https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 05 Jun 2026 10:34:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015477 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 15:38:36 +0000 Mama Bird 2015477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there! Going through something similar here - major language explosion, and absolutely crazy-making sleep problems. DS isn't upset, but it can take an hour and change to get him to fall asleep. If we sing, he starts to sing along, if we try a bedtime story he jumps up and insists he'll tell it himself :happy: It's kind of cute, but he always has trouble getting out of bed on time in the morning. Yesterday DH took him up and down several flights of stairs in desperation... that finally got him tired enough to sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015445 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 15:31:22 +0000 Chuckles 2015445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Commiseration here, too. Our 18 month old is getting both molars and both canines on top at the same time. We give him motrin before bed but he wakes up in the middle of the night once it wears off. And then once he's up, he alternates being crabby and thinking it's time to play. Last night I got a 4:30 am request for play dough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015416 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 15:15:58 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2015416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: hahaha, it's always a hoot when DH gets kicked in the face. :silly: jk!! i love the guy, but it constantly amazes me the things he can sleep through!</p> <p>toddler sleep is the worst. hang in there, mama - you'll get through it. don't know when, but you will! or at least... you'll just get used to it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015409 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 15:12:49 +0000 Foodnerd81 2015409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: yeah bringing her into our bed was a total fail. Only Dh still managed to fall asleep while she was still flailing about, making me even more ragey. Then she started kicking his face and I might have felt a teeny bit better. </p> <p>And yes. Coffee. Thank god for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015397 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 15:08:30 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2015397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in toddler regression hell right now. J is 22 months and has never had sleep issues (I guess I should be thankful - knock on wood!!)... but these last couple weeks have been a doozy. He used to go down easily, but these days he'll stand in his crib and jump and shake the rails! He does eventually fall asleep bc we'll let him CIO. If we go in it makes it 10x worse, and he gets even more wound up and takes even longer to go down.</p> <p>Then, he'll wake up screaming sometime in the middle of the night. So we'll go to him and we're too tired to sit there and rock this huge 30+ pound toddler... so we pull him into bed with us, where he hasn't mastered the art of quietly sleeping so we're all tossing and turning all night. Coffee is my best friend these days. The only thing getting me through this is having gone through it before with my first. I'm just trying to survive these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015345 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 14:51:06 +0000 edelweiss 2015345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hugs, it is exhausting. we went through a bad sleep period around 20 months. after several nights of doing things we don't want to (sleeping on the floor next to LO or actually in LO's bed), i tried a new tactic. i sat in the room with him, and every time he got out of bed i put him back in, but otherwise didn't interact with him. after about 1 hour, i decided he was okay and left while he was still awake (he was refusing to fall asleep). he screamed and it was awful, but it lasted 30 minutes and he went to bed. the next night i did something similar. so basically we did CIO.</p> <p>during that period he was also waking up around 10 or midnight crying. CIO did not work for those--i'd go in, comfort him, sing to him and put him down again. sometimes we'd read a book to calm him down.</p> <p>it was overall rough. you will get through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015303 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 14:25:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 2015303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: yeah that sounds just like us. We let her cry last night at bedtime but then she woke up two hours later crying even harder. </p> <p>I actually used the nightlight at nap time today (the irony- two layers of total blackout curtains and now I need a nightlight during the day) and she went to sleep without too much fuss. Only slept an hour but at least she wasn't screaming. Going to keep the nightlight tonight. Was your Lo waking up a lot or just screaming for initial falling asleep? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015286 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 14:13:57 +0000 Anagram 2015286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: we went through this recently with LO...she'd been sick and then we traveled for 2 weeks so she was very off and started screaming her head off as soon as we put her in the crib.</p> <p>We just let her cry. Last night was night 4 and she only cried about 3 minutes before going to sleep. When I say "Cry", I mean that she stands facing the door and literally screams her little head off hysterically. It was really hard the first night, because it went on for about 35 minutes (we did checks at 5,10, and 15 min) but each night has been better.</p> <p>She also does the whole clinging-to-us when we go in. She literally tries to jump into our arms and won't lay down. So we just pat her head, say I love you and Nite Nite and then leave her standing and screaming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015185 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 13:05:36 +0000 tinyperson 2015185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been dealing with some sleep issues as well. LO just turned 2, and we're just getting back into a routine after being away from daycare since Dec 17. I think it's that plus a couple of teeth coming in. </p> <p>She used to get pjs, teeth brushed, story, cuddle with me, then into bed no problem. Now she doesn't want to cuddle, she just wants to sit and laugh and read more stories etc. or points out the door to go downstairs. Last night, she woke up at 1 screaming for me and I rocked her and put her down again (awake, but calmed down), and she was up 10 minutes later doing the same thing. I didn't get her out that time, but told her to lay down and sat in the rocker for a few minutes. When I went to leave, she popped her head up and screamed again. I decided to just sleep on the floor in her room, and that did the trick. I went back to my bed around 3. Could be separation anxiety (she's been clingy with me lately -- I see her less than DH does), teething, and change of routine. Hope it gets better soon for all of us!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2015143 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 12:50:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 2015143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: we are kind of opposite. She is a dream up until it's time to get in bed. She snuggles up for stories, pjs are no problem... Then I sing the bedtime song and all hell breaks loose. </p> <p>And she never took a pacifier. I tried like hell early on and she just refused. Instead she uses me as a paci. