https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 21:47:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-418288 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 23:51:55 +0000 HLK208 418288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two...but, for the first 2 years of my son's life I wanted to devote all my attention and effort on him--DH and I thought for sure we were one and sone. Then by the age of 2, he became more independent and baby fever started to creep up on me. I wanted him to have a sibling as well since my sisters are my best friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-418272 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 23:40:25 +0000 sandy 418272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: like you I am frightened to have baby #2...everyone tells me "you only get one easy baby"... my LO was a super easy baby and at almost 13 months she is still very easy going...I am constantly told by others how easy I have it...but some days it doesn't feel like it...she is showing is that she is super strong willed but fortunately 99% of the time she is very easy going.</p> <p>I wouldn't mind just having one but my husband definitely wants two...so we will probably have another one soon but I totally get why people want one baby and are done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417758 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:38:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 417758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mandb36: I love the idea of my son being 18 when I'm 40 too! And I know I won't be able to have a second close to the first (money, time, etc) so if/when I have another one it will be a vast age difference...</p> <p>Money is a huge issue for us, but I'm not sure I could have just one. I also know my family would flip if we did :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417744 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:34:28 +0000 ladyfingers 417744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't decided one way or another yet, but what's weighing in favor of only one is largely the financial issue. We wouldn't be able to provide as much or take trips with more than one child, especially more than one child in daycare. And now with my GD diagnosis, it sounds weird but I don't know if I want to go through all this worry and stress again. We'll see how complicated things get (I'm so negative lol). I'm also 32. I know people have babies older than that and it's no big deal at all, but I don't know if I want to go through this all over again at 34/35. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417484 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 16:15:51 +0000 Jumpingjacks 417484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're already older and so firstly we don't feel that having a second is feasible for us. Also with our temperaments, we just feel that one suits us really well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417463 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 16:08:43 +0000 BelugaBean 417463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: Yeah, I get weird reactions too. People like to say "When you have your next baby," and I sometimes correct it to "if".</p> <p>@rahlyrah: I had one of the easiest pregnancies ever and I still don't know that I want to do it again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417448 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 16:04:34 +0000 Ra 417448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like PP's, we plan on only having one child for financial reasons. We love to travel and want to be able to travel the world with our LO, which is a lot more feasible financially with only one child. We also live in the city so we need to afford private school, a car eventually, and college. We also want to maintain our current lifestyle where we can shop and eat out whenever we want. </p> <p>Also, now that I am pregnant, I am sure that I never want to deal with this morning sickness nonsense again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417243 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 15:07:13 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 417243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have made the mistake of kicking around the idea of having just one child out loud ... and man, people are so annoying about it. Seriously, it makes me want to have one kid just to spite them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417222 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 14:59:13 +0000 yoursilverlining 417222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mandb36: "I think he's also just frustrated when she has trouble sleeping though" Haha, yeah….that’s a big part of it too for us! LO is an easy baby now IMO, but at first she definitely wasn’t. Thinking about caring for a toddler while working full time and dealing with a colicky infant makes me dizzy. Yup, I think we’ll stick with 1! ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417205 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 14:52:47 +0000 BelugaBean 417205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I totally get everything you're saying. We're only 24 but it's nice to think about traveling again someday and having time as a couple again. My husband also very often brings up that we'd be able to give her more if it's just her than if she has a sibling. I think he's also just frustrated when she has trouble sleeping though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417156 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 14:36:02 +0000 yoursilverlining 417156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are 99% sure we are only having one because we don’t have any desire (at least right now) to have another child. We love and adore LO and we’re good spending all of our time, attention and money on only her – we feel like a complete family. Also, we don’t want to spend our entire lives raising babies! We want to get back to traveling, having time to/for ourselves, etc. It sounds selfish I know, but I don’t know how else to put it.</p> <p>My husband and I feel that it’s a parent’s responsibility to significantly help pay for college, and we want to provide a certain lifestyle for ourselves and LO. We can fairly easily save significant money for college for LO, retirement for us, saved money for travel, home, and other things. To think about saving for more than 1 college education is a little bit daunting, especially when I've still got student loans!</p> <p>My husband is 47 and I’m 31 and at this point in life; I think we would like to start planning for all the fun things we will do with LO, and the fun things we’ll do as a couple once LO is old enough to spend several days/overnights at Camp Grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-417091 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 14:18:36 +0000 BelugaBean 417091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: We have a fairly challenging baby too. I am a SAHM and if we had another that was this difficult again, I'm not sure I could handle it. </p> <p>@mediagirl: Your logic makes sense to me! My nephew was a super easy baby. They're expecting number two and we joke about them having the complete opposite experience this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-416880 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 13:00:10 +0000 mediagirl 416880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just don't think we can afford to provide a lifestyle that we would like to provide for our lo if we had more than one. We would be stretched beyond our means when it came to daycare so, it wouldn't work. We don't live paycheck to paycheck and don't ever want to. If we had another - we probably would. </p> <p>I'm 35 and my husband is 39. This plays a factor in our decision, as well. If we were to have two, we would want our first to be able to be a baby for a while. We have a 5 1/2 month old and I cannot imagine having another right now. I wouldn't want to rush another one out just to have another. If we had another, I would want them 2-3 years apart. By then, we would be in our late 30's, early 40's. I feel like that's too old for us.</p> <p>Oh, also - we have a really good baby. I don't know if I could handle having a not so good baby after how easy she has been. Maybe she'll turn into a holy terror when she gets older but for now? Easy baby. Is that backwards? Don't people normally want another baby when they have an easy one? Maybe I'm just being logical about it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-416873 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 12:54:09 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 416873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us, a lot of it centers on the financial aspect of raising a child. We just don't know if we could comfortably afford 2 babies. It could change, but if it doesn't, we are more than happy with our one DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-416865 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 12:50:39 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 416865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she's making the decision herself! LOL She's been a very challenging baby and I don't think we can handle working full time and keeping up with two babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/to-those-who-are-only-having-one-lo#post-416534 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 10:14:00 +0000 BelugaBean 416534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What made you decide that? We're leaning towards being done right now but I'm not sure. We had LO young so it seems nice that she'd be 18 when we're only 42. We also think it'd be nice to focus all our energy and time on just her. There's also the thought that it'd be nice for her to have a sibling though.</p> <p>We have time to think about it since we wouldn't have another until she's around 3, it's just something that's crossed my mind lately. </p>