https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 06:49:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809780 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 10:13:54 +0000 alphagam84 2809780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I trust my parents and would allow it as long as my daughter was comfortable with it. She adores them and I think she'd have fun, I'd just worry about night time and if she'd get scared without us. They've cared for her for a week when we went on vacation last year but that was in our own house she was already familiar with. I would never let my IL's take her overnight. She's almost 2.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809767 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 09:44:41 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2809767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely say yes! My IL's keep DS overnight usually once a month or so and he stayed with them for 10 days at 10 months while DH were on a trip. I would welcome the break and I know my DS would love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809755 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 09:06:59 +0000 looch 2809755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, no problem. My mom raised 3, my MIL raised 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809753 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 09:04:50 +0000 jape14 2809753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally would, and especially if I was on maternity leave with a newborn. But we also left our (at the time) almost 2yo with my sister for a trip to Europe (he did great! it was definitely harder on us than him), so I'm comfortable leaving my kids with family members in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809742 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 08:48:56 +0000 snowjewelz 2809742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It kind of depends where they're going/what they're doing. If it's going to be a fun trip for LO1 and I'm stuck home with LO2 anyway, I'd be all for it. And I'm talking about my parents only b/c my mom has been her main caretaker besides DH/daycare. I wouldn't consider my in-laws b/c they rarely babysit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809706 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 06:51:00 +0000 Ajsmommy 2809706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Given your circumstances, they baby sit him regularly, he's slept over with them (even though dh was there)... I'd say yes. </p> <p>If it were my IL's asking to take DD, I'd probably say no. But it's really only for one reason... well and also bc I hate to be away from her and have only been away as little as possible.. our IL's have a dog, a big dog that is not well behaved and scares DD to death. They don't do anything but tell DD that it's ok, the dog isn't mean... well no duh but when a huge dog, 4 times your size comes running at you and no one does anything no wonder she's scared to death. So I'd say no unless the dog was going to the kennel. DD wouldn't want to go anyway if the dog was involved. Now if the dog wasn't going then I'd be harder pressed to say no... but I'd let DD decide, she's also 4 yo though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809703 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 05:43:10 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2809703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is very much w hypothetical since none of the grands would offer to do this. For three of them that would mean travel to our state in order to take w nearby vacation. We probably say no because care involves diaper changes, LO isn’t very clear when he speaks, and he bedshare. We prefer handling diapering, I have seen firsthand grands guess at what he wants and it leads to what we don’t want him to have or hear, and we are not comfortable him bed sharing with other people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809699 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 01:09:53 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2809699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: sounds like your LO is totally used to them so I'd definitely let them and enjoy your one on one time with your newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809693 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 23:49:28 +0000 birdofafeather 2809693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have and I would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809661 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 19:04:58 +0000 lamariniere 2809661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. My youngest is now 4, but for the last 2 years or so we’ve gone on a few little trips just the two of us and left both LOs with the ILs. Last year we actually left them with my ILs for 2 weeks (and we were living in a different country). They don’t go far with them, but will take them to their country home or the seaside sometimes. I’m comfortable with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809651 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 18:23:05 +0000 Foodnerd81 2809651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as it was something my LO would enjoy, definitely. Especially with someone who has spent a fair amount of time with her and generally knows her routine and stuff. (Like, while I would trust my FIL in terms of safety, he doesn’t know my LO that well and I don’t think anyone would have that great of a time, but my parents or MIL yes). Mostly my dd just loves all the attention on her and would be thrilled to stay in a hotel and never leave it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809644 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 17:36:21 +0000 Mama Bird 2809644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't because I don't think my kids would enjoy it at that age. Maybe for a longer trip where they could settle in before driving back... And also if they (and myself) were much more comfortable with their grandparents, but sounds like you're doing all right there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809642 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 17:30:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2809642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I fully trusted them in terms of safety and respecting my wishes, I would absolutely let them do it. However I’m not confident that mine are able to do things like securely get him in a car seat for a 90 minute drive so I would say no.