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014903 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 10:37:50 +0000 .twist. 2014903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are going through something similar. His very nice and easy bedtime routine has turned into a fight of getting clothes off, bath, pj's on! Once he's down he might protest but he's usually ok. Although he's been waking up a lot during the night and I have made the stupid mistake of going in and finding all his soothers on the floor and giving them back. Now he kind of expects it and if we don't he just starts crying until we do. I am HATING soothers right now. *sigh* </p> <p>He's also getting up earlier... like 5:30/5:45. UGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014891 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 10:33:00 +0000 SproutBee 2014891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 16 mo has been similar the last week. Used to go down for naps and night alone, now screams "MAMA MAMA!" if we leave but settles as soon as we come back. I've discovered that all he needs is to hold my hand, so I sit next to his crib and put my hand between the slots and hold his until he's asleep. Might be worth a try. The first couple times I had to tell him to lay down, it's night night time, and rub his back, but now he knows and is ok as long as I stay to hold his hand. He's also been waking up earlier requesting "mama mama". I toss it all up to more separation anxiety that he's been showing during the day, too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014793 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 09:37:14 +0000 looch 2014793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that worked for us at this age was to ditch the crib. It was clear it was the problem (he tried to jump out, he would put himself to bed on his futon). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014790 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 09:35:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 2014790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: she starts the freak out as soon as we go to put her in the crib. Then she stands in the crib and clings to us if we try to sooth her like that. So I can't see her settling like that although we haven't actually tried it for long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014776 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 09:27:07 +0000 Smurfette 2014776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Boo!</p> <p>What if you try putting her in the crib and then sitting by the crib till she falls asleep? Then every night, move a little farther away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014762 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 09:17:48 +0000 Foodnerd81 2014762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: @Smurfette: tried the nightlight. Fail. Tried having her sleep in our bed- not great at all but she eventually fell asleep but woke up at four. Eventually went into her room and slept in the bed in her room with her, nursed to sleep, and she slept a few hours. Ugh. This can't last two weeks or a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014541 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 22:52:01 +0000 Kemma 2014541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: @Foodnerd81: yes to the suggestion of a night light, I definitely think it helped A with her sleep! I also did the "I'm just going to the loo / kitchen / talk to Dad" thing and it worked pretty well too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014507 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 22:19:29 +0000 Foodnerd81 2014507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: even when she seems to be sleeping in the crib after DH pats her for a long time, the minute he leaves the room she freaks out again. :( I'm still nursing, so on one hand in glad I have that to fall back on, but on the other hand there are only so many hours of the day and night that I want to be attached to her. </p> <p>Update: Dh is in there soothing her after she woke up at ten. After not falling asleep until after 8. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014503 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 22:12:39 +0000 Ra 2014503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are going through something similar. I've had to nap with B every day for two weeks now. At night, I have to rock him until he is OUT and then put him in the crib. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014498 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 21:59:29 +0000 Foodnerd81 2014498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I haven't tried that but I just bought one. Will try it and see if it helps. Although she freaks out before we even turn off the light. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014456 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 21:20:38 +0000 Smurfette 2014456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried a night light? R kept wanting thr light in the hallway on and door opened. Then would freak when we went to sleep and turned the light off. It really helped her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014422 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:53:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 2014422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: she's definitely having a language explosion so lots of that development stuff going on. And maybe a little clinger but not that much. She's never had major separation anxiety. She's pretty good with playing independently as long as she's in the mood. i don't know... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014407 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:44:15 +0000 Kemma 2014407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the sleep regression at this age can tie in with separation anxiety and increased independence, have you noticed any change in behaviour during the day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-regression-talk-to-me#post-2014357 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:01:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 2014357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we are in the midst of the 18 month / toddler sleep regression. Between sicknesses (cold, cough, ear infection), and travel for the holidays, sleep has been pretty bad with our 17 month old. When she was sick of course we soothed her, and if go in and nurse her in the MOTN, (she had been STTN since 9 months old), but even after nursing she wouldn't go back to sleep. So sometimes Dh or I would sleep in the bed in her room with her (not ideal). </p> <p>After all this, we are now at a point where she screams as soon as we put her down in the crib at night or for naps. She seems to feel fine, because she is perfectly happy up until that moment. So... I'm guessing she is just pissed because she doesn't want us to leave? And again in the MOTN, she starts screaming, one of us goes in and soothes her, she's perfectly happy, then we try to put her in the crib and she screams. It's exhausting. Oh and if I go in she only wants to nurse, forever. </p> <p>What did the 18 month or toddler sleep regression look like for you? Tips to get through it? We are ok with CIO, especially since she won't fall asleep with us soothing her so it's inevitable that there will be some tears. </p> <p>She was sleeping so well before this. Did our little bedtime routine, said goodnight, she would actually reach for her crib and go right to sleep. Now we are at the worst sleep place in over a year probably. </p>