https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 00:20:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038896 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 13:53:27 +0000 rachiecakes 2038896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad today was much better!</p> <p>Even though I'm a working mom I know how you feel. My husband works opposite hours through the school year. So I solo parent nights and weekends and work full time. I've had some crys about wanting a night off. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038845 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 13:08:33 +0000 ElbieKay 2038845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I suggest that you (1) nurse (2) go out for three hours (3) come home and nurse (4) send your husband out of the house with both kids for another three hours.</p> <p>That is pretty close to a day off.</p> <p>ETA: At one point when I was on maternity leave and needed new clothes, I took a sitter with me to the mall. I shopped alone while she watched the baby, and we just met up at one point so I could nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038769 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 11:53:01 +0000 Greentea 2038769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I had a hard time going anywhere when I was breastfeeding- I almost got a pump adapter for my car and I totally will if I breastfeed again! Whatever you gotta do to get out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038671 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 10:01:20 +0000 Kimberlybee 2038671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Good morning! Hope you get some time off to enjoy yourself this weekend. You definitely need a break and make time for yourself. Have a great weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038664 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 09:53:55 +0000 miramira 2038664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad you're feeling better :D</p> <p>I know how restrictive it can feel while breastfeeding/pumping. Can you pump before you leave the house and head out for a long walk or a swim or something? And I know what you mean about feeling nervous leaving DH with the kids, but you need time to restore yourself. If it turns out they didn't have a fun walk and they come home grumpy, so be it - your husband will have learned how tough it is and will be better prepared for next time! Take care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038181 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 19:00:17 +0000 jedeve 2038181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys!</p> <p>Today was much better. My speech went really well. Both of the over tired boys room super long naps this afternoon so I got the house cleaned. DH is bringing home sushi for dinner. </p> <p>I still want to take tomorrow morning off. Really I would like to do more than run out for a coffee...it would be great to have a whole morning off. But really what am I going to do? Pump in a coffee shop? I feel kind of bad that DH has to watch the kids when I know he is tired from a long week too. But I don't want to be *that mom* you know? And really LO2 is 7 months and he has never taken the two of them anywhere by himself. He says he wants to take them for a walk. Which makes me kind of nervous, but at the same time I want him to see how much work goes in to it. And not nervous in the sense that he can't handle it or something would happen to the kids. More like that it won't go well and everyone will come home grumpy and I will feel bad and just say screw it next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2038045 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 16:42:08 +0000 miramira 2038045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just want to add that you DO have a job, a very important one, and you're doing it wonderfully :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2037661 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 13:43:04 +0000 knittylady 2037661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been there . It's so so hard. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2037633 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 13:29:58 +0000 HTownMom 2037633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: so sorry to hear that. I get those kind of days too and just want to go away and have free time to myself. Is there any family near by that could help for even 2 hrs a day or two a week? Or could you get a babysitter for an hour or so during the day so that you can get some me time? </p> <p>You definitely need a break and it will help you feel better to get time away! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2037034 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 08:08:50 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2037034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You totally deserve a day off! Have DH watch the kids on the weekend so you can go to the spa :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2037022 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 08:01:28 +0000 Anagram 2037022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Awww. Sounds like a rough day. Definitely try to get an hour or two to yourself sometimes--maybe join a gym that has childcare?</p> <p>It probably doesn't make you feel any better, but I have a job where I rarely talk to adults, I don't get to go to the bathroom when I want, and I work through almost every lunch and therefore, never get to go somewhere to get a coffee or food on my 45 minutes of "free time". I'm a middle school teacher and librarian--and I want to leave after school to go pick up LO, so I use my lunch break for my tutoring time, which means I don't have a break from kids allllllll day long. I have to hold my pee for hours at a time (not easy when pregnant!) because we only have 3 minute passing periods and I have to get the room set up for the next class. Sometimes I envy people who have office jobs who can do all those things you mentioned, too! I can't even make doctor's appointments because my desk phone is within earshot of about 30 middle school ears and I can't step into another room to use my cell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2037019 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 07:51:52 +0000 regberadaisy 2037019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope today is better! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036901 Fri, 23 Jan 2015 00:27:17 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2036901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no - I'm so sorry you had such a rough day!! I hope tomorrow is a better one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036830 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 22:21:04 +0000 macintosh 2036830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you do deserve a day off! Tell DH you need a few hours out of the house the next weekend he's free. Then take yourself to the spa, or even to Starbucks for an hour! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036828 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 22:19:08 +0000 jhd 2036828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you had such a rough day! I was just thinking this morning about how as a SAHM I don't get days off. DH took a much needed sick day today but I don't have that option, especially when LO isn't feeling well and going through major separation anxiety! I hope tomorrow is a better day!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036826 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 22:17:50 +0000 Foodnerd81 2036826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I'm sorry. That sounds really tough. I get jealous of stupid little things that dh does too- and I know he is working hard not just hanging out but sometimes im like- the people you are with don't throw food! You can go to the bathroom when you feel like it! </p> <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: @Greentea: I totally think of dh's commute as this peaceful time when he can just listen to music and zone out -- only I used to have the same commute andno KNOW it sucks. </p> <p>I hope tomorrow is better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036799 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:56:56 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2036799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: yes! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one to be jealous of my husband driving to and from work. I miss listening to the radio while driving. Crazy, I know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036795 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:54:56 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2036795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Big hugs.</p> <p>I totally get jealous of my husband being able to go to work and talk to adults. We have only 1 car, so I'm literally house bound. I'm slowly losing my mind. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036789 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:50:55 +0000 spaniellove 2036789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I'm so sorry. It's the worst when all these things add up and you feel trapped. On bad days I wouldn't need to hear about a spa; I think just sitting anywhere with grownups and not looking at the same living room day after day would sound amazing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036784 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:50:04 +0000 Greentea 2036784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I am sorry. I myself feel like I need a break or vacation. SAH is really really tough. Whether fair or not, sometimes I even envy DH's commute! Driving in a car by yourself... maybe I sound ridiculous but it can be tough having a little boss that doesn't pay you but poops on you instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036778 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:47:13 +0000 birdofafeather 2036778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Hugs friend. Hope tomorrow has a bit of redemption in it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036768 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:42:51 +0000 Tanjowen 2036768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: The poop destroying naps is the worst. :bummed: I hear you on the whole being jealous of DH - mine is gone 3-4 nights a week in a hotel and I'm thinking, "I want a maid to clean up after me and sit in bed and watch TV alone!."</p> <p>Hope your day got better and the migraine went away. Or that you got some sweet snuggles from LO that made it better, because that usually helps me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036764 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:38:22 +0000 travellingbee 2036764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( sorry... Feel better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036762 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:38:16 +0000 BeachMama 2036762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you've had a rough day. When I was on maternity leave with DD I often was jealous of DH - that he got to talk to people, have adult interaction, work out, etc. I honestly don't know how SAHM's do it. I love my daughter, but usually by Sunday evening I'm happy to go to work the next day.</p> <p>Can you and DH work something out so you get some time away? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/today-has-been-a-crappy-day#post-2036749 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 21:30:53 +0000 jedeve 2036749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo1 missed his nap two days in a row. He woke up sick and stuffy yesterday after about forty minutes (usually be sleeps for two or three hours.) Today he woke up poopy after about twenty minutes. So he has just been a WRECK. Hitting, refusing to eat, throwing things. I know he is just way over tired and sick. But he threw something at my face and I have to speak in front of people tomorrow. </p> <p>Lo2 has barely napped because if I try to put him down he wakes up. Or lo1 wakes him up. Or he farts himself awake. He will hardly eat solids because I can't find a time that he isn't overtired and fussy to try. He just grunts and makes faces when I offer. </p> <p>DH is gone ten hours a day. I know he works really hard too. But I get so jealous that he can do simple things like go to the bathroom by himself or walk across the street for a sandwich or have an adult conversation. He was telling me about some work retreat he has to go to and how one of the optional activies is a spa. It made me cry a little bit. I want to go to a spa. I know I don't have a job and so I don't get perks like that. But it still doesn't seem fair. I'm working just as hard, you know?</p> <p>I just really, really want a day off. I know you don't get days off when you are a parent. But it would be so nice. </p> <p>I have to go practice my speech but I really am not in the mood to talk about kids and parenting when I just kind of want to crawl under a rock. </p> <p>Also I had a migraine today. </p>