</p> <p>I’ve spent a lot of nights away from him and he has recently started spending the night at their house. So I’m OK with the separation it’s more the logistics of the trip and insuring his safety that concerns me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809640 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 17:24:43 +0000 travellingbee 2809640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, definitely. Especially only 90 minutes away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809636 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 17:08:27 +0000 Corduroy 2809636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we did this with LO1 and my inlaws when LO2 was a month or two. It felt like such a break. LO1 stayed in my inlaws trailer at the beach 4 hours away. She had a blast. </p> <p>Now that LO2 is 2.5 I’m sending both of them for a week. I think my inlaws are insane for taking this on but I’m sure they will survive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809633 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 17:03:09 +0000 PinkElephant 2809633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd jump for joy and say "YES PLEASE!"</p> <p>My in-laws have watched my kids (now 16 months, almost 4 years, and 5.5 years) in varying combinations at their house for up to 10 days at a time while DH and I have travelled (internationally). While they have the kids, they do all sorts of outings and trips up to an hour or so from their home, including zoos, museums, water sports, festivals, etc. I was a teeny bit nervous the first time but now am totally comfortable (we've done this at least 4 times now). This year, for the first time, they'll be watching all three at my house for 9 days so that the big girls don't have to miss school. </p> <p>@LBee: This. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809631 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:52:49 +0000 Purpledaisy 2809631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have no issue with this. My dad takes DD about 2.5/3 hours away to visit my grandma a few times a year starting around 2.5. </p> <p>As long as I trusted the people that would be caring for my child I would be fine with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809629 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:48:47 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2809629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d say “have fun!” DD spent 5 nights with my MIL when she was 20 months. She’s 2.5 now and my MIL drove her cross country to my mom a couple days ago. She’s staying with my mom for two weeks. We are in the middle of a cross country move and it’s very challenging getting everything ready with a toddler around, so my mom offered to take her. I miss her, but I’m not worried about her at all. I want my kids to be close with and spend time with their grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809623 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:42:38 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2809623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a huge worrier so I would be nervous about things like driving and swimming. But if it was my mom I would allow it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809620 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:31:21 +0000 josina 2809620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would I trust LO with my parents, absolutely.<br /> Would I want him to go, OMG I'm that mom that can't stand to be away from him. I've only been away one night when I had DD. Lol, LO is 3 so I'm sure it's time.</p> <p>If DS said he wanted to go I would let him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809619 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:28:22 +0000 Sams Mom 2809619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: it sounds like he would definitely be on board from how he reacts to them coming and going :happy: </p> <p>If your parents can video call on the evenings or something (FaceTime, Duo, Skype whatever) it could help you and him with any separation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809618 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:24:43 +0000 gingerbebe 2809618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809616 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:15:58 +0000 dolphin 2809616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg YES!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809615 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:15:37 +0000 DesertDreams88 2809615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: @LBee: as for water, I will definitely ask, but it's not a beach / lake place and most hotels here only have outdoor pools and it is definitely too cold to go in them. I'd also just say that I don't want to bother packing swim stuff for just a 2-day trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809613 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:13:22 +0000 DesertDreams88 2809613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: @LBee: I could ask my LO but he wouldn't really understand or respond clearly - he's def under-developed verbally. BUT, when they left today he ran down the driveway chasing their car yelling "WAIT" and whenever he hears the garage door open he runs in that direction yelling "Baba" (Grandpa) sooooo, I'm inferring that he'd love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809612 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:10:05 +0000 Sams Mom 2809612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let my parents (only ones we're on good terms with) take our son who will be 2 next month if they offered. As far as having a brand new baby #2 I get where you'd be torn because you don't want your toddler thinking you're sending him off because of the new baby. I'd talk to your son about the trip and see how he reacts to it, and go from there. I'm sure grandma and grandpa will spoil him the whole time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809611 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:07:35 +0000 Littlebit7 2809611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: yep those things exactly. Is there a pool, do they plan on going , car seat safety, etc. I mean, to a certain extent most grandparents are obviously minimally competent; we are all alive ;) and I’d say if anything, they will call you if they have any concerns or doubts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809610 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:05:57 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2809610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: yes!!! Absolutely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809608 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 16:01:15 +0000 lioneyes 2809608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>if it was my parents yes. my ILs? never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-lo-on-an-overnight-trip-with-g-parents-how-would-you-feel#post-2809607 Tue, 13 Mar 2018 15:59:37 +0000 DesertDreams88 2809607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: They're planning to stay at a hotel, and I imagine with two queen bed. I think LO would sleep on the queen bed just fine / safely.... he sleeps on a twin bed with a rail at home. If he rolled off I'd be more worried about him waking up rather than being hurt. In terms of other safety, I could ask them where they plan on going in the city? Maybe a zoo or some parks? Maybe I should look up some places to suggest. </p>