https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 22:12:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-2368985 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 07:00:51 +0000 Cherrybee 2368985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are still dealing with this. What helped us was laying out her room so she can get all of her books and toys herself but cannot get out of her bedroom. She trashes the room every night (playing, not on temper) and usually falls asleep after about an hour, with half of her play kitchen in bed with her. She wails or yells for me but I ignore it. </p> <p>@bpcmarj: When did it end for you? It ended, right?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-2368956 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 05:41:28 +0000 Alba4 2368956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our son is still in a crib, but is stalling bedtime every night. He wants milk, to be rocked, light on, etc. usually he only needs an extra 1/2 hour of snuggles and then he goes to sleep. I'm stalling the bed transition, but I'm pregnant with #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-2368864 Tue, 24 Nov 2015 22:34:48 +0000 cascademom 2368864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When does this phase end? LO's had a big boy bed for about month. The past month has been awful. He's constantly getting out of bed, not sleeping, demanding everything under the sun. We're exhausted, lacking general intimacy, and sleep because we have zero time to ourselves with these drawn out bedtime hells. I'm ready for anything to make this stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1915386 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 06:35:18 +0000 bpcmarj 1915386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@enjollah: i don't think she is afraid, she says she needs me. And "but you're my best Momma!!". Last night was seriously awesome. </p> <p>@erinpye: I am so sorry you've been dealing with it, too. I so hope it is a short phase. I can't imagine this and another babe to tend to!! Hang in there Momma! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1915350 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 01:35:51 +0000 erinpye 1915350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I swear this is a 2.5 year old thing. S has been suddenly very difficult with sleep for the last 6 weeks or so, and a lot of friends are going through the same thing with kids this age. No advice- just commiseration, and together we can hope it's a short phase! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1915313 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 23:11:17 +0000 enjollah 1915313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bpcmarj: glad to hear there's a little bit of progress! Did your LO want you to stay in the room because she's scared (of the dark, being alone, etc) or because she just didn't want you to leave? My LO is experiencing something similar but he says he's scared and needs me (only me) to snuggle with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1915231 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 21:17:31 +0000 bpcmarj 1915231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thenetexan: thanks for the rec!!</p> <p>@edelweiss: I had a near hallelujah moment . DH was gone for two days. He came home tonight, we went out to dinner with friends and then came home. PJs, a quick snuggle in our bed, 4 books in her bed and a handfulof songs . She then went right to sleep. For the first time in I don't know how long. She is for sure getting a sticker tomorrow! Fingers crossed for no wakeups! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1915149 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 19:02:05 +0000 edelweiss 1915149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bpcmarj: just wanted to send you some encouragement for tonight and however long it takes for your LO's sleep to get back to normal.</p> <p>we're trying a combo of "stay in the room to put him back in bed but don't look at or speak to him" and CIO tonight. we'll see how it goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914776 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 13:17:59 +0000 Thenetexan 1914776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try reading this book at bedtime. My 2.75 year old now counts himself to sleep bc of this book. I think sometimes he just can't turn off his brain and the counting helps clear it. I was desperate when in bought the book and my husband was skeptical, but it worked. We still have a bad night here and there, but this was a game changer for us. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1489595570/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1414174472&#038;sr=8-1&#038;pi=SY200_QL40" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1489595570/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1414174472&#038;sr=8-1&#038;pi=SY200_QL40</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914728 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 12:51:10 +0000 LuLu Mom 1914728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bpcmarj: yeah our doctor said to stay off her bed (we had the bad habit of laying with her) she said you can stay in there and sit on a chair or the floor, but as soon as you sit/lay in bed with them they have all control! This worked for about a week she would stay in her room after we left (well crawled out) and then it was straight back to bad habits after having one bad dream. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914649 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 12:03:09 +0000 bpcmarj 1914649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Giulia1977: @LuLu Mom: @edelweiss: @mrs. wagon: Power in numbers?</p> <p>UGH. Seriously though, I am at my wits end. My patience is so thin by the end of the night. I am really hopeful that we can get her back into a schedule this weekend. Maybe talk to her more about what we will do (like tonight I will sit by your bed, tomorrow I will leave the bedroom, then I will close your door). I really hope that it is partly a phase. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914511 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:44:30 +0000 Jess1483 1914511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: oh that's awful! When my LO cries it out it's rarely longer than 10-15 minutes and often it's 1-2. I definitely couldn't handle the vomiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914501 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:38:03 +0000 mrs. wagon 1914501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: yeah, this happened with us too. At its worst she was up every hour through the night!!! It was like having a newborn all over again except you can't rock them to sleep. Ugh. We tried to let her cry it out but she started vomiting, then learned that we'd come in if she vomited so she started vomiting every time she woke and cried. The WORST. