https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 01 Jun 2026 12:39:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2691325 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 11:47:46 +0000 Mommy Finger 2691325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Decided to try some tough love last night. Went through the routine, put him in his bed and left. He stood there crying for mommy for 2.5 hours. Well, at some point, he would get quiet and I'd find him asleep standing up but then he'd wake up and keep at it. This kid is stubborn! Wonder who he gets it from? Man, this is tough. Because yes, I caved and brought him into bed, where he snuggled and smiled. This kid is going to be trouble!!!</p> <p>Tonight's another night. </p> [attach=2211/17/okt5bm.600x450.Standing-up.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2691011 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 16:11:38 +0000 LuLu Mom 2691011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and I'm not the person to ask. DD1 started this at about 18 months, and at almost 4 1/2 she's a permanent fixture in our bed/our floor. She hasn't slept in her bed in months. She has serious anxiety about it and trust me we've tried everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690963 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 14:16:32 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2690963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No help just commiseration. My 18 month old has been crying for hours at night no matter what we do. I'm a zombie! I wish you the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690928 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:37:08 +0000 MenagerieMama 2690928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to us and we got a nightlight and glow in the dark stars for the wall by her crib. Would hold her hand while she fell asleep and once that worked slowly faded that out. To be fair, I still often wait in her glider while she falls asleep but I probably don't need to do that st bedtime anymore (just naptime because she's always trying to skip). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690909 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:09:11 +0000 SweetiePie 2690909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MUI831: yeah these regressions are given a name based on the average time they happen but they can really be +/- a couple months.<br /> Ours started around 16/17 months and lasted a good 2 months. Fortunately going to bed he was fine, but he was waking once a night 4-5 times a week. Which isn't too bad but after a year of 7pm-7am with no wake ups it felt bad!<br /> Hang in there; it really will be over before you know it and you'll look back and it won't even feel that bad! (Just like so many things with parenting!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690885 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:41:23 +0000 Mommy Finger 2690885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Ha! Foolishly I smugly thought we lucked out since it didn't start until midway through his 19th month. I mean, it's just the 18 month regression, right? That's why I wasn't sure if that's what we're dealing with. Based on the great responses above, yeah, we weren't so lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690884 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:38:47 +0000 gingerbebe 2690884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MUI831: yeah this regression probably lasted the longest for us - he started at 16 months and it went on for 2 months at least I wanna say - so I'm really glad we stuck it out. Our ped asked at our 18 month appointment how we were doing with the regression and my husband's answer was "ignoring it?" It made my doctor laugh and was like "yeah well I guess you don't want to enable bad behavior." </p> <p>Luckily we went through it without him trying to bolt from his crib (that happened at 26 months). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690882 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:33:28 +0000 SweetiePie 2690882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I was also going to mention the 18 month regression.<br /> Best thing to do is remain consistent to pre-regression routine and not introduce new sleep crutches (unless you are ok with them sticking beyond the life of the regression). It does eventually just stop so it's best to avoid permanent changes for a temporary change in sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690879 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:26:49 +0000 josina 2690879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through the same thing but DS started climbing out of his crib. For a month or so we laid on the floor next to his (converted-to-toddler) bed until he fell asleep, and then did a couple nights of sleep training to get him to stay in bed on his own (was actually easier than I thought) BUT he does come to our bed MOTN, and neither DH or I want to try breaking this habit. (I actually tried for 3 nights, laying on the floor for HOURS MOTN before giving up). He's 26 months now and we're still stuck in this routine.<br /> He goes to bed find on his own, but comes to our bed by 11. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690878 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:23:14 +0000 Mommy Finger 2690878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Thanks! I think it helps hearing your story. We were lucky to not fully have to sleep train so while I'm not against it in the slightest, it doesn't make the process any easier!