https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 19:22:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-tantrums-what-sets-them-off-and-methods-to-overcome#post-685937 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 07:27:43 +0000 T.H.O.U. 685937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Marriage Confessions just wrote a great post about dealing with Spirited Children.</p> <p><a href="http://marriageconfessions.com/2013/04/02/my-spirited-child/" rel="nofollow">http://marriageconfessions.com/2013/04/02/my-spirited-child/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-tantrums-what-sets-them-off-and-methods-to-overcome#post-685929 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 07:17:27 +0000 looch 685929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 27 months, so I will be following along for advice. On some days he's great, on others he's a mad man. No idea what triggers it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-tantrums-what-sets-them-off-and-methods-to-overcome#post-685868 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 06:22:13 +0000 honeybear 685868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Those molars are the worst, right? LO had no issues with any other teeth, but these are awful! Anyhow, I can sympathize with you and your LO. The thing that sets off my LO is not enough attention/waiting to go do something. He's got a good grasp of 'order' so I frequently tell him what we're doing and when, but the transitions are sometimes rough. "We will go to the park after I put away the dishes" usually works for a minute or two, but if the phone rings too, he might start tackling my legs or throwing shoes at me. The issue is waiting, he just doesn't redirect himself after having been directed. I mostly try to minimize the waiting periods but sometimes they're unavoidable. ;) Also, sometimes he'll be antsy if he hasn't gotten enough exercise. He needs a LOT of exercise! We go to the playground, the beach, the pool, the baseball field, etc. all the time, and he can 'run' for hours. If we have a less vigorous day, there are more shoe-throwing incidents (really problematic because he has excellent aim...). If we have to be inside, we do throw soft balls or horseplay. It's kind of embarrassing, because I'm not an aggressive person, let alone physically aggressive, but I think at some level, having LO know that I can 'tackle' him (gently!) and 'dominate' (again, gently! But while yelling a few war whoops...because it's fun) helps with behavior. Or maybe we watch too many nature documentaries. ;) I've found that 'tackling' him when he's throwing a fit usually stops the problem and makes him laugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-tantrums-what-sets-them-off-and-methods-to-overcome#post-685795 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 00:53:00 +0000 VanillaBean 685795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here is a great article that might help you identify and understand his behavior more. This will help you be proactive in preparing for what his behavior is, instead of responding/reacting to it which can make the situation worst. </p> <p><a href="http://nspt4kids.com/therapy/what-are-functional-assessments-and-the-four-main-functions-of-behavior/" rel="nofollow">http://nspt4kids.com/therapy/what-are-functional-assessments-and-the-four-main-functions-of-behavior/</a></p> <p>Also, as you have noted yourself, he is 2. At this age, he is still learning how to self-regulate and will need your help with controlling his emotions. </p> <p>I used to work with this age group and what helped a lot is to give them positive attention whenever possible (catch them being good) and compliment them on the things they are doing (i like how you help put your toys away), not for being a good "boy." This age group requires a lot of redirection so if he is upset for not having his way, you can redirect him by saying something a long the line "we can come back to what you want, but let's do this now" while sounding very enthusiastic. </p> <p>Good luck and I know you will figure your lo out in no time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-tantrums-what-sets-them-off-and-methods-to-overcome#post-685640 Tue, 02 Apr 2013 21:11:34 +0000 Raindrop 685640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea if this works since LO is just over one and hasn't had any tantrums yet but we tend to over perpare and I have recently read happiest toddler on the block. :) It's by the people that did happiest baby on the block. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-tantrums-what-sets-them-off-and-methods-to-overcome#post-685628 Tue, 02 Apr 2013 21:04:03 +0000 iheartleopardprint 685628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is a pretty good kid, he has great manners and is very loving towards others. BUT he is also great at throwing tantrums and having meltdowns! He is 2 years 7 months and sometimes the littlest things sets him off, and it is always when he doesnt get his own way. </p> <p>I have noticed that as he has a lot of energy, if he is fed a lot (every 2 hours or so) he is much more reasonable and if I keep him in a routine (albeit a lose one) the tantrums are less and less. </p> <p>When he does have a melt down because he isn't getting his own way it is MAJOR! He throws things, chucks himself on the ground, etc. I have tried different methods to deal with these, but the same method doesn't always work so it's a bit of a guessing game. After a tantrum he will always pick up his mess and says sorry and want cuddles.</p> <p>How do you deal with meltdowns? How do you reason with a little person who is being completely unreasonable? </p> <p>He still is yet to cut his 2 year old molars, they are very swollen and he will tell me if it hurts or not, so I know some days that can contribute as well as the fact that he is 2!</p> <p>Tell me I'm not alone! </p>