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914497 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:35:07 +0000 Jess1483 1914497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: we tried this before the gate, but my LO will wake multiple times a night if we "assist" him in falling asleep in any way for bedtime (we do sit with him for naps). So it is def worth a shot, but doesn't work for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914490 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:31:48 +0000 edelweiss 1914490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wrote a very similar post yesterday, although LO started the hysterical screaming right off the bat (we switched to the toddler bed a few days ago). we tried CIO for about 20 minutes until it became unbearable--we've done CIO before but this was otherworldly. </p> <p>last night i sat in the room with him and sang, and every time he tried to get out of the bed i gently but firmly put him back. he cried off and on and was starting to get the picture about staying in the bed, but at some point started calling for daddy, who is a sucker, and when daddy came into the room things really started to break down. so i gave up and lay with LO in the toddler bed until he fell asleep. but at least he was in the toddler bed.</p> <p>tonight i'd like to try something similar, but with no husband coming in. eventually i'd like to be able to leave the room before LO is completely asleep so he doesn't get too used to someone being in there the whole time.</p> <p>it's been rough. i am tired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914483 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:29:18 +0000 mrs. wagon 1914483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( I feel your pain as well. We are the terrible mean parents who put a doorknob cover on the inside knob of her door. But when we are dealing with sleep regressions we usually sit in her doorway until she falls asleep. By now we can sit in her doorway and she'll check to make sure we're still there, and we can sternly tell her to lay back down and go to sleep. But to do it gradually you can sit next to her, then slowly move away until you're in the doorway... once things are going well like that for a few nights we move further and further away until we are sitting outside her slightly open doorway... then eventually we close the door while saying goodnight through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914475 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:25:59 +0000 LuLu Mom 1914475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been dealing with this for a few months, she "hates" her bed and only wants us in there. She usually falls asleep on the couch or the floor and we move her to her bed. Last night she was wondering around at 3 am (sleep walking) and I just put her on the couch and rubbed her back until she fell asleep. It's getting old but I keep telling myself it has to end soon! (please before baby #2 gets here!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914465 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:21:21 +0000 Giulia1977 1914465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i feel your pain! i keep thinking is just a phase..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914425 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:50:22 +0000 bpcmarj 1914425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: that's a good idea :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914408 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:44:49 +0000 Jess1483 1914408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bpcmarj: oh yes, that definitely complicates things. Can you deliver cookies with a note that apologizes but that it should be short-lived? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914399 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:43:06 +0000 bpcmarj 1914399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: @Mamaof2: Thank you. That is our next step, but we live in the middle floor of a three floor building. I feel awful for our neighbors (though they do all have kids). She will s.c.r.e.a.m. bloody murder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914384 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:38:20 +0000 Mamaof2 1914384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also used a gate for both kids. My rationale was "I cant make you sleep but you have to stay in your bedroom" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914367 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:31:55 +0000 Jess1483 1914367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had the same experience after a great first week in the toddler bed. Eventually we put up a baby gate so he couldn't leave the room and told him we wouldn't get him until morning. He cried a bit at bedtime and once in the middle of the night, and it's been fine since then. I don't know if it was a regression or if he couldn't handle the power. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-bedtime-misery#post-1914320 Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:19:50 +0000 bpcmarj 1914320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>P is 2.5. We recently moved (into literally the same exact apartment set up just with newer appliances and carpet). She is now in a stand alone toddler bed. The first week or so was great. She would probably come out of her room two or three times and then eventually she would say OK and go to sleep. She stayed in her bed all night.</p> <p>Lately, it is literally taking hours for her to go to sleep. She gets out of bed as soon as I leave the room, begs and cries for me to "Just stay!" "Don't leave!" "I need you!", and she is waking up often in the night and coming into our room. Then is up for the day at 5. I feel like I am in newborn land again and I am so overwhelmed.</p> <p>There were a few nights where I could eventually get her to go to sleep on her floor, but even that is no longer working. Her routine has stayed pretty much the same. Snuggles in bed with me, stories (the same 4 everynight) and songs.</p> <p>Please tell me this is a phase. Or if it isn't, how did you get through it. We went and bought special stickers for a chart but she is not taking the bait. </p>