https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 05:28:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850751 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 12:24:08 +0000 travelgirl1 1850751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are still dealing with this at 21 months :sad: We try make sure DH has lots of fun times with LO, at first it was with me there and he was the one who got to do fun stuff and if anyone had to do boring/discipline stuff, it was me. Eventually that evened out and I started leaving them alone every Saturday morning. She would scream when I left but we stuck to it and it turned out to be great for all of us. When she was 18 months we did the same thing at bedtime, he did it once a week. She put up a fight but now she lets him do it easily. She still regularly hurts his feelings by telling him she wants mummy to push the stroller and always going to be instead of him, but things are better. I think with us, breast feeding and baby wearing were big contributors to the problem. I loved both and don't regret them but she grew very, very used to me being the one to give her comfort and closeness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850705 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 11:46:58 +0000 gilmoregirl 1850705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: We've always had more luck with DH taking over all day, so if you have a weekend for like, daddy bootcamp maybe that will help? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850679 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 11:33:04 +0000 Mae 1850679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Baby Boy Mom: hahaha yea thats what they say but our kid isn't just any baby :) We're coming off the end of a complete food strike where she would only eat while sleeping for weeks and we ended up discovering she is MSPI (and thus eating was hurting her and she had major issues with it). It's only been about 2 weeks she's been willing/able to eat awake. So I can assure you-- she has no problem refusing meals for a whole day if she is unhappy! Although I guess if push came to shove he could always feed her while she slept to get the oz in while I was gone. I just hate to regress like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850675 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 11:30:57 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1850675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: ya that complicates things. I guess I would hope that if you were gone all day, eventually she would eat. Babies usually won't starve themselves, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850658 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 11:23:09 +0000 Mae 1850658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: Yea I have a shopping date tomorrow so he'll be trying then. And we will just keep at it. Babies man! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850623 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 11:05:37 +0000 Mamasig 1850623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Oh, then definitely keep trying. Maybe try leaving the house? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850606 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 10:54:39 +0000 Mae 1850606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Baby Boy Mom: @Mamasig: that would be fine if I could be home all the time. But I'm a wedding photog and have two all day/night weddings coming up in a few weeks so we sort of need to work it out before then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850514 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 10:19:20 +0000 gilmoregirl 1850514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through something similar, which is getting better now but still not perfect. Bedtime was my husband's job for a while - he'd get in from work around 7:30-8 and then take over baby duty until B went down for the night. Until 8 or 9 weeks when B decided no one but mom could put him down and would scream bloody murder until I took over. It was really hard on me to be the one responsible all.the.time, even when my husband was home, but it was easier than dealing with screaming all night. B goes to bed earlier than his dad gets home from work now, so it's kind of a moot point.</p> <p>Things always get better on the weekends when they spend a lot of time together. My husband took a week off from work in early August (this was always our plan...it was his second week of paternity leave) and basically spent every second with the baby, which helped a lot. He's also really into babywearing (he has a boba) and I think that's made a difference. </p> <p>Other things I think helped: time, not fighting it too hard, finding other ways for my husband to take some pressure off of me, luck. I still do bedtime though. We haven't even tried in a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850444 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 09:49:59 +0000 Mamasig 1850444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Baby Boy Mom. I don't fight it. Sometimes DH does bath and all that stuff and I put DS to bed. Honestly, DH just plays with him instead and he isn't sleeping anyway. I can't get mad because it sounds so sweet and with his work schedule DH doesn't get a lot of time with him. I don't mind putting him to bed either because it's just more time I spend with my boy. </p> <p>But I guess I suggest keep trying if you do need and want that break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850440 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 09:45:52 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1850440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This probably isn't what you want to hear, but sometimes it's easier/ less stressful to not fight these things. What we did was that DH would take LO to do the whole bath, pajama routine, which easily took 45 minutes and gave me a decent break before I put baby to bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850380 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 09:15:56 +0000 Mae 1850380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: He's not home during the day. We did work on this this weekend and made a little progress. But then he didn't feed her at all Monday-Tuesday (he doesn't get home until after bed time) and by Wed night when he tried again she'd forgotten or something. We'll def be working on it more this weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850101 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 03:09:57 +0000 Pumuckl 1850101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was definitely easier for us if DH was alone with LO when he tried feeding him.<br /> Maybe try a dayfeed first before you try nightfeeding again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1850022 Thu, 04 Sep 2014 22:30:53 +0000 Maysprout 1850022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe try having him introduce something other than a bottle to her. My older daughter was obsessed with spoons (spoon feeding milk isn't fun but it works) and my younger daughter likes sippy cups. My youngest is a big mommas girl but as soon as she started solids she'll eat from anyone. DH or my mom put her in the stroller if I'm not there and she needs sleep and that usually works decently to get her to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1849972 Thu, 04 Sep 2014 21:49:38 +0000 twodoghouse 1849972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea because mine are mommy preferencing hard! But I love it and never want it to stop. I'll still rock them both to sleep at the age of 27, no big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1849968 Thu, 04 Sep 2014 21:36:01 +0000 .twist. 1849968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just keep trying. I also would leave the room when DH was going to feed him because I knew if he saw me he'd be all "boooobz". So, I needed to get outta there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-mommy-preference#post-1849946 Thu, 04 Sep 2014 21:23:23 +0000 Mae 1849946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 16 weeks old and she looooooooves daddy. He gets the biggest smiles and the biggest laughs and she loves hanging out with him. </p> <p>But she won't take a bottle or go to sleep for him. Sigh. </p> <p>This is somewhat a problem of our own making. I was BF until 8 weeks so I always handled food/sleep (I nursed to sleep at night) and when we started bottle feeding after I quit BF it was just routine for me to still do food/sleep. I'm also home with her all day still. </p> <p>Two weeks ago I hit a bit of a wall and admitted to DH I needed a break, so he offered to handle bed time a few nights/week (yay!). Except LO had other ideas and just wails whenever he tries to feed her or rock her to sleep. </p> <p>This is somewhat compounded by LO's history of eating issues which mean she is a super fussy eater anyways. At this point she will basically only eat for me. My parents babysat her this weekend so DH and I could have a date and she refused to eat for my mom too :( </p> <p>So for right now our plan is to just keep at it. And it was also suggested DH maybe throws on a shirt of mine so he smells more like me. Any other suggestions? </p>