https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 20:18:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1206682 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 08:53:06 +0000 singingbee 1206682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kate6214: I know with the next pregnancy my doctor had me on progesterone just in case. It wasn't a problem my first pregnancy, but he just told me he was covering all his bases. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1206663 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 08:29:06 +0000 Kate6214 1206663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Please do not worry yourself. I took it all as you trying to be helpful and it was. I hadn't thought about it from your perspective and I really need to focus in the positive. I can't even imagine what you are going through and I'm glad you shared so that someone else who gets results like mine can be comforted in the fact that things are normal. I want you to know I'm rooting for you too. </p> <p>@MrsMccarthy: This is part of what I'm going to ask my doctor when she gets back from her vacation. I charted for about 4 years to avoid before getting pregnant so I know my cycles well. I was about as regular textbook as they come and so I don't think these are the problem, but there is no harm in asking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1206079 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 15:59:46 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1206079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so so so sorry o hear about your loss. I'm sure knowing all of those details is hard. Have you ruled out any kind of a hormonal issue such as progesterone or thyroid? Sendin you big hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1206051 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 15:21:08 +0000 SweetiePie 1206051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kate6214: That's GREAT that your doc is proactive. I agree, i think that anytime a D&amp;C is performed, the tissue should be tested, even if its the first. Ours wasn't (I had a D&amp;C the first time too) and it would have saved us a lot of time and heartbreak had we seen the abnormality that I am passing on earlier.<br /> I just reread my original reply to you and I hope you know I wasn't trying to make you feel bad. I just wanted to help you feel better about the results being 'normal'.<br /> Good luck and keep us posted! Rooting for you! :-)</p> <p>Good luck and keep us posted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205895 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 11:19:12 +0000 Kate6214 1205895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: @Jennimac: @Mrs. Twine: thanks for the kind thoughts</p> <p>@mrs. bird: I think hearing that it was a girl was just another way that it was more real. We have had a boy and a girl name picked out for a long time. My husband was sure that it was a girl back when I got my first positive test and we were already jokingly referring to the pregnancy as a girl. She has always been Caroline. But you're right it was like a punch to the stomach again to hear it confirmed</p> <p>@SweetiePie: thank you for taking the time to answer. You are right I need to be happy that things are normal. Even if it was my tissue it's good that I am normal. My heart goes out to you and I hope you are able to bring home your baby.<br /> To answer your question This was my first loss but with my ob anytime they do a D&amp;C they run the tests. She is unfortunately out of town this weekend but said when she gets back next week I can call to ask any questions I have. She has been very good through this whole process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205887 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 11:00:48 +0000 SweetiePie 1205887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kate6214: Hi, I'm very sorry for your loss. Its an awful experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone.<br /> So I'm bringing the POV of someone who did the chromosome testing and got the opposite response. Ours did come back with an abnormality and it was a strange abnormality that made them think it was us. Well, it was - its coming from me. I've posted about it a ton, so if you want to read more about it you can here:<br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crap-i-have-a-balanced-translocation" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crap-i-have-a-balanced-translocation</a><br /> *And my odds are way worse than I originally thought when I started this board. I should probably update it in case anyone searches for balanced translocations later.</p> <p>Anyway, I want to say that its definitely, 100% better that the baby had no chromosomal abnormalities. If it did, you'd be heading down a totally different path than "have fun trying" from your doctor. There'd be more tests and more worrying over whether you are passing this horrible illness to your own children. And to be clear, more likely than not it would have been random anyway, even if it was chromosomal...my situation isn't very common - that I'm the one passing it on. Most chromosomal abnormalities are random or "de novo". </p> <p>As far as Dr. Google saying it was possibly your chromosomes, I'm not an expert but I don't see how that would be possible. If you had a chromosmal abnormality (as I do) and that was the reason for the miscarriage, then the tissue testing would not have come back as normal. </p> <p>So what I'm getting at is that you definitely would NOT have felt any