https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 04:13:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2767312 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 20:15:35 +0000 MenagerieMama 2767312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: I hear you! No-nap days seriously make me loose my marbles. But she'll be 3 yo next month and so far napping 90% of the time, knock on wood! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2767310 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 20:10:38 +0000 cityliving 2767310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: that makes sense and thank you! We have a dog who likes long walks and live across the street from a playground, so we tend to be pretty active on the weekends generally. I really appreciate all of the reminders for patience - I definitely needed them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2767308 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 20:04:35 +0000 MenagerieMama 2767308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like things are improving! LO1 went through a few phases of refusing to nap around 2 yo. Things we've found that help were to make sure she gets outside and active in the morning, if we stay at home all day she rarely will nap. And pushing through the phases of refusal. I was CONVINCED she would never nap again for a week or so. And then she went back to napping regularly. The hardest part was trying not to lose my mind on days she wouldn't nap! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2767301 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 18:55:38 +0000 pachamama 2767301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: Oh yay!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2767300 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 18:29:43 +0000 cityliving 2767300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to thank all of you again for your suggestions, they were tremendously appreciated! We tried again this weekend (5th weekend in a row) and SHE NAPPED IN HER CRIB FOR 1.5 HOURS. It was spectacular. Thanks again! We did everything at the regular/ daycare schedule with two main changes 1. We kept our morning more low-key. Normally I try to pack a big outting or walk in (like the zoo) in the am since it's cooler and we all have more energy, but I think it might have been helping to remind her of all the awake fun we can have on the weekends. I also primed her starting about an hour before the nap so once we came inside (and she inevitably wanted to go back out) we'd say something like "that sounds nice, we can all go for a walk after we have a nice nap." 2. I had my husband put her down on his own since she is generally more cooperative for him (go figure.) Fingers crossed this holds! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765913 Tue, 08 Aug 2017 12:00:41 +0000 Banana330 2765913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: since about 21 months (now almost 28) she's had issues going to sleep for nap. We use to just leave her in the crib with some books and stuffies and if she slept great if not that was her choice. We moved her to a toddler bed this week (also expecting #2 in a few weeks) and sat she skipped nap altogether, sun/mon were better but lots of walking her back in to her room. The concept of quiet time she didn't really get and would play for 5 min then come looking for us. So we're back to enforcing nap time. Consistency seems to be key and patience (I don't have much of that right now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765898 Tue, 08 Aug 2017 10:54:10 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2765898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: Mine won't nap if she's just with us. And honestly, because she goes to bed so late if she naps (10:30-11 on average), we stopped trying ages ago. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765733 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 17:12:03 +0000 cityliving 2765733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Dolphin: That could definitely work for us in the short term. Unfortunately, baby #2 is due in a few weeks, which is part of why I'm so anxious to get this resolved soon (and maybe sneak in a nap of my own...)</p> <p>@Mrs. Carrot: You're right that she has definitely always fallen on the low end of the sleep range. Lucky kids if they are like that as adults! That's so interesting that your daughter will only nap when in a room full of napping kids. Will she do it if you pretend to sleep too (mine won't)? I guess I'm just worried that the timing makes it circumstantial rather than having outgrown it, especially since daycare says she's such an easy napper and went down until the day we moved! She's never taken the longest naps, but didn't use to fight it like crazy either.</p> <p>@Nonimouse: That's both frustrating and really sweet! Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765660 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 14:49:57 +0000 Nonimouse 2765660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in the same boat here. Our 3 yr old naps fine at day care but not at home. Very occasionally he will fall asleep reading books in the early afternoon, but we usually just plan on a stroller or car ride around naptime. Luckily, he transfers well. If we skip nap completely, he's falling asleep on his feet around 6, do he still needs it.</p> <p>For us, nighttime falling asleep is a challenge too. Our pediatrician mentioned that right now, mom and dad are the best thing in his life, so he just wants to be awake with us, which makes it a challenge to get him to sleep.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765658 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 14:47:15 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2765658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: If her mood, evening and sleep aren't disrupted, she might just be one of those kids who needs less sleep. Mine is very much like that! Although we didn't have an issue with naps at that age, she's been just fine without a nap since she was 2.5 (she's 4 now), but she will still always nap at school, where nap time is mandatory. They aren't required to nap, but she will always fall asleep because she's in a room full of sleeping kids, so the fact that she takes school naps aren't necessarily an indicator that she still needs a nap. If the late 4/5 PM nap doesn't mess up her bedtime, I'd roll with that and stop trying to force her earlier in the day, or try to power her through without a nap altogether. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765655 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 14:42:40 +0000 Mrs. Dolphin 2765655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had major issues with our (now) 3 year old napping. Starting at around age 20 months he didn't want to nap at home and then around 2 years would only nap on about 3-4 days a week. We enforced a rule that he had to be in his crib and would (often) sit in his room with him until he either fell asleep or two hours passed. If he was too loud/disruptive, we would leave the room (which he hated). I wanted him to still have quiet time if he wasn't napping. Now, at 3, he's back to napping reliably (naps every day at school and at least one, if not both, weekend days). I can't give you much advice, but just keep trying? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765652 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 14:30:00 +0000 cityliving 2765652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: That's an interesting thought. We normally do the same schedule as daycare (12pm nap) but both before this regression and since it started we've pushed it back by up to an hour as needed (how they always get her to eat lunch in 30 minutes is beyond me since sometimes she really drags that out). Her weekend naps have almost always been shorter then her daycare naps in general. I'll try going in to it with a 1pm game plan next weekend to see what happens - I'm just worried she gets an extra burst of energy when we wait too long to put her down. Her bedtime and wake-ups are +-15 minutes the same time during the week and weekends.