https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 02:02:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861335 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 14:50:02 +0000 Becky 2861335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I just don’t remember our older one being this bad! But maybe it’s because I had a newborn when she was 2.5 so was already awake all night :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861325 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 14:29:20 +0000 pachamama 2861325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: oh hey girl we have the same child currently. 😴😴 Following to hear advice. (my son is 3 and we have a baby on the way but he's doing exactly what your daughter is doing) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861308 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 13:35:02 +0000 wrkbrk 2861308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: What about letting her get a new special sleep buddy? This worked reasonably well when we took my so’s paci away. We made a big deal and he got to pick it out etc. His stuffed kitty “protects him from monsters” in the night 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861285 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 12:08:42 +0000 bhbee 2861285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: mine haven’t tried bed sharing but I wouldn’t be opposed if they were into it. We started room sharing as a possibly temporary thing to try to help his bad habits and now I dread the day my oldest wants to go back to her room! If they like bed sharing I’d say try it in hopes it can break the waking up habit, even if it doesn’t last forever </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861273 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 11:28:04 +0000 paigeface 2861273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our 3yo is having a hard time falling asleep on his own in the last month. He too wants me to sit in there and scratch his back or simply just be in there until he falls asleep. I thought it might be because we have a new baby on the way and he senses change. We have caved and let him sleep in our room a few times and I never sleep well when he does and I also don't want him to get used to it so we stopped it. As another posted mentioned he doesn't nap anymore so he usually falls asleep after sitting about 15 mins in his room but the days he does fall asleep in the afternoon which is once in a blue moon it takes forever to get him to go to sleep at night. Sleep problems are hard and I feel for you mama! I hope it works itself out soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861244 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:49:39 +0000 Becky 2861244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: She could nap forever! I am pretty firm with my mom and school that they wake her up after 2 hours, but my in-laws let her sleep however long she wants (usually 1.5-2.5 hours, and it's just once a week). Do your kids sleep in the same bed together? We did it one night and it worked pretty well, so I might see how our older one feels about trying it more frequently. She only has a twin bed but they're so little that there's always plenty of room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861241 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:31:31 +0000 bhbee 2861241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What’s the nap situation? Could it be shortened? We had a lot of sleep issues with my son when he wasn’t tired enough. Probably not the silver bullet just throwing it out there. Also to give you hope - we’ve had sleep issues with him most of his life, but after he dropped his nap around 3 it’s been much better (he also sleeps with his big sister and that helps too). So hopefully time will help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861240 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:29:09 +0000 Becky 2861240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: This is probably what I would do with TV since I don't want to punish our older one and we only have the one TV (and I nixed all other screens). Working towards a big reward might work too. I'll have to consider how that affects the older one too--maybe something they can both get. We have one of those OK to Wake clocks but they always unplug it and it is such a pain to reprogram so I might need to look into an alternative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861236 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:13:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2861236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: when I punish with no tv, I usually just say she can’t watch her favorite show, but still leave myself the option to watch a show of her sister’s choosing. Sometimes I need the tv and I’m not trying to punish myself too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861234 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:08:22 +0000 ALV91711 2861234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: no tv is good but then does that mean her sister will get no tv too? That could be tough but then maybe her sister would try to encourage her. </p> <p>I hate sleep problems! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861233 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:05:03 +0000 Foodnerd81 2861233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was older when we did this, but at 5 she was still waking up frequently and coming into our room. She would go back to her room and go to sleep but then I couldn’t fall back asleep. What finally worked was a big reward she had to work for. In our case I bought her a unicorn comforter that she was so excited about, but she had to stay in her bed until her clock lit up for two weeks- in a row. So if she got three checks then woke us up, she started over. That might be a bit much for a 2.5 year old, but I think building towards something instead of just a one off thing was helpful. By the end of the two weeks, I think it had become a habit of staying in bed and she had exercised that will power. She will still occasionally come into our room but it’s rare. </p> <p>So basically up your bribes. I mean, “rewards” :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861232 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 08:58:40 +0000 Becky 2861232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: Rewards might work. I also didn't mention that she still uses a pacifier. I'm terrified to wean her. I thought we could use that as a tool at night ("You only get your pacifier in your bed") but she's usually half asleep and doesn't care if she has it. I might try "no TV show in the morning." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861229 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 08:54:51 +0000 ALV91711 2861229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through this with DS1. For a while DH would walk him back to his room which sometimes worked. But then we just ride it out. It made our bed cramped but at least we all slept. I don’t remember show long it lasted but he did eventually stop waking up. </p> <p>Could you maybe try a sticker chart if she stays in her own bed all night? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861224 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 08:33:10 +0000 gotkimchi 2861224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2.5yo is having the same problems! I figured it’s jaut a phase ... I know that’s not helpful but I’m just surviving it lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861223 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 08:32:01 +0000 Becky 2861223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2.5 year old has never been a great sleeper. For the past several weeks it has really escalated and she tries to come into our bed multiple times every night. Once she's there she sleeps fairly well, but co-sleeping isn't a good fit for us because I have to be up before 5am most mornings, and 5:45am at the latest to be able to do chores and exercise before work. If I make her go back into her bed she sometimes falls asleep immediately, and other times wants me to tickle her back (helps her fall asleep). She always comes back into our room though. The last 2 nights I slept downstairs so my husband could try to tackle it (she prefers me) but he is terrible at night and ended up letting her sleep in the bed. CIO isn't a great option because she shares a room with her sister (5 y/o). We could separate them but I don't know if that's the right solution as it seems like most of this stems from being lonely (also, I have to do bedtime solo every night and also all the laundry so having them share a room is immensely helpful).</p> <p>I'm at my whits and end looking for any advice. Our doctor suggested melatonin, but I've read it doesn't help kids stay asleep (which is our problem--staying asleep). Any suggestions are greatly appreciated! </p>