https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 12 Jun 2026 06:46:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2889110 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 09:26:40 +0000 cake2017 2889110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennibenni: Acknowledge his feelings and tell him to use his words if he's crying and not talking....</p> <p>Also, offer choices maybe? Do you want A or B and leave it at that... </p> <p>I also tell my two year old I cannot understand him if he's wailing and crying and it's best to calm down so I can understand. </p> <p>Good luck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2889014 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 16:52:58 +0000 wrkbrk 2889014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennibenni: i tell my son, please tell me in in a normal voice what is wrong and i can help you fix it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2889010 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 16:05:04 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 2889010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if it is just whining and no crying I do the "I can't understand you when you talk like that" or "I can't help you when you are whining" but if there are tears involved, even if they are fake I usually respond by saying, "I can see that you are upset, I'm going to let you calm down a bit before we talk more. When you are ready to ask politely/tell me what's bothering you/tell me what you need let me know. And then I just let it play out and wait for the tantrum/whining to stop. Sometimes it takes a while :bummed: But it has gotten a lot better over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2889005 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 15:20:28 +0000 macintosh 2889005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm right there with you. What usually works for me is to remind him "use your words" if he's crying frantically or "use your big boy voice" if he's whining for something. Now if only I could figure out how to prevent the mini-meltdown in the first place.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888988 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 13:59:42 +0000 poppygirl15 2888988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like other users, I tell both my kids (boy &amp; girl) they need to re-say the sentence without whining. I also model how the request should be said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888933 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 08:39:53 +0000 graceandjoy 2888933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah 4 is the year to do that! DD1 is 4.5 and whines/cries about everything. I usually just tell her to use her words or I don't understand. If it's just crying, I let her "cry it out" while offering support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888926 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 08:15:52 +0000 crazydoglady 2888926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"I can't understand you when you talk like that." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888924 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 08:10:58 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2888924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually say “I don’t understand what you’re saying” or “you want to help clean? What? I can’t hear when you talk like that” and he switches to a non whine fairly quick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888913 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 07:13:30 +0000 catgirl 2888913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD's whine-cry voice is so frustrating to me. We try really hard not to say "stop crying" or "don't cry" unless it is clearly her fake cry. The fake cry is super obvious though, so I don't feel bad saying it then. We will tell her it's hard to understand her when she is whining and that we will be happy to listen and talk when we can understand her. We also give her the choice to go calm down alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888908 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 06:51:09 +0000 erinbaderin 2888908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just try to stick to “I can’t talk to you when you use that voice, can you try again?” in a neutral voice. It’s hard though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888900 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 06:28:20 +0000 LadyDi 2888900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following! I've been struggling with this lately too with my 4 year old. DH always tells him not to cry and I have been trying to correct him to say not to whine and try to explain the difference between whining and crying. I also worry about sending the message that boys shouldn't cry. It's also ironic to me that DH says that to them because he's a much bigger crier than I am, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-whining-preschooler#post-2888899 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 06:15:02 +0000 Jennibenni 2888899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tips to deal with whining while not inadvertently sending message that boys shouldn’t cry? </p> <p>My four year old lately is nearly constantly cry-whining about anything and everything. Like whining that his plate is the wrong color but with a big wail/tears kind of thing. Help? </p>