https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 07:24:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724582 Sat, 15 Apr 2017 00:04:00 +0000 Kemma 2724582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: I think part of the clinginess is due to all the newfound independence that toddlers get around that age, they're gaining new motor skills (running, jumping) and they're developing language so hanging onto their primary attachment (which is you in this case) might be her way of dealing with the new development. I also reckon toddlers can feel your resistance so they cling on even harder! I guess it's like the saying "the things you resist the most are the things that hang around".</p> <p>Have you tried to doing some sort of graduated removal from the room? Start with sitting next to the cot while she settles to sleep then every few days gradually move yourself closer to the door and out of the room. You could also try just telling your babe that you have to pop out and do a job (make a coffee, fold the washing etc) then pop back in so that she's gets used to the idea of being along again while she goes to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724569 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 22:38:26 +0000 Grace 2724569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: If I remember right, the 2 yo bedtime schnanegans are about boundary testing. So your LO is giving you a rough time because it's working. It's not working on dad so LO doesn't try. Like everyone else has said, be consistent and it will pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724458 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 15:18:15 +0000 MrsBrewer 2724458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbubbletea: aww :heart: Thanks! I love putting her down, because those end of the night snuggles are just the best....but when I can't physically put her down....hahahaha that's where the problem is! DH is happy to come in and help too when she's fussy. So yep, I think you're right, just keep trying and waiting it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724455 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 15:13:51 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2724455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: I would definitely have DH do bedtime but maybe keep trying each night to see if it passes. I know it's hard, but just try not to think of it as a bad thing but more just how much she loves you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724421 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 13:39:31 +0000 MrsBrewer 2724421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: Thanks! I think that will be the plan.....we will just push through this hump </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724419 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 13:39:08 +0000 MrsBrewer 2724419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: I'm in the exact same boat, my heart breaks, and I just have no idea what to do. I might just have DH do bedtimes to avoid the crying....last night I was pretty much in tears with her because I was so frustrated. But I think that's the thing, is that she just misses me.... :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724412 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 13:28:33 +0000 MrsADS 2724412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 19mo has started doing the same thing recently. It breaks my heart. But, I give him lots of snuggles and walk out, he cries for a while and eventually goes to sleep. But I hate it. It really kills me that he's so sad at bedtime. I have major mommy guilt that maybe it's happening bc he's in daycare and he misses us 😢 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724410 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 13:24:00 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2724410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Be consistent and let DH do bedtime if you are bothered by the crying . Good luck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724392 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 12:49:08 +0000 pinkb 2724392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do whatever is works best for you. I know this was when DH ended up helping a lot more with DS because he went drown better for him. And it has continued to be much better for DH to do bedtime. With DD I continued and it was a bit longer of an issue with her. But eventually it got better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724329 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 10:47:15 +0000 MrsBrewer 2724329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: @pinkb: Ugh....I tried just letting her cry, but she worked herself up even more. We never did any type of sleep training, so she's never been exposed to CIO or anything. I really don't think that's the best approach now either at this point. Do I just say screw it and let DH do bedtimes until she's through the period?! Or should I still continue trying, and then letting DH come to the rescue.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724319 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 10:19:18 +0000 MrsSRS 2724319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD did this last month, except it was worse if DH tried. I just said a calm no and that we had our snuggles and now it was nighttime. We added in a song I sing after she's in her bed. It took about two weeks for her to knock it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724277 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 09:21:56 +0000 pinkb 2724277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is part of the normal 2 year sleep regression. Both of my kids hit it a bit early. My best advise it to be consistent with your routine and they grow out of it. It's rough though! Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-clinging-to-me-at-bedtime#post-2724272 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 09:15:22 +0000 MrsBrewer 2724272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gah, I had my worst night last night. My 22 month old, who has been a great sleeper, the last few nights has gotten impossible for me to put down.....It's awful. Here's out nighttime routine.</p> <p>Brush teeth<br /> Put pj's on<br /> Read 1-2 books<br /> Turn on the sound machine and night light<br /> Snuggle on the rocker while singing 2 songs<br /> Put her down, still awake</p> <p>She's been doing this for months, and worked great. But now the last few nights (normally DH and I switch off putting her down) that I've tried putting her down, when I walk to the crib, she clings to my shirt, and screams and cries the second I try putting her in the crib. I will try rocking/singing a little bit more, and try again. but it keeps happening. But then the moment DH comes in, he will take her hold her for 1-2 minutes to calm her down, and she goes down instantly for him. Why?!?!</p> <p>DH didn't get home last night until 9:30, so I tried since 8 last night to put her down, and nothing worked. I was at my wits end. DH came home, and put her down in under a minute...WTF?! </p> <p>Is this a normal "sleep regression"? Just a phase? What am I doing wrong?! I'm like emotionally drained, and I feel like a failure. And to make matters "worse" DH is thinking about a 2nd shift job....I was in tears last night thinking about that everyday Mon-Fri.... </p>