Hellobee Boards Topic: Too far, Too close...

Hellobee Boards Topic: Too far, Too close... https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 10:11:40 +0000 mrs scrapbook on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1878014 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 19:36:35 +0000 mrs scrapbook 1878014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm just wondering how this is working out for you since this post. We just found out that we are moving back "home". But its really a three hour drive away. It just feels like home since much much closer than we are now (1400 miles away...) Anyway, I had remembered reading your post about being too close/too far and I was wondering how it worked out for you and if you've tried any of the suggestions the ladies had. I am a little nervous we are going to be in the same situation! ETA: @AmandaB8: hotchildinthecity on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821959 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:29:20 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1821959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Smurfette: i'm a big proponent of saying that its the same distance both ways. My in laws NEVER visit (like once every two years). And now we visit them less and less.?( cmomma17 on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821950 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:24:51 +0000 cmomma17 1821950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Maybe set a limit, like one trip per month? Twice a month? Every other month? Whatever is right for your family. And then just stick to it! looch on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821941 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:23:28 +0000 looch 1821941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It's okay to say no to invitations, you have to do what works for your family. Having said that though, I was far away and loved being home because it meant an extra few sets of hands, so I liked to go for as long as possible. It helped that we had our own bedroom and a place for our son to sleep, so we didn't have to bring too much gear back and forth. And, it could be temporary, as your baby gets older, it could be less and less of a pain to move them around. Smurfette on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821939 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:22:18 +0000 Smurfette 1821939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We live 4 hours from the ILs and we just told them we will not be coming to visit as much as we did. We can't go Friday after work like we used to do. They want to see LO they can come up. They haven't come up since March, when they came for her bday. hotchildinthecity on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821935 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:20:33 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1821935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have the same situation. Its just all about putting your foot down and just saying you're not coming to everything. Our families spent years thinking we'd move back "home." We have no intention to. And you know what? I dont want to go to my second cousin's baby shower. I have things i enjoy doing in my own city on the weekends. Just set boundaries and say no. They'll whine at first but then they'll get over it and get super excited for when you DO visit. yellowbird on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821930 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:18:59 +0000 yellowbird 1821930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We just stopped going to everything. It's too hard to cart all the stuff around, but when we do go visit dh and I decide beforehand what time we will leave on Sunday so there is no argument. AmandaB8 on "Too far, Too close..." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/too-far-too-close#post-1821924 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:17:04 +0000 AmandaB8 1821924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So. Our familes live 3 hours away from us. We love being 3 hours away - it's far enough that they can't drop in on us and we have our own lives. We have jobs, a house, and friends here. But. We're also too close. They expect us to come home for EVERYTHING - every birthday, every sibling milestone, everything. And we have big families. And close families - all of our aunts/uncles live in the same city also. We were just home for DH's birthday, and DD screamed for the last hour of the trip - she was tired, cranky, and just wanted to be home. We could leave more in line with her bedtime, but then DH and I only get 5ish hours of sleep before work the next day. Any idea what the best way to tell our families that we're not coming home as much anymore? Or the best way to decide when we ACTUALLY go home? Ugh. I wish we could move back there, but it's not in the cards right now. And frankly, we love the city we're in.