https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 13:13:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1939949 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:31:53 +0000 mrbee 1939949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@enjollah: So glad to hear everyone is sleeping better!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1939917 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:04:11 +0000 enjollah 1939917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: just a quick update... Did the cio method last night and was finally successful after moving the baby gate to the door of his room. He doesn't have a working lock on his door so we couldn't lock the door. He only cried for 15 mins... DH and I smiled peacefully to sleep. thanks for all the support and input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1938616 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 23:41:08 +0000 mrbee 1938616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@enjollah: We've been talking things through with our daughter lately... but with our son, we did more of a CIO approach:</p> <p>http::/www.hellobee.com/2012/07/17/how-to-avoid-sleeping-next-to-your-child-until-they-fall-asleep/</p> <p>The big talking point is just emphasizing that they're safe in the room, and that their job is to stay in the room until the sun is up. Nowadays our daughter peeks out the shades every morning to seeing it's time to come out of her room yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1938615 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 23:33:25 +0000 enjollah 1938615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kimbed: that sounds like what's been going on here! Hubs and I went on a week long anniversary trip and the sleep issues came up once we came back. We assumed there would be behaviors but not sleep regression issues. There was an increase in separation anxiety, sudden knowledge of "dark, monsters, and scary", and needing night lights and the door open at bedtime. Its been tiring but a learning process at the same time. </p> <p>@mrbee: I've been reading all I can about sleep and the 2-3 regression. I think our problem is keeping LO in his bed. We've tried giving him comfort items ("friends", night light, music, etc) but not all at once. We've sat in the room with him but eventually we leave and when he wakes and realizes, he comes crying for us or into our bed. What types of things do you talk about when you talk it out? We've asked and reassured him about what is scary, etc. When they constantly cry and say it's scary, would you say it's more a behavior/avoiding sleep type of behavior or would you address the reassurance/security aspect of it? I know each kid is different and you don't know the full details of what's been going on in our household but I thought I'd ask anyway. :) thanks for any input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1938605 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 23:16:01 +0000 kimbed 1938605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Good to know. Seems like we just need to adopt the "this too shall pass" mentality and enjoy the extra snuggles. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1938488 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 21:49:23 +0000 mrbee 1938488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kimbed: It's very common for 2-3 years old to have a huge sleep regression around that age, and to beg to co-sleep!</p> <p>The only way I know to deal with it is to talk it through with your LO, and then CIO until they stop asking to co-sleep. Or to just accept that you'll be co-sleeping for a while! That works too... it's a phase and won't last forever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1938485 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 21:47:37 +0000 kimbed 1938485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@enjollah: It's been hit or miss. He has stayed down through the night a few times and stayed in his room, but he's still has his nights where he'll wake and beg to come into our bed. We just came back from a 5 day trip where he slept in our bed every single night so I fear we're probably back at square one. As I type he's been fighting going down for about and hour and insisting on keeping his bedroom door open. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1937088 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 00:22:47 +0000 enjollah 1937088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kimbed: hey how's it been going? My LO is almost 3 and for the past month has been having very similar sleep issues as your LO. I've been searching the boards for some tips and advice...any improvement in your LO's sleep? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924850 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 19:55:41 +0000 Mrs. D 1924850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daughter is having trouble staying in her bed too, although we haven't transitioned her out of her crib yet. I tend to stay in her room on the floor beside her bed until she passes out. I know it's just a fix, but for now we are all sleeping, and for that I'm glad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924432 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 13:29:20 +0000 edelweiss 1924432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO has been having issues since we switched him to a toddler bed. he's had a hard time falling asleep and wakes up around 2 or 3am. the first few nights we slept in the room with him, or if it was a MOTN wakeup, brought him into the room with us. however we are not comfortable with cosleeping, so we sleep trained. for a couple of night i sat in his room with him after bedtime and put him back in bed every time he got out. then we had to do some CIO. it has not been easy. i wish i were a cosleeping kind of gal, but i'm just not! i get so anxious about LO waking up. plus we already sleep with our 2 dogs.</p> <p>anyway, if you are okay with cosleeping, i totally understand you just going with it because you already have a lot on your plate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924415 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 13:19:23 +0000 kimbed 1924415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: Thanks! Very helpful post and it's nice to know I'm not alone. The tips from Mrs. Bee are so great, too! DH actually likes having him in our bed, but he can sleep through anything. I don't hate it, but just feel like all sleep better without everyone in the same room. Maybe we can downsize to a one bedroom? :wink: </p> <p>I do think he may just be feeling left out, but it sounds like we just need to wait it out and see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924219 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 12:07:44 +0000 stiletto_mom 1924219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he is feeling left out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924190 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 11:57:01 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1924190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kimbed: No advice but we went through exactly what you went through! I wrote about it here - <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2014/10/13/how-toddler-sleep-rocked-our-world/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2014/10/13/how-toddler-sleep-rocked-our-world/</a></p> <p>Basically, we just stopped fighting it. It's funny bc shortly after I wrote this post she stopped coming to our bed at all! Now it's more like a once a week affair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924176 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 11:46:55 +0000 babynumber1 1924176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We made a temporarily bed on the floor then slowly transitioned back to sleeping in her room. We had to put a door knob cover on her door to keep her from coming out. There were a few nights of tantrums, but she finally got it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1924030 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 10:14:04 +0000 kimbed 1924030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the suggestions @babyboecksmom and @kemma! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1923165 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 17:14:51 +0000 Kemma 1923165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you make up a temporary bed in your room so he can be in the room but not on your bed? Or camping in with your LO in their room might be an option in the interim? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1923072 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 16:03:17 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1923072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh! Mrs. Jump Rope wrote a post on this exact thing - it helped us out SO much. Let me see if I can find it.</p> <p>ETA: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2014/08/29/getting-our-toddler-to-go-to-sleep/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2014/08/29/getting-our-toddler-to-go-to-sleep/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-waking-nightly-and-refusing-to-sleep-in-own-bed#post-1923038 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 15:49:24 +0000 kimbed 1923038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help! My awesome sleeper has been waking and refusing to fall back asleep in his own bed. </p> <p>DS is 3 years old and has not fully transitioned out of his crib. He will sometimes sleep in his big boy bed, but 8 times out of 10 prefers the crib. He has always been a great sleeper and never much into co-sleeping (only when sick) but a few nights ago he woke up and my DH went to check on him. DS asked for me so DH brought him into our bed. Well…every night since he has woken up in the middle of the night and been inconsolable until we bring him into our bed. At first I tried to fight it, but now it’s just easier to give in and I fear that we are starting a bad habit. Most LO’s transition out of co-sleeping at this age, whereas mine is regressing backwards!</p> <p>Part of me hopes it’s just a phase. DD is 4 months old and sleeps in our room still so maybe he’s feeling left out? Sibling anxiety? The problem with them both being in the room is if I ever have to feed DD in the middle of the night it usually wakes him. But then if he’s screaming he wakes up the whole house. </p> <p>Anyone experience this or have any tips on how to try to convince a three year old in the middle of the night to fall back to sleep in his own bed?? :happy:  </p>