your instincts :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-446016 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:43:43 +0000 Foodnerd81 446016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I could, but I know she would say to go ahead and would be excited.<br /> We had a similar situation where my older sister didn't want to tell extended family that she was pregnant until after my wedding shower, but I was so excited I just wanted everyone to know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-446011 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:41:50 +0000 sorrycharlie 446011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>could you talk to that sister individually to see how shed feel? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-445972 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:27:30 +0000 Foodnerd81 445972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, this sounds... petty? But this will be the first grandchild on DH's side and I know his mom is going to be so, so excited. I have 2 nephews on my side, so of course they will still be excited, but not the way DH's mom will be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-445969 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:26:17 +0000 Foodnerd81 445969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: No, our families don't have much contact at all and are on opposite sides of the country, so no risk there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-445968 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:26:17 +0000 loveisstrange 445968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're telling your DH's family, tell yours too. It's not fair to leave them out of the loop. I'd either tell both or tell neither. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-445963 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:25:29 +0000 Bao 445963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess that's up to you, but if you tell some family...do you think it will leak somehow to your family? It may be best to tell them all around the same general time so it's fair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-445956 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:24:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 445956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would consider waiting if you could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thunder-stealing#post-445954 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:23:13 +0000 Foodnerd81 445954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long do you think is appropriate to wait from one big announcement to the next? My baby sister just got engaged this weekend, and we knew it was coming because her fiance had made some plans with us. I'm 7 weeks pregnant and we have only told my older sister, no one else yet. </p> <p>I won't be with my side for Christmas, but I deciding between telling them via FaceTime while everyone is together for Christmas Eve, or waiting until I go back sometime in Jan, which could stretch to Feb. I'm wondering if 2-3 weeks isn't really enough time between? She really isn't someone who would get bent out of shape over something like that, but at the same time, she is the baby in a big family, so she never gets the spotlight! What would you do?<br /> We are telling DH's family over Christmas, since we will be with them. </p>