https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 26 Jun 2026 16:24:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187630 Wed, 13 Jun 2012 06:41:46 +0000 Lozza 187630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After a prior loss, I really didn't tell many people - I had work colleagues that I don't see that often that didn't realize I was pregnant till about 7 months and we had to make plans for maternity leave. I never said anything on FB till after LO was born, but I think DH made an offhand comment or two midway through my third trimester, so some people figured it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187608 Wed, 13 Jun 2012 05:40:28 +0000 cvbee 187608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I shared bump pics every 2 weeks. My family is not in town and they loved seeing me change. Now I post baby pics almost every day. Facebook is a big deal for my family and how we stay connected.</p> <p>If people don't want to get your pregnancy news, they can take you out of their news feed. That's what I always do when someone constantly posts about something I dont want to hear about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187598 Wed, 13 Jun 2012 02:49:44 +0000 looch 187598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All I did as an announcement was a post where I wrote something along the lines of "finally starting maternity leave!" Most people in my life already knew I was pregnant and I didn't want to put up an ultrasound photo in case it hurt someone's feelings. There's no right or wrong answer in these cases, it's just better (IMO) to keep things light on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187232 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 16:30:17 +0000 mrs. bird 187232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your concern is just upsetting someone who might be struggling to conceive, I wouldn't worry about it because if you're asking the question you're obviously not going to phrase it in a way that would be insensitive. </p> <p>I'll admit to having private pity parties on occasion after people have announced their pregnancies, but I am genuinely happy for people when they get pregnan! ,Sometimes there is just a selfish moment in between. It's almost a relief seeing on FB where if I'm in a mood, I don't have to pretend to be happy right away like you do if you find out in public (I am a terrible person aren't I?!) Anyway, you sound like a very thoughtful friend and I'm sure you'll make a tasteful announcement whenever you're ready:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187176 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 15:02:14 +0000 Adira 187176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of liked the way my friend did it, although we weren't trying at the time. She didn't really ANNOUNCE it on Facebook at all. Just one day she posted something that made it obvious she was pregnant, but she did it in a really nonchalant way, so it wasn't like she was rubbing it in anyone's faces or anything, just if you didn't know, well, you'd know now. I think she posted under the assumption that people already knew, even though maybe they didn't.</p> <p>To be more specific, I think her post was something like "Dear fetus, my womb is not a nightclub, thank you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187165 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:52:24 +0000 DillonLion 187165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This decision really stressed me out too...until I just posted it. And now I don't have to think about it anymore. It's out there. I don't really post any other pregnancy related updates after that, so even if someone was trying without success or had suffered a miscarriage, they don't have to constantly read my updates. They just know I'm pregnant, is all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187164 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:50:22 +0000 LuLu Mom 187164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted at 15 weeks and only because I had a lot of people pestering me to do so. I wanted it to be from my mouth and not beacuse someone asked me a question on my wall or something. If you are finding out the gender, maybe you coudl do a gender reveal and that would be a way of saying "yes we are and yes it is a ......" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-187161 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:46:50 +0000 kml636 187161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the same as you. I'm 18 weeks and actually dreading putting it on there. I don't know why, maybe because then people I never talk to but can't easily delete will know! I guess we might post something when we know the gender. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186380 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 19:31:14 +0000 mrsjyw 186380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I had told family and close friends in person/phone, there are so many other long distance friends that I was not able to tell and as sad as it is, keep up to date about my/our life via fb, so that's why I decided to announce.</p> <p>In all honesty, I completely understand your hesitation and is a decision I think you should do to the comfort of you and your DH. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186369 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 19:25:15 +0000 heffalump 186369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't want to. I'm just not someone who likes attention, and obviously being pregnant will get someone a ton of attention. But my mom couldn't wait to tell the facebook world, so I let her. I guess I didn't care that much.... plus I LOVE seeing others pregnancy announcements. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186360 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 19:11:26 +0000 MamaMoose 186360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do not intend to announce the pregnancy on Facebook. I'm sure eventually a photo of me looking pregnant will show up.... Or someone will say something on my wall. But I'm 16 weeks now and ok with that happening. But I won't be posting a formal announcement. We will post a photo after baby arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186347 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 19:01:25 +0000 rawrasaur 186347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no plans of sharing my pregnancy on facebook at any point. I am a very private person and don't typically post a lot on facebook anyways. I have my wall closed so those who have found out can't post anything on it. Once the baby is here though I know I will have to post photos. Those who are close to us know and that is what matters for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186317 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:40:41 +0000 skibobrown 186317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted on facebook at 20-something weeks once we had already learned the gender and had a clean bill of health from the anatomy scan. All of our close friends knew at that point, but I was pretty sure that some of my facebook friends (not super close) would still be interested in hearing the news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186309 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:35:32 +0000 Mommy Finger 186309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am totally with you on this. I"m about a week behind you and don't know when/if I'll put something up. I know I would definitely wait until we know what we're having but don't know why that makes a difference. Part of me just hates that making it Facebook official is a "thing" and part just likes keeping it to myself (well and everyone else I've told). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-facebook-or-not-to-facebook-that-is-the-question#post-186290 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:22:36 +0000 Periwinkle 186290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am trying to decide whether or not I want to announce our pregnancy and future arrival on Facebook and have been struggling with the decision, as silly as that may sound. We are 19w today and while all of our close friends and family know, we have held off putting our news on Facebook for a few reasons.</p> <p>We are now debating whether or not we should put up an announcement at some point, or maybe even just post a picture as I am beginning to definitely look pregnant (!), but I don't know why I am struggling with this decision. </p> <p>While I don't know anyone who is actively trying without success (or at least who has shared this with me(, I am nervous to potentially offend a "friend" who might be having a difficult time in the baby department. I know that when things have been difficult for me in other areas of life, seeing someone's happy announcement was not always what I wanted to see, even though I was still happy for them. Also, I guess I am just trying to come up with something clever (and not cheesy!) to say, if I said anything at all.</p> <p>The truth of the matter is that all people who should know already do, and I am trying to decide what my reasons are for sharing in such a public way, if at all.</p> <p>I feel like this is a trivial personal debate in the grand scheme of things and is taking up way too much of my productive time! Has anyone else struggled with this type of issue? </p>