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690877 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:21:53 +0000 Mommy Finger 2690877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sapphire: I totally agree with you on this! But after listening to him scream for an hour straight, I broke. Based on his personality, I think the Ferber method of checking on him will just enrage him. Regardless, I think I've dedicate my entire weekend to working on this. It's just hard to not crack during the week as I'm working FT and this is my busy week with month end close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690876 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:20:38 +0000 gingerbebe 2690876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleeptrained our kids so I didn't have a problem with letting him cry at bedtime because it was normal for us to tuck him in and leave. He basically cried hard for 10 minutes, then yelled, threw all his loveys and friends on the floor, and then, most annoyingly, kicked his crib slats or crib headboard with his feet over and over for like an hour. He was using the bottoms of his feet so I know he wasn't hurting himself but it was loud and annoying. We would tell him through the monitor not to kick and that it was time for sleep. At the height of this regression he wouldn't sleep for like 2 hours after we tucked him in. He needs at least one lovey to fall asleep so I think if we saw he didn't have any in his bed we would go in after one hour, silently hand him all the friends he threw overboard, say goodnight and leave. Then he would wake up like an hour early in the morning and start throwing and kicking again. We would do the same thing - tell him not to kick through the monitor and not go in until his normal wake time. </p> <p>If he woke up in the MOTN, we usually let him fuss for up to 20 minutes, go in and check on him to make sure he's not ill, offer him a sip of water and a little hugging in the dark until he got drowsy again (prob 15 minutes) and then put him down.</p> <p>Basically we just tried to stay as consistent as possible and it passed after a few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690872 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:16:56 +0000 FaithFertility 2690872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MUI831: Nhope we gave in to DD and she came in our bed for months </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690866 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 12:13:54 +0000 sapphire 2690866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately I think you're reinforcing him to cry to get taken out of his crib and go to your bed. I would stop that cold turkey and talk to him repeatedly about it. "It's time for you to go to sleep in your crib. I'll come check on you if needed, but you must sleep in your crib." Maybe try Ferber with checks and resettling and telling him he must stay at intervals (for example 3 mins, 5 mins, 7 mins). But whatever you do, make him stay in his crib! I doubt it's the crib as much as the attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690857 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 11:58:17 +0000 Banana330 2690857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MUI831: We found it was a bit better when we started talking through the routine (and not skipping bath). She will still cry sometimes but we tend to say night night and then leave her be. Occasionally we'll speak to her through the monitor but we almost never go back in. We also started leaving a book or two to keep her busy in the crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690853 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 11:53:58 +0000 Mommy Finger 2690853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: @gingerbebe: Ugh, any tips on how to get through it? Lately we've just given up after an hour or so and he ends up in our bed. But I know that this is creating bad habits! The crazy thing is that we're able to put him in our bed and he's fine if we're not there. Or maybe he's just too asleep to not notice we're not there. If we try to move him, he freaks. This is just payback for DS1 being so easy!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690850 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 11:46:17 +0000 gingerbebe 2690850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a thing:</p> <p><a href="http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/why-18-month-sleep-regression-can-be-hardest/" rel="nofollow">http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/why-18-month-sleep-regression-can-be-hardest/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690843 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 11:40:27 +0000 FaithFertility 2690843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like separation anxiety and he knows the crib means you leave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hates-his-bed#post-2690820 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 11:16:17 +0000 Mommy Finger 2690820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS2 is 19 months and has been a solid sleeper for most of his life. We used to be able to go through his routine (bath, jammies, brush teeth, books, song), put him in his crib and then he'd sing a little and fall asleep. All of a sudden, starting this past Sunday, he has freaked out whenever we put him in his crib. At first I thought this was because I was out of town on Saturday night and he's a huge mama's boy. He has a daybed in his room and as long as I was laying with him on the bed, he would be happy and fall asleep. I was able to transfer him back to his crib that night after he fell asleep and he slept through the night.</p> <p>Every other night, he will wake up as soon as you move him and freak. We've tried CIO (he just stood in his crib crying "mommy" for an hour) and we've tried laying on the floor next to the crib so he knew we were there (same as before). As soon as we put him in our bed, he turns over and falls asleep.</p> <p>Has anyone dealt with something like this? I'm hoping it's a phase that will end on it's own as I don't think he's ready to not be in his crib. But was going to start researching floor beds. Any thoughts? </p>