https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 03:49:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134952 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 20:53:41 +0000 Maysprout 1134952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18 months is so different than 12 months. 2 years is so different than 18 months. At 18 months my lo had an amazing amount of physical ability and very little sense. Luckily they gain sense. I think there's plenty that parenting affects but a lot is also ages stages and personality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134914 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 20:26:54 +0000 yellowbird 1134914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to go with every child is different. My 13 month old is into everything and loves to squeal, babble, wave, smile, yell, and get into EVERYTHING. I think it's just her personality. She's always been this way since she was born. I've always called her feisty and i love her that way! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134831 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 19:23:31 +0000 lizzywiz 1134831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both, probably, but as a parent who has a kiddo that doesn't sleep it is very frustrating when people imply her sleep habits are a direct result our parenting. I mean, of course there is something to it, but mostly we have a daughter who didn't sleep her first 24+ hours of life (seriously, it was the talk of the ward) and has stuck to the same pattern for the past 17 months.<br /> It makes my day when I meet a parent who had a 'good' sleeper and then a 'bad' sleeper, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134780 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 18:56:11 +0000 deerylou 1134780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think it's a fair mixture of nature vs. nuture - personality has so much to do with it! However, I do believe that an extreme excess/lack of tantrum behavior are often in correlation to parenting technique (special needs are obviously a huge exception). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134679 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 17:25:16 +0000 googly-eyes 1134679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a result of both temperament and parenting...but toddlers who are securely attached to their parents/caregiver SHOULD be exploring..some get messier than others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134673 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 17:20:38 +0000 sarac 1134673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both, certainly, but energy level and such are totally personality based. I would have been way less polite than your husband and just laughed out loud at that assumption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134661 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:56:18 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1134661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is also possibly a phase? Your friend's kid is 15 months....let him see where his kids is in 3 months. Might be a whole new world. I know it was for me, going from a very laid back 10 month old to a very active 13 month old!</p> <p>I will say that some parents allow these phases to define their approach to parenting and then by the time they are school-aged, the kids have stuck with some behaviors, especially related to food, sleep, etc. I think it is the kid's job to test the boundaries, and the parents job to keep them, no matter the phase the child is in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134637 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:20:21 +0000 sandy 1134637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It definitely is both but I think a kid is born with either a easy going personality or a very strong willed personality. I know so many great moms who admit to me jokingly that they thought they were doing such a great job bc their first born was so perfect and well behaved...then they had their second child and despite parenting them the same way, the second child is wild, a bit out of control, etc...and they realize they were lucky that their first was so easy</p> <p>I know my LO was/is an easy baby and am under no delusions that my second will likely be a handful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134628 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 16:10:16 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1134628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think they're going to be in for a rude awakening in a few months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134587 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 15:22:09 +0000 looch 1134587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree it is both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134524 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 14:19:02 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1134524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's both, but a lot of it is the kid (at least for us). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134500 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 13:54:54 +0000 hilsy85 1134500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think kids are born with their own distinct personalities but then different parenting styles exert different influences, further shaping their personalities. So I think it's both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134476 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 13:37:41 +0000 MsMamaBear 1134476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I had LO, I thought the way he thought too. Now I see, they all are different. I don't let BB get away with stuff, but she is rambunctious at times (the good kind, when she gets excited,lol). Just being 2 though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134469 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 13:31:49 +0000 loveisstrange 1134469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely think personality has a lot to do with it. Why else would siblings be so different from each other? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134457 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 13:20:23 +0000 lamariniere 1134457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mix of both, for sure. It's like nature vs nurture. For example, DH and I are not especially talkative, but DS talks/sings/makes noise every waking moment if the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134395 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 12:17:59 +0000 runsyellowlites 1134395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a mixture of both. In some instances it wouldn't matter what the demeanor of the child is if parent is too lax you're gonna have troubles (my friends kids are an example of this), but in other cases you can have parents that have the same parenting style from the start but each of their children respond completely different (my sister &amp; I fit this example). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134394 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 12:16:31 +0000 HellOnHeels 1134394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: That's exactly what I said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134383 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 12:04:33 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1134383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of it is kid, but with a premie who isn't even walking yet, they don't even know what their kid is going to be like yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134373 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:50:23 +0000 illumina 1134373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kinda think it's a combination of both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134371 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:48:12 +0000 T-Mom 1134371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted other since I think both affect the outcome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134370 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:48:08 +0000 HellOnHeels 1134370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: We have an acquaintance who is like your sister. Their first LO was crazy, but she was consistent and on him like white on rice. He was just a super hyper kid.</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: Yah, I agree. There's a line there. Toddlers are constantly pushing boundaries, and its the parents job to set and enforce them. But it's not the parents fault if your kid is trying push those boundaries more than someone elses, the other guys just got lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134369 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:47:37 +0000 rachiecakes 1134369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're super active people, total busy bodies, never still for too long. DS is just the same. But he's a good kid, just super active. He was an early crawler, stood up young, early walker. He's 22 months and on ice skates.<br /> My moms says I was the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134366 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:45:30 +0000 Freckles 1134366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it really depends. It's parenting to an extent, but that doesn't explain a kid's rambunctiousness or level of chill. I think it's unfair to attribute the craziness of a kid to the parents' lack of parenting -- you never know what the full story is unless you're in their position.</p> <p>My LO is always on the move, and constantly getting into things. She's always pushing the limits (i.e., testing me) and very persistent in getting her way. I am lax in so far as letting her move around freely and not get into things, but consistently stern when disciplining her and letting her know what is unacceptable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134363 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:44:12 +0000 jmarionsmith 1134363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think it's a mixture of both. at 18 months i'd say it's more just the kid's personality. at 3 years old i think it has a lot to do with how they're parented (but also still depends on the kid's personality.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134361 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:43:53 +0000 Lindsay05 1134361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it could be kind of split. I think some kids have the potential to swing one way or the other and parenting may have an influence on it. However, I see kids who are completely disobedient and have strict parents. But how do we know they are disobedient because of a strict parenting style? So really... I do not know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134354 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:35:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1134354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally depends on the kid. </p> <p>But a lot of parents use that as an excuse. I see kids going crazy, parents not stepping in, and then wondering why are they so crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134350 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:33:08 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1134350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a super chill laid back parent and some see me as too lax like your friend, but yet I have a crazy easy kid who is not rambunctious (curious and exploratory yes) and pretty laid back. I do not think its a reflection of our parenting.</p> <p>My sister is one of the most amazing mothers I know - such a great parent. But her toddler is crazy!!! And often very disobedient. But she is extremely consistent in parenting and discipline. If anyone ever said to me that her sons behavior is a reflection on her parenting I would stand up to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-behaviour-every-kid-is-different-or-result-of-parenting#post-1134340 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 11:28:22 +0000 HellOnHeels 1134340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, DH and our friend were having a discussion about toddler behaviour. This friend has a 15 month old (who was a preemie and therefore is actually on par with a 12-13 month old) who is pretty chill, and not walking yet. A mutual friend has a very busy 18 month old; she's not "bad", just your typical toddler getting into everything, "talking" (squealing) a lot, etc. </p> <p>The friend who DH was talking to believes that the reason the 18 month old is so "rambunctious" is a direct result of parenting, so I assume he meant that they are too lax and let her do what she wants. Therefore, he thinks the reason his kid is so chill is because of how his wife and him "parent". DH WHOLE-HEARTEDLY disagreed. He explained that every kid is different, you'll get some super busy, want to get into everything types, or you'll get the lax ones that are content with just sitting in one spot for an extended period of time playing with their toys. At that young of an age, it has nothing to do with "parenting". It is your job to set the boundaries, of course, but it is entirely just "who the kid is" when it comes to how busy they are.</p> <p>DH went on to say that if you look at siblings, sometimes they will be completely different. Our friend argued that "obviously the parents did something different with each one." ...We hope their second one is a little hellion. Not really, but kind of.</p> <p>What does the hive think? Does toddler behaviour have anything to do with a result of how you parent (outside of being defiant, of course) or is every kid different? </p>