https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 10:26:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1310217 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 13:33:32 +0000 birdofafeather 1310217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a surprise! Congrats!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309385 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 07:53:39 +0000 Ra 1309385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Woohoo! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309382 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 07:49:04 +0000 Dandelion 1309382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@polkadots: Yay for boys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309344 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 06:44:36 +0000 Honeygold89 1309344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay for a boy I was the same way and was so surprised when the tech told us it was a boy (which is what I really wanted) now I can't wait to meet my little man in a few weeks! Congrats </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309306 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 02:10:21 +0000 leelee 1309306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309284 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 01:15:14 +0000 tequiero21 1309284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay! Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309257 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 00:20:03 +0000 indi 1309257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@polkadots: Congrats! Enjoy planning for your little man! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309226 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 23:42:49 +0000 googly-eyes 1309226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!! What a surprise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309224 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 23:41:34 +0000 Mae 1309224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@polkadots: congrats!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1309221 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 23:38:40 +0000 polkadots 1309221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: we found out and so glad we did! IT'S A BOY! I was 99% sure it was a girl since that is what we have already and we have a lot of girls in our family. were excited! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1308595 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 18:20:21 +0000 lovehoneybee 1308595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@polkadots: I loved being TG with our first, but if we have a second I think we'd find out ahead of time. I feel like it would help make the idea more real for DS if we could tell him he was getting a baby brother or sister, rather than just a more abstract baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1308593 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 18:17:44 +0000 polkadots 1308593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: @Periwinkle: the gender is in an envelope! I gave in to my husband who wanted to find out! we will look tonight with some sparkling grape juice. there is an outfit wrapped up for dd to open! @leelee: got me thinking and thought it would be best to find out due to gender disappointment... ill update when I know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1308394 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 15:57:43 +0000 shortcake 1308394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Found out the first time, but not finding out this time. Thought it would be nice to try it both ways. I don't get the people who say they are planners. You are still planning for a baby, it's not like anyone is saying don't plan at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1308372 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 15:36:25 +0000 Periwinkle 1308372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eagerly awaiting your update! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1308369 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 15:35:19 +0000 Vegmama 1308369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did the scan go?? Did you guys find out?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305812 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 12:15:38 +0000 polkadots 1305812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@leelee: This is a very good point, never thought about it this way. I am preparing myself for a girl..(found names I love, can reuse DD's things) so that makes me excited if it is. Haven't found any names for a boy or looked at buying any boy things. So I'll be happy if its a girl, and surprised if its a boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305672 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 10:16:55 +0000 leelee 1305672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@polkadots: I actually have read multiple articles that suggest finding out the sex ASAP if gender disappointment is a possibility. It stated that by finding out as soon as possible you have time to grieve for not having the sex you preferred and get excited for the new arrival. Plus I guess some moms are so convinced they are having one sex and then find out it's the other at birth have breakdowns after birth due to disappointment and sudden change in hormones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305580 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 08:48:52 +0000 Ree723 1305580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Team Green x 2 here and LOVE it!!! Hearing DH say "it's a girl!' was one of the most emotional moments of my life - not to say it wouldn't be emotional with the arrival of a new baby regardless, but nine months of anticipation, hopes, and dreams culminating in those three little words was an indescribable feeling. We are five weeks away from finding out what LO #2 is and the excitement is building!</p> <p>I'm also a total planner but unless you plan on buying gender specific gear, it's really not hard to plan for a TG baby at all. We have ten newborn/0-3 month boy outfits and ten girl outfits (in addition to DD's clothes), so we will be set for the first week or so with clothes, giving us (and the grandparents!) time to go on a gender specific shopping frenzy. I'll probably order some gender specific A&amp;A blankets as well but we have a couple of neutral ones to get us through the initial days.