</p> <p>@Mrs. Carrot: Honestly, I feel like it's a little hard to tell at this age if it's a normal amount of tantrumming. Considering how on edge we are because of it, I will say I she is a lot happier then I would *expect* her to be without a nap. We might put her down 15ish minutes early and she might sleep in for an extra 15 minutes, but overall her nighttime sleep is pretty consistent regardless of the nap situation.</p> <p>@pachamama: Ugh, I'm so sorry you're in the same boat, and YES to the waking up super cranky from naps. That started for us around 17 or 18 months and I thought it was because she was having really vivid dreams and was confused about what was happening. We would often have to just hold her after she wakes up (and has stood up and asked for us) for 5-10 minutes before she's ready to face the world without melting down. When we tried the gentle CIO approach we've used for nighttime, she cried for over an hour - at which point I think we just gave up since it seemed like a waste of an afternoon to let her cry for two hours to get her to sleep for 1. I'm so glad she sleeps through the night and will take any other struggles in trade-off, but I also count on getting at least 60 minutes of stuff done while she naps darn it!</p> <p>@danda: Interesting, you've given me hope for the future at least! I guess I'm just not sure how much time is too much to spend trying to get her to sleep when she's resisting it so much - I don't want to miss out on an entire afternoon of stuff with her if it's futile anyway! we tried the quite time with me in the room last time - it knocked me out, but she was still roaring to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765642 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:53:34 +0000 danda 2765642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was my eldest 100%. We'd have to drive kiddo around for 1-2 hours on the weekend to force a car nap. Pediatrician also recommended "quiet time" as an alternative but that didn't work well for us. My child moved daycare rooms at 25 months and new teacher said my kid was a great napper, so we retried forcing naps in the bed and then it worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765636 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:44:48 +0000 pachamama 2765636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, my son anyway is up at the same time and goes to bed at the same time. He just has severe FOMO sometimes and is a crappy napper like me and his daddy. He occasionally melts down but for some UNKNOWN reason he usually melts down after his "good 2 hour" nap at daycare. Go figure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765634 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:41:28 +0000 pachamama 2765634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: Do we have the same child?!!! My 19m son has never been a good napper but this is SO his MO. Down to rolling around in bed literally laughing in my face, to having to sleep with him on the chair and if you move a MUSCLE he wakes up.<br /> We do CIO for naps during the week when I am home and being strict about it. He cries for 5-20 minutes and he's out. Only will nap like 45 mins, sometimes 1.5 hours!<br /> I wish I had advice for you- sometimes he really just does nap fine but usually we are busy anyway so it's 2 half-hour car naps :-( I figure he's generally a happy, tantrum-less guy and he sleeps at daycare so I can't really fight it anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765633 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:36:45 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2765633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What happens on the days that she doesn't dose off (on weekends - you mentioned 50% of the time she'll fall asleep in the stroller)? Does she still sleep OK? Go down for the night earlier? Is she OK for the remainder of the evening, or does she melt down? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765629 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:31:27 +0000 Adira 2765629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cityliving: What time are you putting her down for a nap? What time does daycare do it? Is she getting up at the same time in the morning regardless of the day? I know my youngest isn't as tired on the weekend as he is at daycare because we're not always as active in the morning, so he'll often go down for a nap an hour later than what he does at daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765626 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:20:11 +0000 cityliving 2765626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: her room only has 1 north facing window, and we installed the blackout blind before we moved - I wasn't about to mess with that! Sigh, you're probably right on consistency. We did her normal routine the first two weeks, and then started to get a little more desperate. It's just hard to be patient when we are only trying 2x a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765624 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:15:32 +0000 Adira 2765624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since you say she's been sleeping fine at night, do you think it might just be too bright in her room at nap time? Maybe try getting black-out curtains for her room?</p> <p>I would also try to be really consistent with your nap routine and stop trying new things (for now). Read a couple stories, sing songs, turn on white noise, and try CIO or modified CIO. And do that for a couple weeks. She may still not be totally used to the new place and just needs a really consistent routine during the day to help her get back into the nap habit.</p> <p>Good luck. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-refusing-weekend-naps-fomo#post-2765614 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 12:46:47 +0000 cityliving 2765614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Please help! We recently moved and my 21-month-old DD has done well with the transition and sleeps well in her crib, BUT she has not napped in her crib since this took place. She is still napping for 1.5-2 hours/ day M-F at daycare, so I know she still needs the sleep and about 50% of the time this happens she ends up passing out in the stroller around 4 or 5pm on a walk. I figured it was just an adjustment period and wanted to wait it out since we’re only trying on the weekends, but it has now been 4 weeks of this. We’ve tried a lot of things I would not normally allow at bedtime in the hopes that it will be easier to encourage and then fix once it has happened even once, but even nap luxuries have not swayed her.</p> <p>The only thing that has even sort of worked is having my husband rock her and allow her to sleep in his arms in which case she’ll take a 30-minute snooze but will immediately wake up if he tries to move her. We’ve tried staying in the room with her, allowing her to play quietly in her room with all the lights dimmed and noise maker on in hopes she’d put herself down to nap on the floor cushion eventually (I passed out in the rocking chair but she was still going strong), allowing her to cry it out (this has always worked for us at night quickly but for this she will scream seemingly indefinitely and tries to climb out which has never otherwise been an issue), tried putting her down on the floor cushion since it is more similar to the daycare nap mats (she just kept rolling around and then getting books to play with) etc., etc. I even tried letting her nap in our bed with us this weekend out of desperation – she just rolled around and laughed for over an hour. This weekend before an evening stroller walk she demanded we bring a blanket, and then immediately passed out, so I feel like her Sunday 5pm stroller nap was premeditated. Does anyone have any ideas/ suggestions? I’m at a complete loss. Thank you!! </p>