https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 09:43:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741672 Tue, 30 May 2017 10:47:59 +0000 Dahlia 2741672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD didn't hit, but she threw AWFUL tantrums around 16 months. They went away a few weeks later when she got much more verbal. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741643 Tue, 30 May 2017 10:08:55 +0000 babynumber1 2741643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: This was us 2 months ago. All the sudden she was a terror, not sleeping through the night, etc. Then she starts talking away one day and can tell us what she wants. Instead of fling a fit at the fridge, she is able to say yogurt. Craziest thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741603 Tue, 30 May 2017 09:17:18 +0000 Anagram 2741603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: lately, I've been trying (with some moderate success) that "unruffled"/Janey Lansbury method of just not reacting when my kiddo has a huge tantrum or hurts me in some way. TBH, I think before I would OVERreact--like if she hit me in the face, yes it hurts a little but she is a toddler after all, but I would scream and jump as if an adult man hit me in the face--thinking that would "teach her" that hitting hurts. But it seems she was seeking a reaction of any kind--positive or negative, so my overblown reactions were kind of fueling the fire.</p> <p>I should also note that I read a lot of gentle parenting stuff, so that's my angle---but I found that when I started totally not reacting to the negative behavior, and at the same time really positively reacting to her good behavior, and also trying to "fill her tank" with a lot of cuddles, loves, 1-on-1 time when I'm not doing other things and just hanging with her, she improved.</p> <p>Her tantrums have pretty radically decreased lately. So it could just be developmental and timing, or it could be that some of the things I've been doing are working. Either way, it's great, because compared to LO1, LO2 is extremely emotional and physical and tantrummy in general. Like her first enormous tantrums were as young as 10 months and she'll be 2 in August. So it's been over a year of that kind of behavior....but it's tapered off a lot recently.</p> <p>So there's hope for you! It could just be a couple more months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741602 Tue, 30 May 2017 09:15:31 +0000 babycanuck 2741602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you to everyone for your replies. I'm glad to know it's normal and I will just continue being as consistent as possible!! I think between the 18 month sleep regression, not being able to express himself, a supposed speech leap in the next few months and just learning to walk in the last 4 weeks, the little guy has a lot going on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741600 Tue, 30 May 2017 09:07:33 +0000 gingerbebe 2741600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally normal at that age. You're not failing. But this is where being consistent pays off when they get to the other side of this stage. We noticed a big improvement closer to 2, another rough patch after 2, and now at 33 months he's great, although we're waiting on the next regression. No matter what tho we are just consistent about behavior and manners and sleep.</p> <p>Our son only had two signs - more and all done. We just used them alllll the time and asked him if he wanted more or if he was all done. Eventually he got it after months of him being a jerk or screaming or ignoring. We also made him say please and thank you and put his hands together and say amen before meals. We used to motivate him with things he wanted like certain snacks and foods and he got all of those things really fast. We also did timeouts in the highchair or let him have his wailing fits in the high chair if he hit or kicked us and it was a loooong few months. Just be consistent. He was always worse for me bc I was the one he could depend on to be there through the jerkish behavior so he was always a psycho for me. </p> <p>It will pass - hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741583 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:52:57 +0000 cascademom 2741583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My not terribly verbal 2 year old finds hitting funny. We're starting time outs and counting. He gets upset and throws a tantrum, so we know that he's in trouble. He definitely gets frustrated because he doesn't have the language to express it. We do signs and speech therapy with him. Our speech therapist said that he'll use signs as expressive language until talking becomes more comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741578 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:47:16 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2741578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 19 month old went through something similar. She also isn't very verbal yet. She definitely saves her worst behavior for me! Someone once told me that means I'm her safe place. I try to remember that when I'm close to losing it. DD's thing is pulling hair when she's mad. I tried a few things (time out, talking to her) but what works is for me to remove myself from her immediate area until she's done with her tantrum. Then I go back to her for hugs and reassurance. When I'm not in her line of sight the time of her fit is significantly less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741577 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:47:14 +0000 looch 2741577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: My son did the same thing, he was hitting me constantly at that age, particularly when he wasn't getting his way.</p> <p>It was also around the time when he decided that he no longer wanted to be in his crib, so we switched him to a low futon for sleeping and it worked wonders. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741574 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:45:17 +0000 Banana330 2741574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's a sleep regression around 18 months (give or take). My DD started spending up to an hour awake, sometimes it was crying but we started leaving a few board books and stuffies in her crib and she happily will play. She's tired and she needs to sleep but is going through a mental leap of sorts. It's finally getting better. I've also found she shows no other sign of being tired other than meltdown central. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741573 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:43:31 +0000 babycanuck 2741573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I have tried, and he ends up either hitting us or hitting himself :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741570 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:39:58 +0000 looch 2741570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about introducing some signs to help him express himself? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddlers-behaviour-and-speech#post-2741565 Tue, 30 May 2017 08:31:26 +0000 babycanuck 2741565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my little is 19 months old.</p> <p>He was a late crawler, walker, not that I care. He talks, but I noticed he doesn't talk as much as some of the others around his age. I'm not overly concerned at this point, as my doctor has stated he's fine.</p> <p>In saying this, because he of course can't verbalize some things yet, I'm really struggling with his behaviour. When he's frustrated, he's hitting me and scratching at me. Daycare said he's also starting to do it at daycare, which is not okay. I have tried everything to deflect/stop him: Redirect his attention, time outs, speaking to him calmly, passing him to his father when I'm losing my patience...and he's worse with me. Bedtime when I put him down he freaks out, crying for 40 minutes (even though we've sleep trained him, he will only lay down and go to bed if I sit in his room), DH puts him down and he just goes to sleep.</p> <p>I feel like I'm failing majorly. I don't know what I can do to help get through this, if it's just a phase or not, if it's normal. I know kids will test parents, I am just lost. </p>