better knowing it was chromosomal. I'm not trying to trivialize your loss at ALL, we thought our first one was random and that hurt just as much. I'm just saying that if it was chromosomal and then you had to start worrying about why the chromosome abnormality came to be, its even scarier. Because I can't change my chromosomes. There's no medicine I can take to make me pass on only the good half of my chromosomes. Every single time we have sex I now have to be afraid of getting pregnant. AFRAID of getting pregnant. Who on HB is now afraid to have sex with their husband because they might get pregnant. Isn't that the only reason most of us have sex with our husbands? I'm kidding...sort of ;-). Our only option is IVF w/PGD and our odds with that are even scary. </p> <p>So, take a deep breath and instead of being worried, be grateful. :-) Take your docs advice and have fun trying. I wish we could! </p> <p>Separate question: is this your first miscarriage? If it is, I wouldn't worry too much. But if you are, don't be afraid to tell your doctor that you want to be more 'vigilant' with your next pregnancy. Maybe test for progesterone early on, have betas to check for doubling HCG, etc. They are simple blood tests that they shouldn't deny you. I'm sure its all fine, but it could just bring you some peace to know its fine. That really helped after my first miscarriage because they were all normal. We didn't know about the chromosomes at the time, but since you do know it wasn't chromosomal, the betas should bring you even more peace. </p> <p>Good luck to you!!! Big hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205854 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 10:27:23 +0000 mrs. bird 1205854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kate6214: i'm so sorry for your loss. sometimes news that is positive for the future can still make things in the past painful. do you think being told it was a girl made is the part that is hurting more right now, that maybe that made it was more of a reminder of the person you lost and what your life would have been like with her had the pregnancy worked out? have you given your baby girl a name? sometimes that can be helpful in the grieving process. it's a lot to work through! i hope that you find some peace soon and that when you're ready, you can enjoy the process of TTC again with the new knowledge that you don't need to worry about a chromosomal issue, you have every reason to think next time you will have a take home baby. hugs for you during this difficult time &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205853 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 10:25:30 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1205853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kate6214: I can completely understand having mixed feelings and some sadness at finding out that there wasn't anything "wrong" with baby. The bright side is that hopefully you will never have to have the heartbreak of miscarriage again, but I can only imagine that it might make you second-guess what could have gone differently so that she would be with you now. :( I hope that you find peace with the results. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and I believe you can take your doctor's words as encouragement. Big hug! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205849 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 10:17:54 +0000 singingbee 1205849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is good news---hard to hear, but good. We lost our first at 20 weeks, but opted to not have any testing done. When we got pregnant again and they did my quad screen, the results came back normal, whereas the first pregnancy, they came back abnormal. That made me feel a little bit better because I really think there was something different or off with that pregnancy. It's hard, but sometimes there are just these freak things that happen. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205844 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 10:09:02 +0000 Dandelion 1205844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is good news. It means that you genetically can try again, without worrying that you are purposely endangering another baby. If you know it was genetic or chromosomal, you would be questioning more whether it's ethical to try for another. Sounds like your miscarriage just was a random occurrence.</p> <p>This is something I wanted to know about S. DH and I were worried, since we had an early miscarriage prior to her, that maybe we weren't genetically compatible or something. We definitely wanted to make sure that it wasn't some genetic combination of us that make her and the early miscarriage fail. Turns out it wasn't that at all, so we have a good chance of delivering this LO without a problem. It was mostly just a "freak accident". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tissue-testing-results-mixed-feelings#post-1205821 Sat, 09 Nov 2013 09:39:31 +0000 Kate6214 1205821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ob called and said the chromosome testing came back normal and that it was a girl. She said this was good news and to "have fun trying". </p> <p>I know I should be happy, but now I keep second guessing and thinking... well what went wrong. Was it something I did? Then with Dr google I hear about it possibly being my chromosomes and that's when I just had to stop. </p> <p>I was doing really well lately dealing with my miscarriage. Talking to people about it without crying, but this has just brought back the flood of emotions. </p>