https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 22:29:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1479675 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 21:38:13 +0000 FaithFertility 1479675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: Yes, the stigma is what is starting to get to me, I am starting to hear it more since we are going on 2yrs, the advice, looks questions just seem to be more and more lately!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1479672 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 21:36:56 +0000 FaithFertility 1479672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HolisticMama: I :heart: this! I feel like starting. Blog or something, writing it out seems to help me alto! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1479402 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 18:34:06 +0000 HolisticMama 1479402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: Did you decide to post?<br /> I have been posting about my journey since the beginning: </p> <p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10100294242387990.1073741831.29901698&#038;type=1&#038;l=e14160ac2a" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10100294242387990.1073741831.29901698&#038;type=1&#038;l=e14160ac2a</a></p> <p>I was shocked at the outpouring of supportive and amazing comments. I also have had people tell me how much they are learning and enjoying the posts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1476947 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 23:04:59 +0000 meganmp 1476947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted about our IVF... eventually. My twins were 8 or so months old when I did. It took a lot for me to be willing to do it, but I just set my status so people who didn't need to see it, didn't. It helped a lot, and made me feel more empowered. I say go for it, simply because I've decided that there is too much stigma attached to infertility, and talking about it is a great way to get rid of that stigma. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1476874 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 22:37:40 +0000 Happygal 1476874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1476852 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 22:28:52 +0000 FaithFertility 1476852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for your opinions, I wanted them all.......still have not posted, I just was truly needing to write what I wanted to say, and just posting it here made me feel alot better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1476731 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 21:53:10 +0000 tequiero21 1476731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck! I personally wouldn't do it cuz I don't want everyone to know what I'm going thru. And my hubby would never approve. But I do think you are brave to be able to do so! Hope you get good supportive responses! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1476434 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 20:58:35 +0000 FaithFertility 1476434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@owlteach: Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1476426 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 20:57:33 +0000 FaithFertility 1476426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@redsmarties: I agree...I am so used to the already ridicules advice.....lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1472422 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 10:28:21 +0000 BSB 1472422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you feel comfortable, do it. I was so overwhelmed with all the support I got when I posted it on FB. I was so afraid on people saying the wrong thing but almost everyone was so supportive. I even got people to privately message me and tell me that they struggled too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471932 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 08:07:13 +0000 Happygal 1471932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're comfortable sharing this with friends, I say go for it. I know other Bees have shared things on FB about infertility and have felt really supported and happy about doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471664 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 23:28:13 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1471664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It totally depends on what you're comfortable with. I've always been VERY open about our fertility journey and struggles, so I would post it myself. But, we also view our journey as a way to reach out to others going through similar trials. So, it depends how open you want to be. And unfortunately, PPs are right. You will probably get some unsolicited advice and stories, so you'd have to be open to that too. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471642 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 23:12:49 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1471642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's beautiful. If its honest and you trust the people on your Facebook I see not reason not to. Who knows you might find that some people are going through the se thing an make them feel a lot less alone in doing so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471608 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:45:47 +0000 Torchwood 1471608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would post it, if you're comfortable with the well-intentioned but poorly thought out advice, and just the attention in general. I was open about our miscarriages and it really helped me to have other women talk about their experiences when they found out about mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471586 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:28:52 +0000 googly-eyes 1471586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say it depends on who is your "friend." As long as you're ok with the unsolicited advice, it could be a chance to connect with others going through the same thing. I don't mind serious stuff on there...makes for a good reality check. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471583 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:27:05 +0000 PurplePumps 1471583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's great if you want to open up and try to reach out to people like that, but personally, I could never do that. To me, Facebook is too superficial and I'm much to private to open up like that. I've only told my best friend of my struggles, and only to say we've been trying a while. Not even my parents know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471530 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 21:54:44 +0000 Synchronicity 1471530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, but I never posted very serious or personal things on FB. I have too many people on there from my past, who don't know much about who I am now, and I wouldn't want to share such an intimate thing with everyone. </p> <p>Disclaimer: I deactivated my Facebook a while ago and haven't looked back ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471521 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 21:47:19 +0000 snowjewelz 1471521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's nice that you don't mind sharing what you are going through via FB, but def be aware of unsolicited comments from insensitive people, or for people to then constantly bring it up or ask you IRL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471509 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 21:40:14 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1471509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YIKES.<br /> I personally would not, not because anything is wrong with it (nice message) but because I wouldn't be ok with EVERYONE on my list knowing my business and then getting a ton of unfiltered advice and comments :/ I just wouldn't want to "cheapen" it if that makes sense? I believe in sharing but at the same time, I wouldn't want to open doors for people to come into my most personal life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471423 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 20:51:47 +0000 MsLipGloss 1471423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I would never post something like that on FB . . . but then again, I am someone who deleted her FB account . . . I just don't see FB as that kind of platform. The potential for things to go sideways is far greater than for it to go really well . . . because it's FB after all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471417 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 20:49:57 +0000 owlteach 1471417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SOOO brave. You may want to add something about how you appreciate people reaching out, you are working with a great team of doctors and medical professionals and you would appreciate it if they could leave your care decisions up to your team, or something along those lines. I read a facebook status once that phrased it much better than that....I will see if I can find it for you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471414 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 20:48:11 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1471414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bet you'll get at least a few "us too" messages which could be a really nice connection. I think it's really brave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471272 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:56:47 +0000 thisisme 1471272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I so admire your strength, courage, faith, perseverance, and patience! I'm sure people who know you IRL see that even more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471266 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:55:33 +0000 swedishfish 1471266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're very brave! Go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471206 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:37:22 +0000 LovelyPlum 1471206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say go for it, if you're comfortable! People opening up to me about their journeys was such a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471184 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:29:45 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1471184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're comfortable with the wave of "advice", well-intentioned or not, I say go for it!<br /> I opened up about our infertility issues after about 1.5 years of TTC, and many people either ignored it, or had kind words to say. There were a few that wouldn't leave me alone though, constantly sending me tips and tricks to try, or telling me to relax. </p> <p>I hope you get only GOOD responses, and no unhelpful ones! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471177 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:27:35 +0000 FaithFertility 1471177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: ♥ I just feel it is time......... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471176 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:27:01 +0000 FaithFertility 1471176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes there are spelling errors I'm on my phone and it's hard to text..lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471171 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:25:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1471171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say post! I posted about IF on Facebook for the first time almost a year ago and got a lot of kind words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-post-or-not-to-post#post-1471167 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:24:17 +0000 FaithFertility 1471167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The below message is a post waiting to be posted on facebook....I want to kinda open the door to what we are going through but in a nice way not a self pitty way!</p> <p>What do you think?!?!?!?</p> <p>Share your story because you never know who is fighting the same battle and use you as inspiration:<br /> For the past two years we have been "trying to start a family" and are still on this journey! I've relized this road was not planned and jas gone in many directions, what I have learned is what we started out to do was all wrong! We are not "trying to start" a famiky.....we are a family, he and I..I and him and with our family and friemes we have all that we need! We are trying to expand this blessed love that we share and add to our already amamzing family and life!!! We will get to the end of this road one day, but inthe eman time I WILL NEVER FORGET all that I have!!! ♥♡♥ </p>