</p> <p>It's really not hard to be TG and there are so few emotionally charged surprises left in life, I would not want to deprive myself, nor DH, of that magical moment of hearing "it's a _____!" For me, I just wouldn't get that same rush of emotion hearing an ultrasound technician say "yup, it's a ____, see the _______right here?" and then waiting another 20 weeks to actually meet the LO. </p> <p>I can't recommend being TG enough! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305578 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 08:47:15 +0000 MrsH 1305578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out but didn't tell anyone until 37 weeks (Christmas). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305457 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 02:34:57 +0000 googly-eyes 1305457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out but I think I want to be TG the next time! I have to convince dh though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305442 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 01:38:00 +0000 mamimami 1305442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green for both babies and it was worth it. To me it doesn't have to do with being a planner or not... Just being on HB kind of shows we're pretty much all planners! We were plenty prepared for both kids even without knowing their sexes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305437 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 01:36:14 +0000 meganmp 1305437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Team Green! Nothing cooler than hearing the emotion in my husband's voice when he got to tell me we had a son and a daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305427 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 01:14:44 +0000 lamariniere 1305427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to know both times. I think, for me, it helped me bond with the baby better and wrap my head around the pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305389 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 23:47:27 +0000 ALV91711 1305389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green and I loved it and would do it again. It was so much fun to hear everyone speculate by the way I was carrying or other old wives takes. It also made the last couple pushes a lot easier as I was excited to find out boy/girl. </p> <p>Next time we may find out as I think DH would really like to and I made us be team green. But we will see, maybe I can convince him otherwise. </p> <p>I also think for the first it is great as all out gear is neutral. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question/page/2#post-1305369 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 23:29:46 +0000 wonderstruck 1305369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: I wasn't team green for the same reason, but flipped - I thought that if I was going to have any gender disappointment I'd rather deal with it during an ultrasound, not birth. I was very wrong - I felt the exact same way you did, and finding out we were having a boy hit me in an unexpected and very hard way. But if I had waited? There is no way I could have been that upset while having my gorgeous baby boy placed into my arms for the first time.</p> <p>I'm torn for the second time around. I LOVE the idea of being Team Green, but am a crazy planner who LOVES designing the nursery. My husband wants to know. So what I am considering for next time is having them write it down, and then maybe a month before I'm due e-mails him two shopping lists with links - one for a boy, one for a girl. He can then look and see what we're having and buy the appropriate nursery stuff. Is that a crazy plan? Maybe, I kind of haven't discussed it with him yet. But I think something about being the only one who knows would appeal to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question#post-1305334 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 23:04:05 +0000 Periwinkle 1305334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were on Team Green and it was great for us. I had a few moments (funnily enough, right at the end of my pregnancy) where I wanted to give in, but so glad we waited because that moment when the doctor announced that we had a son was so incredibly special and something I will never forget. </p> <p>The interesting part is I am completely Type A and generally need to plan everything! For some reason, I was able to rely on the fact that we would figure out the details when the baby was born- and I was ok with that. </p> <p>To be honest, if we have any more children, I would be inclined to wait again :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question#post-1305333 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 23:03:10 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1305333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 30 weeks and team green, and I LOVE it!!! I love people speculating, and hearing all the old wives tales about how I'm carrying and all that. I'm so looking forward to the moment my husband or midwife tells me the gender.<br /> Also curious for those who are saying they are planners - is it just for colours? What can you not plan without knowing the gender, besides that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question#post-1305287 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 22:26:12 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1305287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want to go Team Green if we have another baby, so I vote "Don't do it." I think it would be suuuuper hard to resist finding out, but I just think about that moment when the baby is born and having them yell out what it is....Ahh, it just seems soo exciting! Regardless, you really can't go wrong because it will be exciting whenever you find out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question#post-1305271 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 22:11:26 +0000 Beebug 1305271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a planner, but am team greening this time (LO#2), anatomy scan day (was Dec 19th!) was SO hard, but I am so glad to not know this time. This is not likely our last LO, we found out with our first, it is hard, but I'd say go team green if you can just to experience both sides, having the option not to find out your babies gender is something that is such a limited opportunity you will have! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-find-out-or-not-to-find-out-that-is-the-question#post-1305268 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 22:08:24 +0000 pregnantbee 1305268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't, and it was amazing! The most beautiful words ever were "It's a boy!" said by my husband in the delivery room. Of course I was dying to find out, and that was huge motivation for me to keep pushing! </p>