https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 13:01:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2402557 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 21:59:57 +0000 winniebee 2402557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: what mr bee said really rings true for me. The other way I've been dealing with unwanted behavior is just to say "that is not allowed." Or remove him from situation and firmly tell him it's not allowed. Stuff like "you hurt my feelings" or "you're being bratty" just doesn't help my kid! (Not saying you say those things). I only use time outs for unwanted physical stuff (hitting, throwing something at me, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2402550 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 21:48:24 +0000 Canoli 2402550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following for advice. On Christmas Day I already put new toys in a plastic bag and pretended to throw them away in hopes of a change in behavior but even that didn't work! Ugh! Kids suck sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2401851 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 13:15:36 +0000 cascademom 2401851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our almost 3.5 year old is this way. We're no tolerance on spitting or hitting. Those are automatic time out for us. Lately with the flailing tantrums when he's tired, I walk away until he's collected himself. We also practice breathing exercises to calm down if it's a lot of whining and not listening. Three years old has been tough for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2401780 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 12:08:34 +0000 yellowbird 2401780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: I do think sometimes we let her go on too long while we're waiting for her to do something. Dh and I talked and we are going to give her a chance to do whatever she wants herself and if she doesn't listen after 1 minute we will do it for her. Consistency!</p> <p>@mrbee: you are so right. It's so hard not to get emotional when someone spits in your face but I really have to keep my cool! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2401703 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 11:13:55 +0000 mrbee 2401703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: The biggest thing for me was to try not to think about it as respect or disrespect! But to think about it as behavior we want to encourage, vs behavior we want to disappear.</p> <p>Along those lines, I've been working hard to not get emotional in response to bad behavior. It's something that I struggle with - some things just make me so upset! But as I've changed how I react to wild behavior, I've noticed that my children's behavior seems to get better too!! I think that a big reaction from me feeds the behavior, and then it escalates and we end up in a horrible feedback cycle that ends with me wanting to drink all the wine.</p> <p>I hope it gets better for you, and soon!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2401702 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 11:13:50 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2401702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are struggling with this as well with our 4.5 yr old. Yesterday she was mad and was yelling at me when I was calmly telling her no she couldn't do something. I was just staying calm letting her get her frustrations out (it was more yelling/frustrated than trying to be disrespectful) until she scratched me on the leg. I told her to control her hands and that it hurt and then she did it again. I swiftly picked her up by her arms and put her in her room for time out. Partially I think we are letting it go too long (not disciplining the yelling) and stopping it before it escalates to violence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-disrespectful-behavior#post-2401693 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 11:09:55 +0000 yellowbird 2401693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is a full on threenager. For the past couple weeks the disrespectful behavior has continued to escalate. I have no idea where she gets this stuff. If she is not getting exactly what she wants it turns into a war.</p> <p>I fully expect tantrums because she's three, but just this morning she didn't want to get dressed and she spit in my face 😫. If we are saying something she doesn't like she screams and tells us to be quiet and she will shush us. She's constantly yelling at dh and saying "I'm not talking to you!" when he is asking her to do something. I feel like this behavior is beyond just a tantrum, but I have no idea how to handle it. Especially the spitting, omg! I was so mad! </p>