https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 02:03:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898610 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 21:45:16 +0000 lady grey 1898610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: I only have one LO so no experience with this here, but if you're desperate, this toy is one of the only things that worked to distract my 16 mo old on the 6 hour plane trip we just took. That and sesame street youtube videos. Good luck! I hope it gets better for you soon.<br /> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002GEJYHI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o08_s01?ie=UTF8&#038;psc=1" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002GEJYHI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o08_s01?ie=UTF8&#038;psc=1</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898604 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 21:34:44 +0000 jedeve 1898604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been in the same boat. I think that a) listening to the sound of baby cry is stressful on LO1, and b) he is jealous. I try to minimize baby's crying - give him a paci preemptively, feed him before he is freaking out but obviously that doesn't always work. If I know he is going to cry a lot, like during an outfit change, I will try not to do it close to LO1 and do it on the changing table or my bed. I try to talk a lot to LO1 while I am changing him do that he knows it's okay if the baby is crying. A lot of stuff like "oh LO2 is sad. It's okay lo2. It's okay that babies cry. He will stop soon. He just needs milk. Look, all better!" I think the calmer you are the more LO1 will see it's okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898556 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 20:18:55 +0000 wonderstruck 1898556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: I'll definitely use those tips as soon as I can...the toddler isn't walking yet, so that makes things a bit trickier, he can't climb up next to me and I have to be careful lifting him (still healing from the c-section.) He does love bringing things to me though, I'll have to try having him bring me the diapers!</p> <p>@littleveesmommy: I have two kids that can't use their words to tell me what they want yet! I've always wanted kids close in age and don't regret that decision, but in this one area it's making me crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898553 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 20:12:36 +0000 littleveesmommy 1898553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 32 month old daughter gets upset if my 3 month old cries for any time longer than a minute. I usually try to explain to her why the baby is crying to distract her and show her baby wants something but can't say it yet. It works half the time but the other half I get two screaming kids. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898552 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 20:10:15 +0000 MrsRcCar 1898552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: First congrats on your new LO! I was in the same boat as you just a couple months ago. What I find works for us is having my toddler bring a book and I have him turn the pages while I read it to him (while nursing his brother). I also have him help me with diaper changes by bringing me diapers and wipes. I would be lying if I said it is perfect all time. My toddler still gets pretty jealous of his baby brother but it does get better! Mine are 2 years and 8 months. Big hugs momma. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898551 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 20:09:35 +0000 wonderstruck 1898551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: Thank you! I've tried turning on one of his favorite things on TV right before feeding or diaper change time, but the second he hears the baby it's completely forgotten and the meltdown begins :sad: I wish I knew if he was trying to get attention or is legitimately upset - he's really been very good with the transition so far and is always excited to see his baby brother, doesn't seem to be jealous or anything. The tantrums are kind of a new thing that are suddenly sprouting in lots of areas though, so maybe I should just handle it the same way I am his other tantrums (we're trying out the Love &amp; Logic approach at the moment, but it's so new we're waiting to see a difference with that too!)</p> <p>@jmarionsmith: I hope this is the case, thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898540 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 19:49:13 +0000 jmarionsmith 1898540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my 24 month old would get very upset when our newborn cried, but now, 5 weeks in, he is pretty much used to it. i do think your lo just needs some time to adjust. good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898536 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 19:44:32 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1898536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off congratulations on your birth! Second, Is your child into anything you can distract him with such as a certain toy, tv show, snack or book? It sometimes helped to calm my son with certain music or shows he loved. I know it's not ideal to have to do this but it may help him to break the the cycle until he understands better. I would also try to work on signs with him, maybe he would love baby signing time DVDs? Ignoring and not giving him too much attention though may also help as it could be his way of trying to compete when baby is asking for you. I hope it improves soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-screams-whenever-baby-cries#post-1898513 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 19:19:05 +0000 wonderstruck 1898513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help me, bees! I have a 16 month old and a one week old, and whenever baby cries, big brother bursts into hysterical tears and ear-piercing shrieks. And we're not even talking about a loud baby cry, basically every time baby so much as whimpers, or if you're at the other end of the house where the cry is rarely audible, he will crawl over to where baby is (having a fit the entire time) and then throws himself down on the floor at your feet. This most commonly happens during diaper changes and when I'm getting LO latched on.</p> <p>I've been googling like crazy, but all of the advice I've come across involves reasoning with the toddler, but I have a 16 month old who is a bit behind in his verbal skills, so that's really just not a realistic plan. I still do explain to him since obviously he'll eventually be old enough to understand before I know it, but for right now this does me no good. Do I ignore him? Comfort him? Something else? I'm really hoping this is just a matter of getting used to it, but I'm totally baffled by how to handle it in the meantime. </p>