https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 18 Jun 2026 07:59:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370423 Thu, 26 Nov 2015 01:54:45 +0000 sapphire 2370423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: agree with this that generally people don't ask. I never tried to trick anyone or hide my pregnancy or pretend to drink. If someone had the balls to ask if I was pregnant, I would have just told them yes. However, *no one* ever asked that question before we announced. Even people who knew we were trying. Several told me later that they suspected I was pregnant, but again, most people are just not going to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370234 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 20:36:23 +0000 ElbieKay 2370234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will add that I didn't hugely care if people suspected I was pregnant as long as they didn't ask about it. I just didn't want to discuss it until I was ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370137 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 19:14:04 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2370137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Fake drinks. Either a mixed drink, with no liquor, or beer bottle of water. I drank several water "beers" at a family bbq and no one was suspicious (I also wasn't afraid to sip a drink that was offered to me to try from my SIL).<br /> Also, my husband was my cover &amp; helped me with filling the beer bottles discreetly. We told people it was my turn to drive home, so I didn't have to pretend for very long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370125 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 18:57:48 +0000 Mrs. D 2370125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Antibiootics, unless family is the suspicious sort...<br /> I'd go for having hubby switch drinks with you!</p> <p>Sounds like you have lots of options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370050 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 17:40:03 +0000 pastemoo 2370050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: on new medicine that doesn't do well with alcohol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370047 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 17:38:20 +0000 PawPrints 2370047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see people suggest the antibiotics excuse all the time on HB but I have never once in my life heard someone say they couldn't drink because they were on antibiotics. Sounds like a huge red flag to me. Family gatherings are super easy to be stealthy, just hold a glass of wine all evening. You can even bring it to your mouth occasionally without drinking any. Nobody notices. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2370001 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 17:01:40 +0000 Mrs. Peanut 2370001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going through this same issue right now! I'm just going to say that I'm on a diet (was true) and haven't been doing well with it lately (also true), so I'm skipping the calories in wine so I can have more food. :silly: Either that or say that I'm tired and want to enjoy the time with family without being more sleepy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369979 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 16:45:58 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2369979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369963 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 16:35:32 +0000 pregnantbee 2369963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sapphire: Haha, I'd think the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369958 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 16:32:55 +0000 sapphire 2369958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is anyone else perplexed by the antibiotic response? There's really only one antibiotic that can't be taken with alcohol and its used for BV, intestinal infections, PID...I'd just be wondering what kind of infection the person had! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369923 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 16:05:46 +0000 Dandelion 2369923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: That's gross! I always thought it was because it make you extra drowsy/loopy or something! Good to know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369886 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 15:38:45 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2369886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also saying you're on a diet and you'd rather eat your calories than drink them!</p> <p>@Dandelion: in college I was on antibiotics and wasn't warned about no drinking and OMG that was the worse. I threw up bright yellow bile! That's all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369857 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 15:22:14 +0000 Dandelion 2369857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like everyone knows that the cop out is "antibiotics" and it'll be pretty suspicious. I think she should just carry drinks around with her or make fake drinks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369762 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 14:34:23 +0000 ElbieKay 2369762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Antibiotics. Tell them you're taking antibiotics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369744 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 14:22:21 +0000 LuLu Mom 2369744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I would make DH call his mom and ask an unnecessary question about thanksgiving dinner "what time it starts, what am i supposed to bring again, ect." and then have him through in there that "it's been a rough week, J has had the touch of a bug this week, she's out of it but still pretty under the weather." and it answers not drinking and why you are tired! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369743 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 14:22:09 +0000 Modern Daisy 2369743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once I took it a step further and called the restaurant ahead of time, described what I was wearing, and told them that I would order an alcoholic drink but to make it a virgin. I took a huge leap of faith doing that because I got no confirmation in the moment that my drink was actually a virgin as it would have blown my cover. After I "came out" and told my friends months later that I had done that it turns out someone else at the table was also secretly pregnant and had done the exact same thing!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369735 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 14:17:33 +0000 Modern Daisy 2369735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pour a glass of red wine and take small sips here and there. As long as you have a drink in front of you no one notices and red wine doesn't need to be "refreshed" because you drink it at room temperature </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369673 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:35:14 +0000 futuremama 2369673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll either dump out a beer and fill it with water or go for mixed drinks without booze. Maybe she could bring ingredients for a cocktail like apple cider (pasteurized of course) and bourbon and just make hers bourbon-free. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369665 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:28:50 +0000 tofuwad 2369665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my SIL found out right before her sister's wedding, she would take her husband's empty beer bottles to the bathroom and fill them with water or soda and then just have one sitting there. She's a drinker so she tried really hard to make everything look normal and it would be very noticeable if she wasn't drinking at a wedding. Or she'd pour a glass of wine and take a couple sips and then conveniently "lose" her glass and just drink water. Or switch glasses with DH so it looked like she was drinking, when really he was just drinking for her and for himself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369663 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:27:21 +0000 psw27 2369663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Vodka sodas, hold the vodka. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369635 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:19:04 +0000 Shantuck 2369635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 5 weeks and currently at my in-laws (after having had a loss in June). I don't really think anybody will say anything to my face about not drinking and I guess I don't really care if people comment when I'm not in the room. I just politely declined the offer for wine last night and requested a glass of water instead. They can think what they want.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369626 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:12:54 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2369626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I drink fake wine :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369624 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:11:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 2369624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I found out I was pregnant with c the Saturday before thanksgiving and wasn't ready to tell. I just poured myself a small glass of wine and held it all night without drinking and no one noticed. We went out to dinner the next night and I did the same, no one noticed I never needed to refill. It was a big enough group that no one watched my glass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369596 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 12:59:34 +0000 pregnantbee 2369596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably just say I'm feeling dehydrated so I should really keep focusing on water rather than alcohol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369587 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 12:57:56 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2369587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are the one that fills all the drinks that way no one is handing you something. </p> <p>I had a work cocktail function at 9/10 weeks. I mixed juices together and it just looked like a girly cocktail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369585 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 12:57:20 +0000 mediagirl 2369585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babynumber1: my girlfriend has had a couple of losses so she is really nervous about telling anyone early. She won't even spill the beans here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369580 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 12:55:54 +0000 babynumber1 2369580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so not helpful, but we told family. We are super close and are not ones to hide things like that. We just felt that if something happened we would share anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369575 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 12:54:50 +0000 gingerbebe 2369575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can just say you are on cold meds or antibiotics to answer the drinking question, and it would also explain if you aren't feeling well/queasy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-not-spilling-the-beans-at-holiday-get-togethers#post-2369566 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 12:52:10 +0000 mediagirl 2369566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine just found out she's pregnant. Aaaaand now she has to suffer through Thanksgiving with the in-laws. How do you hide that you're not drinking and not spill the beans when you're with family early on in your pregnancy? </p>