https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 08:04:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139840 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 12:20:17 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2139840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: best of luck!! We're around all weekend if you and J need some time together. L would love some time with A. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139837 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 12:16:30 +0000 travelgirl1 2139837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: @LulaBee: @catlady: @Mama Bird: @sunny: Thank you all so much, there are some great tips there,thank you!<br /> @LulaBee: I'm so sorry for your loss :heart:<br /> @oliviaoblivia: That's such a sweet offer, thank you! We are actually heading off to the border again this afternoon though, fingers crossed for second time lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139762 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 11:27:24 +0000 sunny 2139762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I'm sorry you're going through this! Big hugs! I'm not great at dealing with stress either. Distraction is what I usually try. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139721 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:57:14 +0000 lamariniere 2139721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: that's great that you were able to overcome your anxiety! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139717 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:55:56 +0000 Mama Bird 2139717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're dealing with this! It might help to remind yourself that at the moment, you only have so much control over the situation and it's ok to escape mentally for a little bit. Maybe lose yourself in a silly book (worked for me even on awful awful days when it was either that or cry in a corner...), or ask your husband to watch LO and treat yourself to something you've wanted for a while - a walk, alone time, meeting with a friend... hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139698 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:37:26 +0000 catlady 2139698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you're dealing with this. Anxiety attacks are no joke. I'm lucky not to suffer from them anymore, but here are the things that were most effective for me in dealing with them:<br /> - Guided meditation (like @lamariniere, I use Headspace, but there are loads out there)<br /> - Walk, hike, or bike ride out in nature<br /> - Blasting music and singing along loudly (doesn't even matter if the music is happy or sad)<br /> - A good cry<br /> - Coffee or lunch with a friend<br /> - Getting immersed in a not-so-serious movie or book (I like cheesy vampire novels)</p> <p>Good luck and hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139637 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 09:45:36 +0000 LulaBee 2139637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're dealing with that, it's so scary!</p> <p>I had really bad anxiety after my son was stillborn last year. Things that helped: therapy where I did this thing called brainspotting, which helped move the trauma through my body and mind; meditation- I have an app on my phone with short guided meditations called Insight Timer; starting a home yoga practice; grounding exercises- my therapist taught me some but I bet you can google. Also walking helped and is good because it's bilateral- engages both sides of brain/body. Focus on breathing. Also, just being mindful of it, which is harder than it sounds. But noticing "okay, my chest feels tight... I'm just noticing it without judgement.."- that usually helps mine calm down.</p> <p>One more thing- escape! Get immersed in a good book/movie/podcast. </p> <p>Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139510 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 08:32:38 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2139510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: big hugs friend! It's supposed to clear up this afternoon want to meet up for an overpriced coffee milkshake and a walk? My treat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139471 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 08:15:39 +0000 Greentea 2139471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw this ted talk: <a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend?language=en" rel="nofollow">http://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend?language=en</a></p> <p>I think it has a really good mental approach: to think of the stress as preparing you for these challenges. (Vs. something you shouldn't be doing/ experiencing.) It has helped me a lot! When I was having anxiety last summer I would literally tell myself that, "this stress is preparing me for these challenges." It sounds simple, but I think a mental shift in perspective like that can help. Think of the stress as aiding you in protecting your baby, for instance, instead of doing harm.</p> <p>Also, exercise helps a lot. Just walking, or just getting out of the house help clear a mind as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139451 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 08:01:14 +0000 lamariniere 2139451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I hope it helps! Another thing that really works for me is distraction in the form of reading (I go for novels). It can help quell anxious thoughts and give you something else to focus on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139440 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:53:25 +0000 travelgirl1 2139440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: I'm sorry you're going through it too :sad: Thanks for the ap and link! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139433 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:50:24 +0000 lamariniere 2139433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I've been going through this recently. It is no fun to deal with. </p> <p>Reading through this has really helped me <a href="http://www.anxieties.com/6/panic#.VSfG8pM6Co0" rel="nofollow">http://www.anxieties.com/6/panic#.VSfG8pM6Co0</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139412 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:41:00 +0000 travelgirl1 2139412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tinyperson: Thank you, I really appreciate that :heart: </p> <p>@lamariniere: I think you are right, it feels like a panic attack, just many through the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139409 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:39:35 +0000 lamariniere 2139409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It almost sounds like a panic attack to me. I've just recently started using an app called Headspace, it's 10min of light mediation/breathing exercises. It's helping. I've also just started therapy to deal with anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139406 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:34:28 +0000 tinyperson 2139406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you're having a rough time - hope you get some definitive answers soon!</p> <p>My answers to stress are prayer and walking - I don't know if that helps you or not. If you and A can get out for a little stroll in the wind and rain today, it might help! We're supposed to get some sunshine tomorrow.</p> <p>I'm thinking of you and your family and praying for you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139398 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:28:20 +0000 travelgirl1 2139398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Thanks, I will definitely try to do that this weekend, I love the singing to favourite songs idea!</p> <p>@Synchronicity: @blackbird: @illumina: Thanks guys :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139391 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:24:50 +0000 Cherrybee 2139391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I would force myself to stop thinking about it and every time a negative thought would creep into my mind I would scold myself and replace it with a new thought. The trick is to not let your mind be idle - read books, do puzzles, watch TV shows, sing along to your favourite songs and focus really hard on being "present" in whatever you're doing. It's so hard but it does get easier with practice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139385 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:23:16 +0000 Synchronicity 2139385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: ah, gotcha. Sometimes I find I just need to bust out my yoga mat and do some stretching and breathing and lying in corpse pose, in silence. 10 minutes can help so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139384 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:23:09 +0000 blackbird 2139384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, writing it down-list what I need too, write out what's bothering me, and getting some exercise </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139383 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:22:12 +0000 illumina 2139383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not great at dealing with my stress and anxiety, but what helps me a bit is getting outside either for a walk or planning somewhere nice to go at the weekend. Otherwise, talking to DH helps, or failing that, shopping? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139378 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:20:56 +0000 travelgirl1 2139378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: How did you force your mind not to think about it? Just by writing it down? I will try that, thanks.</p> <p>@Synchronicity: I'm not supposed yo exercise because of placenta previa but walking might help.... Actually yesterday I took LO for a walk in the pouring rain and felt so much clearer after. All this wet weather could be useful :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139374 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:17:31 +0000 Synchronicity 2139374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I truly believe that you need to find an outlet that works for you. Yoga, exercise, meditation, curling up with a book for an hour, going for a drive, listening to music, sitting in a cafe, whatever... Just a tool that you can use when you need to. </p> <p>I get the same sort of symptoms when I'm anxious or worrying. Racing heart, hot flashes, fast breathing. It sucks. I hope it gets better for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139369 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:11:56 +0000 Cherrybee 2139369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I had PPD, the counselor suggested I set aside half an hour at a specific time each day to worry. I was not allowed to worry about anything at any other time so if a worry crossed my mind I was to write it down, promise myself that I would worry about it later and then force myself to put it out of my mind. Funny thing was, when it was time to worry about my worries it was really hard to switch it on - they just didn't have the power over me that they would have done at the time they had occurred to me earlier. I don't know if it could help you but it really helped me (even though I thought it sounded stupid when she suggested it).</p> <p>Sending love :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-handling-stress#post-2139360 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:07:53 +0000 travelgirl1 2139360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone have any tips for handling stress/anxiety? I normally handle it quite well but am really struggling to keep it at a reasonable level at the moment.</p> <p>It's not the kind of stress that makes you cry, it feels more like difficulty breathing, heart racing, constant worrying. I think being pregnant is making it worse because then I also worry about the impact it could have on the baby. </p> <p>I can't go see my doctor for a few weeks (I know how ridiculous that sounds, but it is a policy at their surgery because of our specific immigration issues) but I am emailing her today to see if she has any tips. I am also channeling my energy into trying to find out information that could help our situation.</p> <p>In the mean time, if anyone has any tips or links to meditation videos they find helpful, I would really appreciate it! </p>